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Is he into me or am I just analyzing things too much?
Ok, this is an extremely long question as I'm providing as much details as possible for you guys to answer. Btw, I'm a closet gay and I fond of him too.
Some people feel that he (let's call him W) is interested in me and I decided to test him out. For more information please read my last few posted question on ''Is he gay?'' Part 1 and 2.
I asked him why did he always relate the rainbow to gay people which not many people in my country know about rainbow is the symbol of LGBT community unless they actually went to the gay website and saw it.
He denied about it and said he didn't relate rainbow to the gay people.
He then question me back why do I keep on thinking of the rainbow with the gay thing and he sounded like he got the clue that I'm a gay.
Later we saw a group of people coming out of the lift and he asked me whether one of the girl look beautiful as he think she look nice but I just replied with a ''oh, I didn't really notice.''
Suddenly he tickled me and of course I tickled him back. In the past there was once he even slide his hand at my waist during class and when I looked at him he was just smiling. Class start and he sit beside me, again he tickled me again. When he wanted to leave his sit to visit the toilet he slided his fingers across my back and is really ticklish.
That day I felt that we had rekindled our friendship again and we were really close and we chat with each other the whole day.
I start to feel that he is gay and he seem interested in me. There was once he bought a sausage and said ''This sausage look big and tough and tasty that there is even cheese in it''. I replied ''So does your one look big and tough too?'' After school we saw one guy and one woman walking in front of us. He then comment about the girl's and I commented that the guy shoe's lase never tie properly. He said to me ''Why not you go and teach him how to tie his shoe lase properly'' I said ''Why should I?'' Suddenly he just said it out of the blue ''Move your hand up the legs and slowly to the crotch'' (I'm not sure he referring to the guy or the girl)
Later I texted him asking who did he refer to when he said move up the hand to the crotch. He didn't reply my msg. The next day when I asked him again he just act like he forgot about it and never answer my question.
Finally I cannot stand it anymore so I decided to message him to tell him that I want to clarify things out with him and obviously the thing I want to clarify will be about his sexual orientation. I didn't state it straight to point but I hinted him in the messages.
He never replied to my messages in fact he finally replied saying ''Wing , I think you are a very paranoid person.''
After that day I continue to message him to say that I really want to clarify things out with him and he knew what question i want to ask him. He start to avoid me and we hardly get the chance to meet each other in school. Finally coincidently we meet face to face and without me asking he told me ''Wing, I'm straight''. That mean he already knew what I want to clarify with him but why only now he tell me after so many days? If he is really straight then why not just reply me that he is straight in the first message?
Later on my classmate (let's call him B'') knew about my actions because 'W' show him all my messages. 'W' told 'B' that there was once a friend of his actually did the same thing and later confess to him that he is gay, now B suspect me as a gay because I keep on messaging W about his sexual orientation. W told B not to tell this incident to his good friend. He is quite close with this friend that people are suspecting them are gays, actually is that friend who is the one trying very hard to be close with W but not W himself.
Thankfully I had my plan all backed up and I knew this would happened so I gave them a very good explanation which help me back to hide in the closet and my secret of being gay is still a secret. Basically the explanation involve two other people and one of them is 'B'.
Later on 'W' got pissed with 'B'. The funny things is W and his good friend after this incident they never eat together during lunch anymore and they were not that close anymore like in the past.
After this incident 'W' and I never talk with each other again. He started to join the girls clique. I feel that he is trying to give me the impression that he is straight.
So what do you guys think? Is he into me or am I just over analyzing things too much? Why did he do all those intimate actions on me that made me feel like he is gay and interested in me but later try to hard to keep a distant with me?
Currently we were not really that distant as I can see that he is trying to be friend with me but I'm the one who just keep quiet when he talk to me.
I really don't understand why did he show all my messages that I sent to him to B. He should had know that this will make people suspect that I'm gay. Wouldn't he afraid that I actually disclose all the actions and behavior he did to me?
9 Answers
- 1 decade agoFavorite Answer
Wow you do analyze a lot but it is not always a bad thing. Especially in your situation where you want to keep your orientation a secret.
I am not familiar with this type of scenario, however I think he is just confused about his orientation. Sounds like he wants to be straight for society but feels gay inside. Right now it is a game that he can play with and get excited from without "really" being gay.
That is just my opinion. Like I said I am not familiar with the scenario. I am just a hopeless romantic!! I wish you the best of luck!!
I think he showed your messages to other people cause he would rather you get the heat then he. I think he knows you like him and that you would not tell all the details.
- Anonymous1 decade ago
It's really hard to just determine anything without really knowing the situation. I know plenty of guys that are straight as an arrow, but they will make sexually references and touch each other, not sexually, just rub each other's back or leg or something. It's more of a game to them than anything else, who ever gets uncomfortable first is the loser. It was funny to watch, but other than that, that was all they would do. Maybe he's like that, but I don't know, because I don't know the guy.
If he was really into you, you should know by now, as I'm sure he would have given you hints. It is obvious that he has given you some very blantant hints that he is not interested, so you should seek nothing more than his friendship at this time.
Maybe he was interested in you at one point, but you pushed too hard and tried to rush things. If he was interest, he isn't interested now. Just be his friend. If something is going to develop, let it happen naturally. You can't rush any relationship, you will only push potential mates away.
Also, if you are in the closet, you can't really tell someone you want to have a talk to clarify their sexually if you won't even clarify yours...
- 1 decade ago
He is straight and not into you.
For one thing, he talks as though hes into girls.
I don't know about the whole tickling thing, that was probably just fun.
However the reason he took so long to reply was because you probably scared him. A LOT.
You turned into a creepy stalker almost.
Forget about him.
He's just a mate.
- Anonymous1 decade ago
Very draggy and longwinded interpretation. You should try to summarise in good English.
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- 1 decade ago
omg,im sorryi tried to read it i really did but its too long,try reposting with little details and then ill answer ^_^
- panda :)Lv 41 decade ago
i think he is gay!! i think its obvious hes just to scared!! i think he is into u!!!! u shouldnt act quiet u should be the same u!! as always