My wife(29) died three years ago. should i move on or stay single?

yes, it is time to move on. but you have the greatest gifts she left behind, your children. the kids need you and you have to be strong for them. please don't try to kill yourself. how will your children feel? u might not believe this, the pain will always be there, but it will lessen with time. honor her life, by living a fulfilling life raising your kids.

it is heartbreaking hearing Kelly express herself, but it is the truth. kids need to be told the truth and i hope u continue supporting them and please take them to a bereavement counselor.

You need to seek some counseling or a support group to help you with the grief. If you dont feel ready, then dont do it. There is no rule book that states when you can start seeing someone else. Things happen and then our life is changed drastically. You have three children who are blessings, and unfortunately you dont have your wife, but you have many good memories of her, and the three kids in which they will remind you of her. Dont have feelings of guilt, your wife, im sure wouldnt want to have you live the rest of your life alone.

For now, enjoy the time you have with your kids, take them out, and be open to meeting new people. In time, all things will fall in place.

Just because you move on doesnt mean you arent true to her. Loving and caring for your kids you will show how dedicated of a husband /. father you are. Death is a part of life, but it isnt the end of all things as we know it, with death comes new beginnings, and your new beginning should be filled with good memories, and happiness for the things you got to experience with her...and the things you will experience with your children.

Good Luck in all you do.

There is nothing wrong with being single, but I think we should re-direct the question Do you choose to remain single. Judging your situation, you tend to repel the girls away, by giving off this strong negative vibe. Try smiling a bit and be sure to let out some kindness from your heart. Most people are after financial stability, and with I read, it seems that you are pretty much well taken care off. Now the next step would be to meet or, should I say chance upon that special someone. Make an effort on your part to make more friends, you don't really need to go out dating or so, just meet people and hang out. It should start from there, you will know when you meet that special someone and you will then insist that it was not hanign out, but a DATE!. Open up yourself a bit when carrying out conversation, but don't pour your heart out. Talk about the positive and try not to be pessimistic. Know how to carry an intresting coversation but don't be a know it all. Happy hunting ",

I feel for you mate, I really do - your wife would want you to be happy, and its not like you'd forget her is it? You may feel guilty at first but if your REALLY happy with whatever you want to do with your life, then you'll know your doing the right thing.

Just never forget her, she seems like a wonderful lady but you got kids to consider as well - (I'm not suggesting you do, but chat with your kids about it first if makes you feel better) but never forget them either. You sound like a guy with your head screwed on right so I know you'll pull through. Do whatever your heart tells you. Also, make sure your new girlfriend knows the score and that no matter what you will still always love your wife.

Good luck and stay happy - all the best.

I am sure sarah would tell you to move on when you are ready because eventually your kids will benefit from a female being in their life. You can meet someone AND stay true.Sarah was the one true love of your life that can never be replaced so now you need to find someone who understands and is okay with that. companionship. Forget suicide that is you thinking of your own pain. that's selfish,think about your kids that is what sarah would expect from you.

Sorry to hear about your wife.

I lost my loved one in my family too. It takes time to recover, so don't rush yourself to make a decision right now and don't force yourself to be single forever at this time. You go with what you want to do as time goes. If you are ready, then move on. If you are not, then don't.

Believe me, you will be okay and things will be better...

It's time to move on,it's hard and i know you miss her very much,but you can't stop living.Losing someone you are close to,makes you feel as though the pain will never end,but in time the pain subsides.As long as you have memories of her,she is not dead,because she lives on in your memories .I'm quite sure your wife wouldn't want you to harm yourself,and SHE WOULD WANT YOU TO MOVE ON,and find someone special to share the rest of your life with.YOU HAVE TO CONTINUE LIVING,LOVING AND GROWING ,NOT ONLY FOR YOURSELF BUT FOR YOUR CHILDREN AS WELL.Consider grief counseling ,to help you deal with your lost.Bless you and your family.

its time to move on and heal and she wouldnt want you to be alone and it would be nice for the kids maybe to have a female around so go out there and live and I am sure she would approve life is for living not for grieving but she was the love of your life and in your heart she will remain

Dont worry. in about 20-30 years from now theyll have machines that can bring your wife back alive... im not being stupid its true. youll get to see her again.

sorry to hear about your wife very sad story.

move on whenever your ready.

talk to your kids about how they feel

but i am sure your wife would like you to move on.

the same situation happened with my uncle he moved on and i was happy for him=)