Should he rekindle an Old Flame?

This guy needs counseling! Come on, "married" means "off limits" for most mortals with morals. Why would he wonder if she's happily married? And the sad truth be told, even if she left her husband and ran back into his arms, it has the makings of another disaster movie.

I can see where you're coming from about him getting in touch but he needs to be realistic. If she offers to meet him for coffee, it does NOT mean that she cares. She could just be polite.

But he is suffering from an obsession. "Undying" love? You only read that in Harlequin romances.

But IT IS better to know the facts than to live the rest of one's life wondering. Sure, have him touch base but, unless her response is "My God, I am so glad to hear from you! I've spent years wondering if I'd ever see you again" then he needs to accept that this is just a wayt o say good-bye and move on.

Creepy...very creepy...exactly how much closure does your friend need? He's curious as to whether she's happily married?? Sounds more like obsession than "undying love" to me...I would suggest he NOT try to get in touch with her, unless he's wanting to create problems for himself or for this woman...I understand he might be curious about his first serious girlfriend, but he should wait until the people search states that she is NOT married...and to answer your question, no, its not always better to know the facts...sometimes the facts aren't what you want them to be...here's a fact: you're friend and this girl broke up a long time ago...something didn't work with them as a couple...he's curious if he still might have a chance?...sounds like he's already living in an illusion (and he's been there for a while too)...let me ask you this, how would you like it if you were married and found out that someone was trying to contact your spouse to see if ya'll are happily married?? Think about it, and try to give some better advice next time to your friend...telling him to get in touch with her was the worst thing you could do...remember, they broke up for a reason...and that reason might not be what he told you...hope this helps!