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Anonymous asked in Family & RelationshipsSingles & Dating · 1 decade ago

Would you ever date a guy thats only 5'8?

I'm 19, and I donno, I guess i've been feelin really self consious about my height lately. I actually was 5'10 at one point at the beginning of high school, but I have scoliosis and shrunk a bit.

I'm pretty muscular... I weigh 165, I work out 5 times a week and take good care of my body. I got a 6-pack, pecs n everything. But like I always felt like I automatically get less respect from people cause of my height. Especially girls, I feel tiny around them.

Even though i'm fit, I have a pretty small frame... I was only 130 when I started working out after high school...and i've worked out for two years to get to the point i'm at now. But I was always a smaller person, and I don't have real broad shoulders or look huge. It just bugs me that theres nothing I can do to fix it.

Believe it or not I do carry myself with a lot of confidence around girls regardless of the fact that I know deep down I have to work 10 times harder at attracting them because of my height. I walk tall, and talk to them as if I am not probably 3-4 inches shorter than anyone theyd ever consider dating.

I have no problems approaching them. I actually don't FEEL short... like I feel a lot taller than a lot of the girls i'm around. But then i'll look at a picture of us together, or look at us standing next to eachother in a reflection, and realize i'm barely taller or the same height. So I can only imagine what I look like to them next to other guys... Im usually the shortest of the bunch. I feel like I look like such a little guy next to them

I never felt bad about it until I got to college. I guess for high school girls it was alright...I had my share of hookups. but I mean most of the guys i'm around at school now are 6'0 plus. A lot of them are real cool, nice guys too... So I have trouble realistically seeing why a girl would pick me over them. If we both have good personalities, and are both in shape, and both hit it off with the girl... then what can I do? Why would she pick me over this 6'2 sweetheart that just looks bigger and more manly. Its a proven statistic that taller men are much more likely to succeed in business, and will be the ones getting the high-paying, high-powered jobs.

I know I know its personality that counts. But like... I guess I just need some positive re-inforcement stories. I've been getting a lot of rejection since being at college, I feel like its mostly due to my size, and its starting to get to me.

so

Whats the shortest guy youve hooked up with? would you date a 5'8 guy... etc etc Be honest though plz.

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  • 1 decade ago
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    I am 5 '8" and I have dated guys from 5'4" to 6'4". Height really isn't that important to me. Just thinking about this, I'm having some nice memories about a couple of hot guys who were shorter than me.

    I am being completely honest and I do recognize that many women don't see it the way I do. The fact that you are surprised when you see photos indicates that you probably do carry yourself with a great deal of confidence. That really is more important than height.

  • 1 decade ago

    The shortest guy I've ever hooked up with was 5'5" and he had the absolute best bod of any guy I had ever or have ever dated. He lifted weights, worked out regularly and was buffed. He also had an absolutely fantastic personality. I was never embarrassed or self-conscious around him. I'm 5'4". He and I had some great times together and I was always proud to be beside him. He died several years ago and it was a tragic loss. I'll always miss him. Anyway, you may always have to deal with the "small guy" syndrome. I hope not. The reason I say this is because of what you wrote. You really shouldn't feel the way you do, but I understand. As someone who was very happy with a guy 1" taller than me, I say when you find someone who cares about you and who you care about, size is nothing. And who says you will be one of the statistics? You don't have to. My mom is about 1" shorter than my dad and they have always looked great together. And my dad definitely did not help with the numbers on the statistics! I say to you..always be yourself, be proud of who you are, continue to take care of your body because it sounds like this makes you feel better. Never quit walking tall and take the time to appreciate you for who you are. Love doesn't happen because of height, it happens through the heart. I feel you're being concerned about your height when it doesn't sound like you need to be. But it's OK. Just don't let it change who you are. Be proud of who you are and one day you'll have someone beside you who will say the same things about you that I said about the guy I dated.

  • 1 decade ago

    I would date a 5'8 guy! I am 5'5 though...he would just have to be secure enough when I put on my 4inch heels ;)

    At my school, there is quite a few 18yr old guys who are UNDER 5'5 and they all have very pretty girlfriends, or go on dates with very pretty nice and popular girls.

    It is all about the personality.

    I'd pick the 5'8 fun guy over the 6'2 dull guy any day!

    :)

  • 1 decade ago

    i wouldnt only date a guy your height,i MARRIED one! he is awesome.we have been married 15 yrs.i was 23 and he was 26.he is the same height as me and when we go out,i am taller than him in heels.he loves it! he is 5'8" and 176.i think he blows most guys away.he is still as hot as when i met him.I am also 5'8"i always felt like an amazon next to my girlfriends in high school/college.most of my friends are 5'4"-5'5".and i am 150,but i am thin looking.there is nothing wrong with your height,i promise.i know lots of guys under 6'.that have hot wives and girlfriends.being taller than yourself means nothing,stop worrying,you are great just the way God made you really!

    Source(s): 15 yrs.with my hubby that is 5'8".he is a hottieand other women like him alot.he is a chick magnet,and we laugh about it all the time.always gotta watch those women around him.he has so much charisma,women always are flirting with him in front of me,they are a trip!
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  • 1 decade ago

    okay..it doesn't matter really

    BUT it all depends..

    me, i'm about 5'5", so a guy 5'8" would be fine...

    but if you're dating somewhat of a tall chick, she might not like it as much..

    it all depends on the girl and how tall she is really

    hope that helps! :P

  • 8 years ago

    Uhm, well you're way taller than me because I'm 5'1. That's a tall guy for me and I like tall guys so.

  • 1 decade ago

    well idm how tall a guy is really cuz im 5'1 :P

  • 1 decade ago

    depens if hes cute,and if im short...

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