Should I say sorry to my rude guy friend? Age 14 - He went through my phone! Will he ever get mature!?

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He's not a friend. Friends don't treat friends this way.

In some cases yes, and in many cases no. On the rare occasion that a friend gets pissed off at me, I do something simple, I wait. They'll come around or they won't. Of my friends, what I've found is that we share a history together, and we'll be there when called. It doesn't matter when we last spoke, we're just always there for eachother. I can't say anything about drinking. Although I don't consume quite the volume I used to, there have been a number of parties that had my friends telling me that I had a very good time the next morning. These days, when I'm going to a friend's party, I take a limited amount of beer, throw it in the fridge, nurse my drinks and casually not notice that people who didn't think to bring drinks are raiding mine, then go home when the carton is empty and I can still legally drive. For shorter parties, I take less. I love a good bar, but never stick around for more than 3 or 4 drinks. Simple lessons I've learned in life. Granted, I do drink more than most, but I'd really prefer not to have to ask someone what I did the night before. Or face the day with a splitting headache and a stomach that can't tolerate the thought of food. D

Holy crap girl... why why why do you even bother with thinking about this? The guy is a jerk!!! Don't let him try to talk you out of anything with "well he's 14 year old guy" or anything like that. He way crossed the line, especially since you explicitly told him not to take your phone and didn't give it back or anything.

You have every right to be mad at him and there is NO WAY you should have to apologize to him. And that stuff about writing a poem about you and sending it to the author? Yeah freakin' right. Anything like that would have to be cited in the book or the author could get sued. Does it specifically cite him as the author in the book? If not, then he's lying. Rather pathetically really.

In my opinion you should wait for him to call. When he does tell him exactly how you feel and unless he completely apologizes and promises to not say or do ANYTHING that you don't feel comfortable with then you are no longer going to have any contact with him. If he starts to try and guilt you into thinking it's your fault, hang up on him. Let him try to call back and apologize.

If he makes an effort after that, then you know that he's worth having as a friend. If not, forget about him. If he ever does grow out of this phase (which he probably will), then he will realize what an *** he was and will try to make things right.

Wow.... I really got into this, lol.

Good luck! =)

O.K. he is not a good boyfriend or best friend. He is a low down jerk. You don't need him. My guess is you look really good when you dress up. This is why he is mean. You get to much attention if you look good. He should not go through your phone or anything personal without your permission. I don't think he will grow out of this, if anything it will get worse. You should not apologize...you did nothing wrong. I would cut all ties with him unless he says he is sorry and changes the way he treats you. You deserve the best from a guy and don't expect anything less. hope i could help. good luck

okay well to answer your will he grow out of it question, my brother has done the same types of things to me all my life since he was about 9 or 10 and he is 18 now. he hasn't grown out of it and i don't know if he will but it doesn't seem like it. this guy sounds exactly like my brother. you don't by chance live in oswego do you? anyway nvm. the weird thing is i think this is the guys way of showing affection for you. if he is like my brother, he doesn't want to act sweet all the time because he is a guy and he feels he will be emasculated if he acts nice and sweet, but my brother is nice to me a lot when no one else is around, i.e his friends. but the thing is that my brother tells me im at and ugly all the time but then he tells me im skinny and im not ugly and ur probably right to cut him a little bit of slack, because it seems like he does like you. if it helps, when my brother is being really mean i just act really sad (i dont have to act it does make me sad) and he then fels bad and apologizes, but a 14 year old friend might not do the same thing. i dont think you should apologize, just play it casual like nothing happened and yeah if you want go ahead and ask him if he wrote the song yet. no youre not overreacting if someone went through my phone i would be terminally pissed. it probably was a big deal but it seems like if you make much more of a deal about it you might not have a bff anymore. go ahead and call him. thats what i would do. good luck and thanks for answering my question.

what is wrong with your relationships with men that you would put up with that. usually this sort of behavior is done by girls who don’t have a good relationship with their fathers and I’d say if you continue in it you will wind up in an abusive relationship with a guy and every time he cheats on you so long as he buys you something or does something nice you will forgive him. I’m not saying this to be mean I’m only saying it because it is what I’ve seen happen time and again. you need to get rid of him. there are people who will be sweet most of the time and jerks only once in a long while.

why do you put up with this behavior it is disrespectful to you

(QUESTION 1) no

“He insists I call him everyday” -he is controlling you it’s a power trip for him

(QUESTION 2) no

(QUESTION 3) no

(QUESTION 4) yes he invaded your privacy and your personal life he is seeing how far he can push you and it will only get worse

(QUESTION 5) do not call him

(QUESTION 6) every time you act causal about it you are saying his behavior is ok with you and you are essentially asking for him to do it again and he will

1-no 2-no 3-yes 4-no 5-no 6-yes kinda you should tell him why you acted the way you did and kinda apologize then make sure he says sorry

He is going through that time where he does not want to be embarrassed hanging out with a girl.

Forgive him, but tell him to rope it in when he crosses the line

Don't have sex with him,...your only 14 and condoms won't fit him yet...make sure you tell him he's stupid and that your gonna shoot him in the face with a water pistol...he he he...then eat some cocoa puffs and tell christi to pick you up for school since she has her car now. Then go to his house and light the bushes around his house on fire. When he comes to school the next day he'll know not to mess with you anymore and that your not messing around...and for kicks, tell all the girls around you that he has a small weenie and that he smells like chowder mixed with peas and grass-seed....that should do the trick....let me know how it works out!!!

He's just trying to tease/play around with you.

Tell him you really don't like it but you love it when he's sweet and that he went too far the other day.

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