I've had a boyfriend for 1 and a half years, should I break up with him? (reasons listed)?

Sorry if this sounds harsh. I've seen friends in similar situations way too many times to have patience with them anymore:

If you've always wanted to be a guest on "Jerry Springer," you should stay.

Otherwise, you are long overdue for getting the hell out of that relationship.

Also, stop with the pot. If you honestly couldn't figure this out on your own, you need to save ALL the brain cells you have left.

If you can handle only being friends then thats great , chances are , he will still be bringing you down with his problems . I would be depressed too if all I did was smoke pot all day and not have a job that makes me feel good . Work doesn't have to be something you dislike .

He obviously doesn't respect your feelings , he knows not to call you when he's blown because it will cause problems so he will just wait and talk to you sober. Theres nothing wrong with getting a buzz but you should have priorities . Getting stoned with the guys is more fun for an 18 yr old guy than doing it alone , thats because it takes some guys longer to grow up .

As far as your car , chalk that up to experience , been there , done that , don't let anyone drive your car .

His going out with your not so good friend only proves that he will crap where he lays , thats not good .

As far as his rudeness , don't tolerate that , if you stay with him , leave when he disrespects you . If he gets mad , oh well .

You love him because of what you had at one time , don't cling to things that don't stand true now .

Basically , you should have a boyfriend that has common goals with you . So you need to decide if you want to wait for this guy to grow up or go on with your schooling and get your life right , I have let people influence my career decisions in the past and now I regret it . You have your whole life to get a boyfriend , concentrate on your goals and if a guy comes along ......

I agree with your intuition. There is better out there for you. Frankly, I think you've spoiled this guy by being with him.

Now that you see that he's a loser and you can find someone who will treat you right, even if you do try to hold on to the relationship it's only a matter of time.

The relationship will end one way or another down the line. I recommend doing it now, rather than waiting until later when you'll have a much more directly hurtful reason to leave.

Do you have reasons why you'd want to stay with him? If they are too short or don't seem to weigh as much as these then it seems like you are ready to move on. As for him still forgetting to call you because he's high and not paying you back for the damage he's done to your car, he sounds really immature.

The decision is really up to you. Anyone here can tell you not to leave him because you love him and should accept him for who he is, or that you should leave him because he is a loser who does too many drugs. But it's really your decision. Are you happy? Can you see yourself without him? How would you feel about seeing him with another girl, Would you care or would it not even phase you?

You should probably talk to him about how you really feel, and see what he has to say about it. If he doesn't seem to care, or says "**** you I'm not apologizing." Then you probably know what you'll have to do.

He obviously doesn't care about you enough to treat you with the respect that you deserve. A guy like this should probably never date anyone. You might want to try and get him help. If he has all of these problems, try and get him to talk to someone. I can understand why you don't want to get rid of him but if the time comes you have to do what's best for yourself. You sound like you are really selfless and you care about others beside yourself. Maybe you and this guy need to spend about a week away and then see if he sees what he missed out on.

You defintiyl need to break up with him. That is the truth. Can't you see for yourself that this isn't a good relationship?

You can't let someone treat you like you know what and if his friends are losers, then most likely he is too, and they will drag you down.

He is NOT the right guy. And sticking around him just because you feel bad isn't good at all.

I can't see why you love him. There are wayyy better guys out there.

Keep on looking but focus on school.

You might still be a little young to realize this, but you can't fix or change people. They have to do that on their own. Don't expect this guy to change for you, it's been 1 1/2 years with you and it hasn't happened. If what you have is enough, great, stay right there. If you want more out of life, and please say you do, leave. Maybe things will change down the road. But they won't if you keep doing the exact same thing.

Sweety, I'm not reading all that stuff lol.

Listen, if your not sure if he is the guy for you, then tell him you need some time alone to think things over. Some alone time. If he dont like it, then too bad. Tell him you wasn't asking his permission you was telling him the way it is going to be.

Date casually or not at all during that time. You need to be alone for a while to think things over. Maybe date someone else for a bit. If you are questioning your commitment to this guy, there's a reason for it. Always trust your gut instinct.

And mine is telling me this guy isn't for you.

I think you should break up with him. He doesn't seem to care how you truly feel and doesn't seem to care what effect his actions have on you (with the car etc). If he has anger problems and depression you can still be his friend to care for him, but that doesn't mean you have to be in a full on relationship with him.

to be honest with you i think have just answerd that question yourself yes there is something out there better ,you don't want a man who shows no intrest in life and if he is rude t ou then theres no respect , you sound like a pretty smart girl iand i believe that you know whats right 4 u and ur future and my opinon is that he is not what ur future needs but you and your haerty and consious know whats right go 4 it be free