what should I do !!!! my new girlfriend has a sordid past?

Why not ask her directly about it? If it is all untrue, she would at least know what is being said about her and if it is all true perhaps suggest that she get some help.

Leave her past in the past!

I had a friend in junior high and high school who was very sexual. I was quite the opposite but eventually quit hanging out with her because of her reputation. I didn't want her rep. so I found different friends. Looking back now I realize how shallow I was. Anyways, she was known in school as the easy girl. So she had plenty of guys wanting to date her. But they didn't want her in a relationship but rather in bed. A little of her background. She was raised by a single mother who worked in 3 bars. So her mom was never home and she had to raise her little brother. I would stay all night at her house on the weekends and help her with her brother. She didn't have an easy life. Well quite a few times her mom would bring home strange men from the bars and sleep with them. It was so blantant too. Because you'd get up in the morning and they'd be sleeping on the couch naked. Her mom never had a boyfriend for too long as they left her once they got what they wanted. So I started to understand that she was living her life as she seen her mother live. I tried to talk to her but I couldn't get through to her. But I actually felt bad for her. Because she felt she had to give these guys what they wanted to get what she wanted, a relationship. When she did get a relationship it didn't last long because these guys were only using her. This poor girl didn't have the self confidence or common sense to see that she was a joke to these guys and they were using her. I happened to run into her about a year ago and couldn't believe it was really her. She was happily married with 3 kids. We got to talking and she was telling me how much she has changed and how good life is for her. She started to tell me about her husband and wanted to meet up with me and my husband. So one night we all went to dinner. I am so happy for her because she found herself a good man. He treated her great and showed her respect. Reflecting on this I see that a good man was all she needed. She just wanted to be loved and accepted for who she was. She didn't know how to treat herself good because she didn't have any good examples to follow.

So my whole point of this story is people change. Do you honestly think your girl was just a sex fiend? Could it have anything to do with her self esteem or her examples (parents, family, friends)? Is it possible she was lost and just looking for positive affection? I would imagine it's closer to the latter rather then a sex fiend.

Now I know you've played the telephone game. Where someone whispers in a persons ear and so on. By the time the words spoken gets whispered to the last person they've completely changed. Well everything you're hearing from friends is the same way. It's been exagerated immensely. That's how truth becomes rumor. It's been over dramatized. Next time someone says something to you about her, tell them you don't want to hear it. Because all it is is talk and talk is cheap. Tell them that you've done shady things in the past as well and she don't care so why should you.

No one on this earth is perfect and as far as I know only Jesus Christ himself walked on water. She learned from her mistakes, that's how it works. It's not fair that she should have to pay for them as she already has. Forget what people say. If someone else smurks at you two again, give him a look back. Don't allow them to push you or her around. Her past is her past. Without her past she wouldn't be who she it today. I wish you both happiness and good luck!

i think she was probably dealing with some issues or had something traumatic behavior that caused her to act this way. please dont look at her as any lower, most women who do stuff like that have a reaosn (that is not "normal" slutty behavior). just try to understand her and maybe talk to her about it. but if she is not cheating on you, i dont think u should dump her at all.

i think she definately needs to get some councelling or something,talk to her about it..see what options are available..and i really gotta appreciate the fact that you still love her besides her past..you are a true man..and i hope god helps you find the right way

Give me her number please...