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Loving too much?

A bit of a background: I broke up with my fiance some 6 months ago, ending an 8 year relationship. Outside circumstances coupled with both of us dealing with stresses differently caused us to grow in different direction. In the end, I felt like I had a room-mate that I happened to share a bed with. Realising this, I also realised that it would be cruel to both of us to continue. I was snappy and irritated at the time, and he deserved a woman who loved him as much as he loved me.

Burried underneath this, were feelings I had for another guy. I tried to be good, tried to kill the emotions but they remained over 7 years and little face to face contact. We are so very eminently compatible. Being with him feels like finally coming "home" and being apart leaves me aching. It's like my entire being sings when he's near me.

I'm not used to feeling so strongly about *anything* and it scares me a little. I am working to not let the depth of my feelings leak through, and so far succeeding. But

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But it nags at me. Is this how it should feel? Are my feelings to deep? It's unnerving to have such strength of emotion when one is used to being almost emotionless.

Can anyone give me advice? Pitfalls to try to avoid? I'm not clingy, and not possessive; two qualities I hate to see in a relationship, or be on the receiving end of. I'm not gushing all over him, either.

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  • 1 decade ago
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    I think it's wonderful that you have such a deep love for this person. You are scared, because you want to protect your heart. Over time it should get easier to let your guard down.

    I don't think you can love someone too much, as long as you remember to love yourself as well. What I mean is, if you love yourself then you won't stay with someone who hurts you or brings you down in life. You have shown that you love yourself, because you ended your engagement with a person who wasn't right for you. Now you just need to allow yourself to be happy with your new love.

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