An angry parent and sex?!?

You might not want to hear this, but she's not going overboard. You're the one who's wrong. She's your mother and you are still a teenager. What if you were to get pregnant? Don't tell me you'd be okay with it or calm about it? You wouldn't be.

What would you do then? What about school? She's your mother. She knows these things for a reason; she's the one who raised you. And would your boyfriend still be there for you? Your life would be ruined because of this one decision or in one time. Just because you're using protection each time, it doesn't mean you can't get pregnant.

She's not going overboard. She's being a mom. YOUR mom.

Edit: I know what you're talking about when you say your mom isn't very easy to talk to. My mom is the same way. At least she was for a very long time and we had a hard time getting over that, but things have been a lot better. With this particular, issue I can't really see how it would be easy to talk to your mother about it. Not unless she was okay with teens having sex, which I can't see many parents--especially moms--being okay with.

Why don't you give her time to chill and while you're doing that I'd keep away from your boyfriend. If you give her time to chill but still hang around him, she'll never get over it. It'll be a "betrayal" to her. When she's done chilling, explain to her that you think or do love him. See what she says then.

I'm sure after that, things will ease up a bit. She will still be on edge; parents don't get over that overnight. But she'll be better.

Good luck!

I think both of you hold a strong position on the dilemma at hand. Try to see it from her point of view in that she's your mom and she wants the best for you, I'm not saying that she doesn't approve of your boyfriend because I don't know that but she doesn't want you to get hurt. Having sex with someone generally makes it that much more difficult if/when things don't work out. You're also still very young. I know that at 17 and 18 you feel like you're all grown up sometimes but you do still have a lot to learn.

Your side is also very understandable because he's clearly shown you commitment over the last five years so it isn't unreasonable that you've chosen to take your relationship to the next level. I'm sure that you're an intelligent girl and that you have good judgment in that you're being safe every time, I hope.

Ultimately I think it comes down to mama needing a little time to cope with the fact that her little girl is growing up and that she can no longer control everything that you do in life. Just try not to flaunt the fact that you're now sexually active in front of her.

Good Luck

five years ? your definitely not wrong especially if you love him. i dont think your moms going overboard because she's a parent and that's what any parent would do. i've been with my boyfriend for nine months and we've already had sex and i was a virgin before him. everybody has sex with their boyfriend its very normal. hopefully your mom will accept it sooner or later.

Hmm, my mom did the same thing as soon as she found out me and my boyfriend were having sex.

I really love him and now i cant see him. :(

My mom found out maybe 3 to a month ago.

I think its just your mom is upset.

She has always thought you were her little girl and now that she knows you are growing up and having sex she is upset.

Maybe you should talk to you mom. :)

she is going over board dont leave him u sound genuinly in love so try to explain it 2 ur mom again and again until she gets it.

well... shes wrong. its your life, but she is only freaking because she cares. :]

& they think your not ready blah blah.. shes going overboard, but she only cares, if it was my mum she would probably talk carmly to me....

:] hope i helped.

dont leave him. your mum is totally in the wrong, she'll calm down soon though

shes just upset your growing up. she probably thought you were still a virgin