Why do some husbands say or tell others of negative things about thier wives.?

its like al bundy said; usually, if I am doing this, its because I want attention, I feel bad about myself, or to distract everyone else from my own insecurities and negative self-image, I will focus my energy on making somebody else feel inferior. Its a very common thing with men and women; the only thing that rings true throughout either situation, is that the person who is doing the complaining and talking negatively about someone else, usually isn't do anything about themselves or making helpful suggestions to the contrary.

My advice is, that you tell your husband that you don't appreciate him making these comments and that it has hurt your feelings. If he continues to do it after that point, then you can clearly state to him that you had already told him that it hurt youer feelings, and NOW it is making HIM look like an incompassionate jerk.

Now, the only other time that this happens is when both people in the relationship, whatever that relationship may be, are talking bad about eachother, possibly without even realizing that they are doing it; because when one person is on the offensive, it can be that the other is on the defensive, or striking back themselves to look less weak. Whether its just to "fight back" emotionally or otherwise, it can almost always be avoided if two people are willing to discuss things rationally, express their true emotions and respect eachother fully. If they can't do that, then it will probably be a stepping stone to further disrespect and possibly abuse. Verbally, physically,, or spiritually, it can all be very destructive and hurtful.

I hope that some of this helps you, and I hope that you can say something to stand up for yourself.

In my case, it's because I want feedback. And no, I don't go around or shout from the rooftops all the negative things about my wife. I'm selective in who I tell, and normally it's because I want advice from those I tell it to. I've been married for a number of years, and am not happy. I'm looking for answers from others who have been there.

So guys just don't want to seem to happy or to into the relationship. It makes them feel girly around their friends. Guys want to seem cool around their friends and also your man. If that gets unbalanced things change, friends make fun, you get in fights.

Guys are just confusing, they want to feel so many things and don't want to "feel" anything at all. They have to stay strong, but still comfortable around you. It's hard, I guess, so they make jokes to lighten the mood.

Good Luck

~Gray

It's because he is SELFISH!

Go look at him and how HE acts. You will see his selfishness!