I think that my younger brother might be gay

Just sit him down and say "I see that your going through something and I want you to know that you can tell me. Your my brother and I love you no matter what." try that.

Firstly, good on ya for not making an issue out of it

If he's a little enclosed right now, it's probably not the best time to push the subject. If he's confused, questioning him may make him more withdrawn.

But here's some things you can do, which may make him be more open.

You need to mention gay people in a positive light. Make it seem to him that, for example, you have no problem with celebrity gay couples, or that you support gay marriage. It will give him a clue that you're not a 'phobe

Tell him something like, "I'm your big brother and no matter what, I'm always here for you to talk to about anything. If you're ever upset, or down or in trouble make sure you come talk to me - and it will be just between the two of us"

Don't ask him - he might not be sure yet, although if he's got a porn stash, he's probably leaning that way. Just let him know - well, just what you said here. That it's ok with you, that you love and support him. It sounds like that is exactly what he needs.

Thank you for being a good brother! I'm very appreciative of my own brothers' reactions to my coming-out. Especially if your dad isn't going to be as supportive if/when he comes out in general, it'll be a big help for him to know that you're there for him.

Even if he denies it right away - just make sure he knows. He might not be ready to tell you yet, but your support will mean a lot to him. He is at least questioning, obviously, and knowing that he's got someone there for him no matter where he ends up will be a great relief, I'm sure.

And! If you're not sure how to tell him and find yourself unable to approach the topic, burn him a CD with one song: "If You Were Gay" from the musical Avenue Q, and label it simply "From [your name] to [his name]". (Not the name of the song or anything to give it away!)

If you've found a gay porno mag, there's pretty much no denying it. If I were you, I would wait until the whole table is gathered at dinner, and ask your parents this question:

"What would you guys do if I told you I was gay?"

If your parents freak out, just say that you were curious, because someone you know just came out, and his parents didn't take it very well.

The reason that I think this is the best course of action is because your brother is probably wondering this very same thing. By bringing up the subject, you will make yourself a hero in his eyes.

1. type a little slower, there's no rush...not really sure what this said exactly: Should I ask him if he is gay or tell if that if he is it's ok?

2. well. if youre willing to be supportive, then let him tell you when he's ready. in the meantime, just be a good big brother and occaisionally drop hints that you support gay rights, and dont say ANYTHING homophobic around him. as in, not at all. then maybe someday he'll be ready to talk about it, if he even is gay at all. if he isnt or you ask too soon itll just be awkward and he'll deny it, possibly angrily.

You're a really cool brother for doing that you know? Just tell him when he has a moment. If he's showing those kind of signs, then I think he could use some comforting. Thank you for doing this for your brother! It's going to mean a lot to him, I just know it! ^_^ But make it his decision to tell your parents or not. Thats a big step for anyone.

Take him out for a walk and tell him exactly what you wrote. Tell him, "Bro, I don't know if you are or not, but if you are gay, just know that that's OK and I will love and support you either way." Then give him a hug and tell him you're there for him, no matter what. And keep your promises. ;)

Get him a gay porn magazine for his birthday and hand it to him secretly to get his attention. If he refuse it, then just tell him somebody gave it to you and you do not want it, maybe he'll accept it! Otherwise, it's a great chance to start a discussing the topic with him. :-D

I find it really sweet that you are that supportive to your brother. All mine did was blackmailing me all the time. ^_^

That's good. You need to tell him that you're okay with him being gay. Yeah, be gentle and supportive. Plus, don't tell your mom and dad cos you need to leave the decision to your older brother.

There's a video that would probably be helpful to you. It takes the question off of him and puts it onto you. The video was made for a gay guy to ask another gay guy if he's gay but I think it really can apply in your situation and help you figure it out.

http://www.afterelton.com/blog/dennis/mores-for-ga...

Hope that helps you.