about to be in a long distance relationship

my husband and I had to do long distance when we first got engaged and it was hard work but defiantly possible. he is from Australia and I was from Canada so we had to be apart while doing all the paper work for me to become and Australian resident. You really have to put all your trust in that person and keep communciation strong! Instead of just talking about every day things make sure you talk about what you appreciate about each other, what you miss most, why you can't wait to see them!! Make offical plans for when you visit, set a phone date up once a week and stick to it :) It's easy if you both really love each other!! good luck!

It's really tough. Some people are able to make it work, but be prepared for a rocky road. College is a time of experimentation and she's going to change a bit, but if you're dead set on making it work,

Here's my advice on making it work:

Make plans to call her at a specific time. It's much better than playing phone tag and it'll help you two stay in touch. Expect to get a lot of calls from her the first few weeks...she'll probably be very homesick, and you can really help support her.

+ Send her a care package or two. Maybe even arrange a visit for a weekend, so you can meet her friends and see what she's up to at college (that way, you'll still be a part of her new world!)

+ You may want to decide to be "pen pals", as well. Getting a surprise, handwritten letter from you will brighten her day and prove to her that you're always thinking of her. Plus, it's incredibly romantic.

+ Give her some space! Make it clear that you'll be there for her, but let her grow and explore. If you give her some room to breathe, while being there for support, she'll be able to see you really care and don't want to change her.

+ Try your best not to be jealous. It's really hard sometimes, when all you hear about is new people, new guys, and new classes, and you can't relate, but just remember why you love her and bear with her. If it ever gets to be too much, talk to her about it.

+ Even though you're far away, try to make it seem like you're never too far off. Don't worry about the distance, just do your best to keep loving her. If it's meant to work out, you two will make it work.

Good luck!

If you love her, why would you make it okay for her to go for another guy? I don't think you are being honest. If you really love her, you want her to wait for you until you finish High School and can go to college with her. I think that is fine. If you two love eachother, (and at 17 I believe you can definitely know what love is) then what is wrong with having a long distance relationship for a short while. A year goes by fast. If she loves you as much as you seem to love her, she would be stupid to even look at another guy. Yes, you two are young. But if you have found your perfect match early, good for you. You don't have to waste time weeding through the people that are not a match. I know a woman who met her husband when they were in the sixth grade. They have been together ever since. They are best friends too, which is very rare and special. I have never had a long distance relationship before, but my twin has. She was always talking to him on the phone. My parents had a huge phone bill. (This was way back in 1988) But in today's technology you have Instant Messaging to communicate and you can even use a webcam to see eachother every day. Send her special things like Shari's Berries http://www.berries.com/jump.jsp?itemID=116&itemTyp... or Flowers once in a while. She will love it and when you do get to see her, it will be very special. Hang in there. If you two want it to work, it can. Best wishes to the two of you! :)

Hard to tell. Love is a tricky thing and sometime the distance makes the heart grow fonder and sometimes it makes you grow apart. 4 yrs of college is a long time and unless you plan to go to college near her after you graduate from HS, I would say this is an unrealistic expectation. Girls in college party, get f**cked up and end up fooling around with a lot of different guys. YOu are both very young (sorry) and it's likely it wont work out. Good luck

i do not want to sound like a broken record.

#1 you are N O T too young for love

#2 do not pay attention to those who think you are still a baby.

#3 love has no bounderies ,true love has no limits, love is that magnificent gift

God gave us to be happy ,and be miserable too. that is what love is all about.

HOWEVER

From my own experience : getting into a long distance relationship equals looking

for trouble, worries and long lonely sleepless nights.

you are at the age now where should be no place for worries and sadness.

it is just not fair to be young and sad.

just enjoy yourself and keep your options open, there are plenty of fishes in the sea close to you..

p.s. i do not like your statement to her about how you will gladly step aside if she found someone else at college... bad mistake my friend... offering a licence or a free pass for someone to cheat on your feelings is painful . do not even get there.

good luck.

In my opinion you need to keep things as topical as possible when your apart. That means, don't talk about big relationship issues. Keep things fun and happy.

The opposition to this would be if she felt like things are not going well (because you were talking relationship issues) , your distance apart will magnify these feelings and the situation. Things can get out of hand fast.

So keep everything as constant as possible. Don't talk to her too often. Dont talk for extended periods of time. Try to keep days in between conversations so that she can tell you about fun stuff and keep the conversation light. This will help keep things good.

I had two friends kinda in this situation. Except it was the guy who left for college and he went from Oregon to Washington DC. They only saw eachother twice that whole year. Now they are getting married. Just stay loyal to eachother, send eachother love and always be there to talk. That's the best you can do.

first of all there's no right age for love :)

and what i think you should do is try it and if its meant to be it'll happen and work out. if its true love and theres a good amount of trust then don't be afraid to go along with the relationship because sometimes you have to be away from someone in order to know if they're meant to be in your life.

i hope that helped :)

Well it depends on how long you and her have loved each other... If it was a long time then y'all would probably would trust each other way more than if it was a short period of time... and everything happens for a reason and if you really love her and she loves you it will work... You have to believe... I know corny but the truth... Through thick and thin....

I don't have any experience in that area, but I think it's great that you trust her enough to not question her, and that you love her enough to step aside if she finds someone else. Why can't they clone you? You're awesome!!!!!!!