My girlfriend says she needs a break, what is happening?

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My girlfriend and I had a little talk the other night , we went on what was supposed to be a nice vacation in the mountains where there is a beautiful lake resort. We stayed in a condo rental for a few days and something was wrong with her truck after a few days being there. We decided it was best to drive the long drive home and pray we make it. Prior to leaving, days before we were great. She cooked and we had candle-lit dinners and enjoyed ourselves. I did notice though, she didn't smile much but I took it that she was still a little high-strung from working alot the prior week. I'm confused though, I told her I loved her and she said she loved me too when we'd have our late night candle-lit dinners on the patio overlooking the lake. She seemed to be just fine. She and I spent so much time together, practically everyday ever since we've been together with the exception of a few days here n there. I think the reason for this whole reason for this break is because I been around her too much and she needs space for herself only. Im not sure though.

Anyway, after leaving the condo we drove home and she dropped me off and I went to put my stuff away and said "Hey, I can come help you unload all your things". She said "no thats ok i got it". The next day I found out she went to a bar and my sister seen her and asked her "hey is my brother with you?" Then she said "No we just got back from vacation, I NEED A BREAK. With an attitude in her body language. After I asked her what the problem was the next day, she said after living with me for 4 days she realized she doesn't think she could never live with me. She said that every 10 mins I was wanting to hold her or touch her n be close n she didnt like that.  But she used to love it. Then she said she told me before how she didn't like clingy guys. She said that she needs alone time for now, in other words space.

I m so confused right now, it seems as though she started changing on me or something. I don't know where this is coming from. She is 33 yrs old and I'm 25. She had claimed she wanted a good, mature man to settle down with and she told co-workers at her job about a tattoo she wanted to design for us in preps for marriage one day. I wanted the same thing. The feelings were all mutual and we planned on building our relationship for the future together. :-( I'm in love with her and am having a hard time coping with this. What do I do? Anyone?

ataboy23 · Accepted Answer

you said the problem urself. you've given her too much attention. I'd say go ahead and give her a break.   JUst live ur life for awhile, ur 25, go to a club with ur friends and have a good time, dance with some girls and just STOP thinking about her for a weekend.  Make sure u see how good life is without her.  This way u can stop being so clingy.  A woman is supposed to be the one that's all emotional and stuff, it's the guy that has to be a little strict, a little distant, and more "take-charge"  this will make her crazy about you.  but even when she comes back, keep it up, it'll help keep the relationship fresh, trust me

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Mrz. Small · Answer

My boyfriend went through the same thing with an ex girlfriend once.  He said that the reason y this get like that is for 1 of 2 reasons.
1.  She is unsure of the future because she likes u a lot and doesn't want to lose u so she is confused. She knows she wants to be with u but shes not sure if it will work out and she doesn't want to hurt u or get hurt.
2. She isn't really feeling u anymore she might have gotten bored with something in the relationship.  No telling what, u have to pay attention. She might be talking to someone else or she just doesn't know about u anymore but its up to u to find out.

I hope everything works out with u and her u seem to genuinely interested and i know how that can go good luck

emmblaze · Answer

I agree with some of the other responses.  Usually when someone says they need a break it's because their some sort of flirting going on somewhere else and they want to be able to act on it with out cheating.  

If someone is completely in love the temptation doesn't arise but most likely it's there and going crazy thinking about her and trying to get her back isn't going to help at all.

You gotta just let her do her thing and you gotta go do yours.  It's hard but don't spend all you time thinking about her.. it's just gonna make you nuts.  Concentrate on making yourself happy and stay busy to keep your mind off things.

Good luck

Anonymous · Answer

You sound like a well-grounded decent man. I'm sorry this is happening to you. I believe that she's acting like this because she wants to end the relationship and may not be sure how to do this. It may also be that she's already met someone and is looking for a reason to break up.

Bayy_BiidNiiZz · Answer

just give her some space to miss you.. she loves you but sometime we can feel smothered. and if it gets to a point that we feel suffocated then its not good so let her breathe i mean im sure she likes it but 24/7 kinda does get annoying sometimes. and its like she can't realize what she has until its not there so say u dont see her so much in 2 weeks, and she wont have anyone to cuddle and she will realize how much she misses you and hopefully things will go back to normal. But when you're around her i mean its great that you want to show affection bc not a lot of guys do that bt dont do it so much now i guess. limit yourself so you dont smother her. Just wait she'll come around. =)

Anonymous · Answer

she's the only one who knows what's going on in her head and it doesn't seem like she's going to tell you right now. give her some space for now. Don't call or text her except for the occasional important thing. and i mean IMPORTANT. she needs time to figure out what she wants. she's obviously angry and upset about the argument. it might be best if you reflect on why she would be so angry. if you really want to talk to her about it i would suggest writing her a letter but DON'T SEND IT! wait about a week and then read it over again. if you still think it expresses all the things you need her to know then send it and wait for her to come to you. but most of all, all you can do is give her some space.

Anonymous · Answer

Just give her her space. Honestly...this is why men do women so wrong. They get a good man like you and don't know how to handle it. Then they wonder why they end up with a man that heats on them...ugh. Seriously, give her her space and date other women. Move on. She is confused and doesnt know what she wants. Women like this arent worth it

ImposSyble · Answer

Sorry to say but, I feel that when people want to go on breaks it is usually because they met some cute guy/girl and want to hook up with them....and if they get caught he/she will say it was not cheating because, he/she were not technically together at the time.

Jason · Answer

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