How do you handle grief - are we humans as resilient as we think we are? Please read details?

I will answer your question, By blessing you and those events that have occurred within these peoples lives, I just attended a funeral yesterday,myself and my soul cried out not only for the family, but for my own Mother, whom by the grace of god is still with me, I cried out to my lord to keep me strengthened for someday I too will have to lay my mother to rest as my children will have to do for me..But as I come to know Jesus a little better, I get to thinking,Its unevitable,this death..We just have to build on doing good will and keeping our focus on the lord..I am praying for you, the bereaved..Mankind,in general..Its rough out in the world now...And before its said and done,we all will have to get on our knees and Thank-him....

This is an intriguing question, and one that I think many people have pondered in one way or another. I think that humans have proven themselves quite resilient in the past. Thousands of years ago, humans survived the most recent ice age, getting us to where we are now. More modern humans have had to contend with war and disease, the latter of which has often been the most devastating. The Spanish flu, for instance, attacked almost every part of the world in the early 1900's, killing tens of millions of people. And yet humans have survived. I think, however, that the greatest tests of humanity's existence may still be in front of us. How will humans react to the "smaller" world that we now live in? How will we respond to the shortage of fossil fuels, and perhaps the widespread famine that results? How will we survive what many predict may be the most pressing crisis of the near future: climate change? Humans, I'm sure more than any creature, have spent enormous amounts of time dreaming up possible scenarios for the extinction of the human race. I think our survival will depend on our ability to adapt, create, and think our way through different problems. Historically, after 100,000 years of existence, humans seem to be rather good at this. In that way, human life seems to lean more towards resilience than fragility.

I didn't know Debra died. I didn't know her well but I liked some of her tender hearted answers.

My Mom passed away June 10th and I was her care giver. She had dementia but was wonderful. Sometimes when we lose loved ones there seems to be something unfinished left in our hearts. I know that my Mom is with Jesus because she believed in Him, so she is free from the body of sin and death that held her captive.

One day the Lord will wipe away every earthly tear from our eyes and there will be no more sorrow or death and in this we can find comfort.

Grief gives us the opportunity many crises do. We can become refined or bitter, depending on how we proceed.

I think what has been most helpful to me in times of grief is to concentrate on what the person or experience taught me. What is there still left to carry on, despite the loss?

Even in the darkest of times, there is love and there is light. We have to seek it and reflect it. Despite her grief at the prospect of not being here to watch her boys grow up, Debra reflected love, light, faith, and hope.

That's what we can take from this. That's the gift she left us.

Dukes Lady lost her father 2 weeks ago, and you are right, there has been a lot of grief recently.

And it serves to remind us that this life is a temporal thing, and we never know when we talk to someone, that it might be the last time we are able to.

We need to be letting people that we care about that we love them,

We need to become kinder and gentler, to those that we don't know as well as we should.

(((((Rammie)))))

We need to realize that when it all comes down to it, proving your point is not really that important. and in the end, the ones that are rememberd are the good one like Debra.

Grief is a difficult thing to deal with once it has entered your emotions.

I try to avoid grief by reminding myself that everything is impermanent, and because of that, I try not to allow attachment into my life....not to say I do not love, but I realize that even this will end and I am prepared for it...

Yes, I still grieve, but I think that the preparation helps make it easier to overcome.

But in the end, those who are grieving could certainly use the strength of others to help hold them up when they are down

We grieve in any way we must and one day the light shines again. For myself, I find great comfort in knowing that God cares about every detail of my life.

Of the list you've provided, the death of our fellow user Debra M is a real reminder that it is human beings we are in contact with each time we log-on. Debra M was a terrific example of someone who knew that and took care of her fellow users. She will be greatly missed, but hopefully her tender spirit will infect us all.

But it also occurs to me that every one of us carries something which grieves us. It's the human condition. Some of us come here to abandon our realities for a little while. Some of us come here looking for hope. Some come to give hope. Some are maybe young and come to play. My prayer is that we all get what we come for.

I tend to withdraw from people when dealing with grief...not something I'd recommend for everyone, but it works for me.

Yesterday was a tough day for me because it was my deceased father's birthday. They say time heals all wounds, but I haven't found this to be the case...Seems I miss him more and more with every passing year.

I can't speak for humanity as a whole, but given what I've endured in this life, I'd like to think that I'm a relatively strong and resilient person....yeah, that's my story and I'm stickin' to it.

Peace to you and all those who are suffering loss right now. (((Rammers)))

I have on more than one occasion encountered grief in my life in the passing of loved ones. The truth is I just cry and enjoy the tears, enjoy the pain for what it is. I don't believe in God or gods so I don't tell myself they are going anywhere better. They just go, like the millions of humans before them. I take it as a reminder that I too will go, and their is something precious in knowing that.

“To spare oneself from grief at all cost can be achieved only at the price of total detachment, which excludes the ability to experience happiness” - Erich Fromm

“My grief lies all within, And these external manners of lament Are merely shadows to the unseen grief That swells with silence in the tortured soul” - William Shakespeare

“I believe that imagination is stronger than knowledge - myth is more potent than history - dreams are more powerful than facts - hope always triumphs over experience - laughter is the cure for grief - love is stronger than death” - Robert Fulghum