A Dillema ... ditch my bf or my mates?

You should of course go with your friend, over the next year you can go out with your boyfriend whenever you want to, if you are a true friend and you want to remain as a friend to this girl, then you know where you should be, if your boyfriend does not want you to go with your friend, then he is controlling you and once that starts, it will not stop, friendships often last a lifetime but a relationship with a boyfriend can be short lived.

You have a couple of options - you could ask your BF if he minded you postponing til the following weekend and if he says its fine go out with your mate but if he gets funny speak to your mate and say look sorry but I've already got plans can I meet you the day before and go for an early drink with you or just go for a couple with your friends then meet up with your BF later.

NEVER!! NEVER ditch your mates for a boyfriend.

Go out with your mates

When lovers break up, good mates are always there.

Dont ditch him either, just tell him the truth and he should understand (it will also give him the chance to eye up other girls when he is out with his mates... lol... joke :-D ).

If he doesnt want you to go then he is not worth keeping...its heading down the slippery pathe of being controlling, which is really really bad news... that is when you ditch him for good.

I know exactly what your talking about. i was you in my situation and i said to my gf that my mate was going to wales uni and we were all getting together sending him off so we wouldnt be able to go out that nite (we had planned a nice romantic meal etc) she kicked off and was a dick and i finished her.

The thing is in the past i have been the person being told that too, another g/f i had wanted to see her mate before she moved to australia and my words were simply go, have a good nite and make sure she leaves with all her good mates saying goodbye. ill still be here tomorrow. txt me in a bit or when your home so i know your safe.

i dont see what the issue is - tell your bf if he kicks off hes a nob as he will still be going out with his mates!!!!

yes it can be awkward cant it, how close is the person to you who will be leaving for a year, if not really close say youll go for an hour and meet up with your bf later, if your really close your bf would understand cos he ll be here next weekend you could go out then, or could you all go out together might be more of a laugh. or simply your bf asked first you already made arrangements with him so stick with that, whatever you decide hope you have fun x

could you not get your bf and his mates to go out with your mates as normally the more the merrier. as if u chose your matesthen ya wont enjoy yourself as you wil be feeling guilty and vice versa.

would yours mates choose their bf or would they choose you!!

you had already made plans so dont fall back on them or even if you go with ya bf and then meet up with ya mates in the pub or nightclub.

your friend might be annoyed but you just have to explain that you are goin to be with your bf for the future and that you wont see her in a year sure she would understand.

hope this has helped.

cant u go to both? go out for a drink and then meet ur bf after? or maybe arrange to all meet up in the same place? im sure ur friends wont mind espeically if ur bf asked u to go out first

attempt and make bridges, possibly ring or e mail her; yet nonetheless pass out and experience your self, from her perspective she in all probability would not comprehend the impact or how she could sense on your place. My chum grow to be like this with somebody and having spoken to her/seen her almost on an popular basis, I spent approximately 2 months asserting not something extra then 'hi'. She ought to comprehend at last and there is not in all probability something you're able to do, attempt to not be too disappointed, i are conscious of it is annoying we've almost all been there.

see your mates, they're leaving for a year... you can always do things with the bf anytime... if not, you will find another and replace him with a better version I'm sure. He'll either understand or be getting over himself wont' he

you can go out clubbing with your bf and his mates anytime. You can't do anything with your friend for 1 year.