Trying to put my life back together again...help!!?

For a 13-year old, you are a pretty smart girl. You will become successful in literature, for sure. About your situation, take it from someone who has already been there (that is me! hehe): ALL the things that you are going through right now are all temporary. They are not going to last forever. All you have to do is to last about 5 more years. It may sound like whole a lot of time right now, but the time goes fast, you will see. You will have your own life that you will free to live the way you want, for the rest of your life, and some day you will have your own family. And your children will never have to go through what you went through in your childhood. For now, try to prepare yourself for your soon to be release and for your new life. These preparations is a hard work, but they also can distract you from your problems. Try to get the good grades in school right now because this is what will get you through college, and the college degree means a good job, and therefore a nice apartment to rent. As soon as you get these three things: a degree, a job, and an apartment, you are free. Few more years, and you will be there. Try to concentrate yourself on that right now, and slowly but surely go towards these goals. Your biggest asset is that you are smart. Very few people out there are as smart as you are. You will have a successful job and a very nice home of your own some day for sure. Just try to overcome these last five years, and then everything will be great. The flashbacks will take more time to overcome, but you will. Time treats everything. Take a good care of yourself. Good Luck to you.

you are a very smart and impressive young girl, and i am so sorry you have to live in this horrible situation. just remember you deserve better, and let the police know as well if you are being hurt. what your mom is doing to you is absolutely not o.k. and she deserves to pay the consequences. protect your siblings and try calling the national runaway hotline (im NOT suggesting you runaway-that wont help- you can call this hotline for anything that may be bothering you for help) to speak with someone that can give you some options. the number is 800-621-4000 and i promise you, we do not judge anyone who calls in for any reason. good luck honey.

Youre quite an impressive young lady. You need someone to talk to and not on here. You say youre involved with your religion which is awesome, but they must have family counselors that can help you in person. They are well trained to help young adults with adult problems and Im sure they can help you with all your challenges. I cant tell you why God is putting you and your sister and brother thru all this but I do know God never gives us more than we can handle, so keep your faith and prayers going and Im positive God is here and things will turn around shortly. Good luck

hello, it sounds like you have gone through a lot. Have you tried talking to someone at school, like a guidance counselor or a teacher about how your problems? They can help you I know a lot of young women that have had to do the same thing when I was in highschool Maybe you should try talking to someone about your depression that you know and trust. You sound like a very mature and bright young lady. Just keep moving forward with your life and stay strong. Good luck to you.

well sweetie it sounds like your going threw a tough time here...

as for your parents getting divorced thats there problems k..yes ur going to be caught in the middle but just make sure u dont blame urself k.

and as for the custody battle thats just something parents do in a divorce... cause they both want u and probably dont want to share you with the other parent..

and if ur mom abuses you.. you should really tell somebody... if u check online there is a ton of places you can call...

and as for school... stay in school..its going to suck and your going to hate it but you half to go and finish k.. cause if you dont u will really regret it... i am 16 and my desisions i made when i was in school got me here sitting at the computer all day cause i cant get a job because i cant get a work permit and it hard for me to get in to school cause of my mistakes i made...so stay in school k sweetie...

and the boyfriend thing...

if u dont feel you should have a boyfriend right now then leave him.. but if hes helping you and making you stronger then u should stick with him it could help you out..

i cant really say anything else except keep your head up and be strong for yourself and for your younger sibling k...

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Sarah, like you said you are 13 your body is going thru hormonal cycle. You are very grown up for your age. Don't worry too much about your parents, worry about yourself. All this 'shall pass'.

You are becoming a 'young woman', you should try to be happy, find friends that help you smile. Take care of yourselve, do your nails, your hair, write in your diary, text your friends, love your siblings. As far as boyfriends, don't have a 'steady' one, wait a while to date. Read good books, find a musical instrument, like a guitar and learn how to play and sing away your troubles.

Be happy. Make others around you happy.

Divorce is always hard when there are children involved. If your parents are getting divorced, there should be a guardian ad litem on the case. If there is so much emotional abuse, tell the gal and she will act in your best interests. Good luck.

i always advice others to work out when everything else seem out of whack. the same for you dear: find some sport u like & stick with it. cheapest ones: rope skipping, playing tennis, swimming, biking, walking, running, weight-resistance, etc.

exercise/work-out not only helping your body in shape, it also helps you gain power, focus and remain positive in many ways. u can't change the world 'round u - but u can focus on yourself or on what really is matter for your overall well being.

good luck!

Is there a guidance counselor at your school? A teacher you trust? Your principal? A clergy person, perhaps?

I think you need to take what you have written here, and show it to a trusted adult. Show it to adults you trust, and keep showing it to the adults, until one of those adults gets you the help and assistance you need.

Good luck to you, Little Cinderella. You will be in my thoughts and prayers.

Sweetie,Thats a really tough deal! Have you spoken to your pastor about whats goin on with your situation?Hopefully he or she can help you cope with whats goin on........Just keep praying and as far as the boyfriend thing is concerned....dont try to find something from someone when you have the strength in your own heart!You will be in my prayers1 God bless and good luck hunny!!!!!!!C.