Please Help!! How do I tell my mom...?

She will respect you for your maturity if you say it calmly, and don't collapse into a pile of mush and tears - no matter how she acts. I would tell her there is something you need to talk to her about. Keep it brief. As another poster mentioned, make sure you let her know you are winning or have won the battle. If she starts to get upset, remind her that it took a lot of courage for you to talk to her about it. Wouldn't she really rather that you don't hide serious stuff from her like this? I would not talk about it in too much detail. Let her know that you are willing to have a longer talk about it later. Just blowing it all off your chest is not the way to handle this. Give her time to make the mental adjustment before you go into a long drawn out conversation about it. And if you can, let her know that this could be the beginning of a strengthening of your relationship with her.

It's hard for parents and teens to talk to each other when you're at that age, but Jenn from what I have seen of you so far you are a very very bright, caring and mature teenager. You have your feet on solid ground more than some adults. Tell yourself you are going to treat her with respect on an equal level. This means you are not going to blow a gasket or let her blow one on you. Calm and in control. At the same time, try to be a bit sensitive to her feelings. It's not an occasion to turn it into a "blame game" for either of you to rant about how your relationship is not perfect.

If you can achieve this balance you will have accomplished far more than your Campus Way leaders could ever have imagined. Best to you. let us know how it turns out please.

I am so sorry for your problem, and I wish I could help you right now. You definitely made a good choice to tell your mom yourself rather than the Campus Way leaders.

If I were you I would start with "Hi mom," or something friendly. If she gives you a strange look as she replies just ignore it. Let her reply and then continue politely and friendly.

Then ask her if you can ask her a question. (Sorry if that sounds confusing!) She will probably respond with yes. Try asking her "Have you ever been addcited to something?" sweetly and try to sound curious. If she responds "yes" then ask her to tell you about it. If she responds "no" then congratulate her. Now here's the hard part. It will be easier if she's been addicted but just keep going if she says "no".

Try to begin with some light but may worry her like "Mom, I've been dealing with something lately that I need your help with". She'll probably be curious now. now this is your part to shine. Start from the beginning and tell her everything you told the Campus Way leaders. Just let it flow and get it over with. Be loving and be kind if she interrupts you.

Timing is crucial in making sure your talk goes well. Pick a time in privacy when she isn't doing anything that may be important to her or occupy her attention. also, pick a time when you know you will have lots of time to talk with her. This will allow it to go smoothly and really help you to share your feelings.

Good luck! :)

Set her down and try to stay come!

Say mum i need to talk to you about something really important that you need to know about, tell her about the addiction and tell her you have stopped or are trying to!

If she yells at you don't yell back let her talk, she might be disappointed but its just because your her daughter and she worries about you!

Good Luck honey!

Jess

Explain that you had an addiction but you have fought the battle against it and YOU ARE WINNING!!!. Tell her how much you would appreciate her love and support on this continued fight and how much you really need her right now to be there for you.

Tell her when shes most relaxed or write in in a note. try not to justify your actions but do state why. I had a similar issue at one point and wish you the best of luck.

I would reiterate what Zelda Hunter said. You can do it! You will feel much better after you have told her. Writing a letter is a coward's way out. I wish you the best. =}}

Tell her by asking her to help you stay off drugs. Say " mom i have to tell you something, i have had addiction problems and i have been clean but i would like you to help me to stay clean forever. "

just tell her how it started then say it persisted into an addiction and tell her how you are taking care of it now.