How do I let go of my grudge?

Actually holding a grudge against someone is helping along self destruction of you! It will not only grow into something you feed on but it can immensely take over your normal thought process. You cannot change what happened and you either get past the fact that yes you were mistreated but two wrongs don't make a right and if you think for one minute its gonna change anything it will not. If they ask forgiveness then of course forgive. We learn by "Not" forgetting our past trials and mistakes we make but as long as you let it live in your mind it will show in your personality dimming your true light. You have many more things to worry about than what has already happened. Fight all grudges in life. We all have better things to do than brood over what people (that have no idea how to act) have done to us. Rise above it don't stoop to the same level. God Bless!

Think about how you holding that grudge affects YOU. You having a grudge doesn't affect them, only you. It brings you stress, unhappiness, and anger. Without it, you could have more happiness and less stress or worry. And they probably don't even know how you are being affected...so,release the grudge to help yourself heal, then work on forgiveness later. In a sense, you're letting whatever they did live on and on with that grudge...

Horrible is a wide word.

Horrible because they were happy with someone while u were miserable?

Horrible because they killed a cat and took pleasure in it?

The problem is that you cannot change the past. No one can.

So it's inefficient to blame someone for doing something in the past.

He can repair something now, but u cannot change the past.

Everytime u think of it, u will feel impotent because u cannot change the events that happened...

First u need to accept they happened..

And to accept the freedom of people. He chose that path. U can choose also. He can always choose whatever he likes and you cannot do a thing.

That's why we humans are beautiful. Because we can choose. We are free to choose even the worst choice.

The grudge is the effect of you wanting something out of him. And he didn't obey.

That's why u feel revengeful. Because he didn't act like a slave or object to conform your desire.

That's why you hate him.

But think a little.. Why do you want something out of people? Do you think you will be happy this way or what?

Happiness has nothing to do with people or objects. Stop trying to force persons to conform your expectations. And I'm not saying this as an expert. I hold grudges also, and what I am telling you I am telling to myself also.

Happiness has to do with YOU. Your expression.

Be more preoccupied with acting freely right now. Be here and now more spontaneous. And you will happier day by day until you will feel so happy that u will not care about what X did. Maybe feel sorry for him, or sad, but you will feel happy for him also because he has the right to choose in this life. To be human...

The problem is not the grudge. The problem is that you want to possess people. To get something out of them. And you can't possess a human being. Because her freedom of choice.

That's why people suffer. That's why you suffer. That's why I suffer.

You can't change the past. However, you can change your future by taking action in the present.

The bad feelings you have against these people don't have any physical existence: they exist only inside your own head. Realising this is the key to eliminating it. The grudge belongs to you.

You can choose to forgive and forget, and feel sorry for these poor misguided individuals, or you can harbour your grudge and ill-will and feel bad whenever you think of them. It's your choice.

To get rid of the bad feeling, just say to yourself what's done is done, it's time to move on, my life will be better if I can eliminate this source of stress, I really don't need to worry about it, life's too short. I bear these people no ill will.

To me, holding onto a grudge is satisfying evil. Regarding that particular instance, you'll only eat yourself up and become a very ugly person. Did this horrible thing happen to you? Is it a crime that can be reported? Either way, prayer helps, and you can be a better person to forgive someone, then tuck it away. Best of luck to you.

Well it depends on what it is but i think at the end of the day you have to move on, you can forgive but i doubt you'll ever forget but in time it will get easier. Just because you forgive its doesn't mean you have to start being friends, it just might make things less uncomfortable between you if you can be prepared to out the past behind you. After all past is past and their is nothing you can do about it.

As time goes by, you'll realise how little those people meant to you, and how there is no point is wasting time thinking about how horrible they were. Trust me sweetie, after a few years, you'll wonder why you let it bother you at all. I don't think you need to be able to "ok, I forgive you", it's enough to be able to say, even just to yourself, "you mean nothing to me, nothing you ever did or ever will try to do can affect me. You mean nothing to me" Good luck hun.

It really depends on how bad this thing was they have done. There is a saying once bitten twice shy. No-one likes to be hurt but sometimes we unintentionally hurt others by what we do. If it was intentional what was done to you then I don't think you have to forgive them, just find more mature people to associate with.

hi Princess. the 1st step in ridding your self of those psychological anchors is to nicely known that the only guy or woman being harm right it is you fairly not the guy who harmed you. there is not any the Aristocracy in making your self depressing. there is not any reward in resurrecting painful ideas, different than a dose of clean soreness. in basic terms once you're keen to confess that it is self-damaging habit are you waiting to commence handling it. once you comprehend that periodically renewing your previous hurts makes as lots experience as walking on sharp pebbles will you be waiting to quit punishing your self. Care extra approximately your present day and your destiny than approximately your previous. Why smash on the instant and the next day with regrets from the day previous? Happiness isn't in basic terms a question of doing beneficial issues. It additionally demands that we quit doing unfavorable issues. Forgiving is doubtless one among the toughest issues we could do, yet it is because of the fact we try to end it with emotions particularly of an act of the will. Forgiving is often on your superb interest. It stops the grudge from doing you destiny harm. that would not propose you will forget approximately. Forgiving nevertheless leaves a scar. Refusing to forgive leaves an open wound. you additionally could make the version and get your means back from each and every of the painful ideas of previous. Forgiveness makes you sense better and it heals you inherently from interior, of direction forgiveness doesn’t propose you could forget approximately yet with the humiliation that replaced into executed to you could exchange into the potential on your new attitude and reason to be chuffed. So loose your self from this bond and sense chuffed which you have the potential to forgive for better the next day. the only beneficiary would be you no physique else. You benefit fulfillment and prosperity on your every day life once you don’t have unfavorable emotions. human beings around you will adore you extra. once you instill beneficial ideas your ecosystem will additionally such as you and you could appreciate extra particularly than sulking all on my own. unfavorable emotions in basic terms lead you to suffering so forgive and stay fortunately. psychological suffering is the biggest enemy in human minds. you could in no way enable it stay interior you. wish you each and every of the superb xoxo the secret to a chuffed life is to comprehend the thank you to take excitement in each and every of the flaws we've whilst we've them and not could lose them before we comprehend what we had.

Just think about how you would feel iit was you doing that horrible thing. You would want forgiveness, forgive and forget =)