sister's behavior confusing and upsetting me?

Here's my take on things. I hope you don't get upset by it.

Your sister has cancer...advanced stages of cancer, and the end is drawing near. She has probably come to terms with this, and is reminiscing on all the wonderful times in her life, and all the wonderful things she has experienced. While you may not want to remember that wedding so long ago, your sister might. Maybe she had a wonderful time that night, and that picture of you and your ex husband is a pleasant reminder for her.

I would accept her judgment for what it is, and let it be. It's a picture. It was over 30years ago. Let it lie.

I don't think sis meant any harm. She kept the picture for 2 reasons.

1 you gave it to her during a time when you were happy with your then husband. Happy enough to have married him.

and

2. Because she loves you, and most likely considers it a beautiful picture of her sister on one of her wedding days.

I think your daughters completely overreacted. Sure that marriage didn't work, and the guy may have been a jerk. But at one point in time you DID love him enough to be his bride. Besides, that marriage is the past.. and I assume once you got out of that one, you went on to marry their father. So what's the big deal? It's only a picture. Something your sister obviously has cared about to have hung onto it this long. She's sick.. tell your daughters not to be petty and get upset by something that obviously still gives your big sister fond memories.

why would you say that she is older and smarter?

i don't see the connection to this situation at all

don't get down on yourself like that

given the information that you have presented here, i think your sister is in the wrong

maybe you could begin the conversation by thanking her for all the time, work and effort she put into this project. THEN start in on the inappropriate picture bit. maybe she is looking for some credit for what she's done?

i think that using that picture was really mean and inappropriate of her, i wonder what made her do such a cruel thing? sounds to me like there is more to the story, maybe something that you are even unaware of

good luck with this

hope you can find the answers and resolution you are looking for

Let it be. This is not serious problem to get upset. As you told he is bad guy and you decided to get apart.

Some time people may make wrong decision and it is not big deal because people can make another decision which will overcome for such bad decisions.

Even then that is part of life. And Past experience of life is not for hide. Infect you can learn suggest other be aware of such kind of circumstances.

I have a whole album of pics from my brothers first marriage (and many other people's first marriages). the thing is, now he's divorced and married to another girl. but me along with many other relatives are still keeping pics from his first marriage. it never crossed our minds that we should discard them. nor did he ever request that we discard them. similarly, when you divorced that guy, did you call ur sister up and tell her to destroy all pics. those pics are technically her possessions and maybe a good part of HER memories. they might cause you pain but whats her fault in this. she probably enjoyed a lot on that wedding and now that she's ill, she wants to hold on to every good memory of her youth. your daughters are 24 n 25 now. so that first marriage must have been a long time ago. try to make your sisters life beautiful, not more miserable. don't fight with her over petty things. maybe you're just depressed and maybe angry that she's ill. tell her you forgive her and you love her. and tell your daughters seperately that you are sorry for that mistake but they have to move on. tell them that picture are just memories. good memories or bad memories but when someone gets divorced, people don't automatically know that the divorced person wants them to destroy all pictures of their wedding unless he or she specifically requests them to destroy their wedding pics. and somehow you forgot to tell your sis to destroy those pics. Remember, you have to be the stronger one here. and take control of this situation. good luck!!

it is a "double sided sword" question. A : You do ought to admire your sister's dedication to somebody new. B : in spite of if, you need to have some say in telling her to maintain the inuendos to a minimum. C : attempt to get to understand this "L" man or woman. Is she in any admire like your sister? if so, talk on your sister and "L" and tell them with regard to the way you hassle on your babies' sake. My behaviour : My fiancee and that i've got a %. which you would be able to talk in public, and infornt of my nieces and nephews, we hug and carry hands. No touching no not something. Sorry, i'm exempt out of your one question, (How previous have been they while they found out you have been gay/bi or different?) yet my sister is lesbian and he or she grow to be sixteen, i grow to be 8 and that i got here upon her with yet another lady in my room kissing. She informed me it in basic terms made her satisfied and that she was hoping shall we stiol be friends (and could nonetheless are on a sidenote). ultimately, your sister makes her judgements (seek advice from "A") yet you need to tell her that this manner of social behaviour is unacceptable in front of such youthful eyes.

This has nothing to do with wether or not your sister is smart..or older. Not sure what her motive is but she was wrong for doing that. Why does she need that photo anyway? I would ask for it back, or just take it back if you have the opportunity. Since you have tried talking and you get nowhere, I wouldnt waste my time trying again. Get the photo back...its a bit puzzling as to why she woould do this??