Life after Death of spouse

take some time for yourself. if you are not a member of a church find a good church.

your spouse wouldn't want you to be alone and in God's time you will find another partner. Not a replacement, by any means, but a help mate and companion.

I'm sorry for your loss, God Bless you.

Step 1Recognize your desires. Just because you are older does not mean you can do without human companionship. Whether you want someone to share a meal, or you are looking for a more meaningful relationship with someone you might consider to marry, you have to be able to acknowledge that fact.

Step2 Take the time you need to grieve your loss. Losing your spouse is overwhelming. You will need for the grieving process to run its course before you can be ready to commit to a new relationship.

Step3 Is today too soon? It used to be that a certain length of time had to pass before someone who lost a spouse could date. These days, no such convention exists. While some people worry about what their family and friends might say, as others feel that dating defiles the memory of the departed spouse.

Only you can decide when you're ready. Just don't make the mistake of missing out on future happiness because you're afraid of dating too soon.

Step4 Be careful. Regardless of how long you wait, you will be vulnerable to people who show you attention, particularly at the beginning. Start out by doing things in groups; and under no circumstances, pour your heart out or give your financial information to someone you do not know well. It would be nice if everyone out there is pure of heart. Unfortunately there are people, regardless of age, who prey on vulnerable people. If you have not dated for a long time, your judgment may be clouded by the excitement of meeting someone new. Take your time.

Step5 Above all, enjoy yourself. Meeting new people and being sociable may be skills you haven't use in a long time; so enjoy the experience, whether you are looking for a lasting relationship, or a more casual one. Not everyone you meet will become the love of your life, but making friends is part of the process. And who knows, maybe your new friend will introduce you to your future spouse!

I agree...take time for yourself. I'm not sure how long its been, but you've got time on your side.

Just know that all relationships end one way or another (some are break-ups, some are divorces, and then's there is death). We all have to go through the grieving process for the loss of the relationship (and in your case, the loss of your loved one). But also know that once you've dealt with the loss, then will you be open for a new beginning in your life.

Good luck and I am very sorry about your loss.

While I am not a widow. I have saw how my mother got back on her feet after my fathers passing.

What helped her, was she got active in church, and in other activities that were age appropriate for her. Through these activities she met a wonderful man, who has since became my step-father. While she knows he isn't my father, and no one will ever take his place in her heart, or with us girls, she also knows she needed the companionship. And its great that us girls love him as we do, at the same time.

I suggest, find something you enjoy.. something that can get you out and involved with your community. Don't worry about dating, you'll fall into that when the right man comes along. Just be yourself, and do what you enjoy. The rest will come along in its own time.

it takes time hun, only time will tell, and heal the hurt and the pain that you suffer from losing your spouse, give it that and you'll be fine in the end.Sorry to hear of your loss hun!

This is mean but...if it were me, and I really loved my spouse, I don't think I could date again.