Do Long Distance Relationships work?

Hi there,

Long distance relationships do work, as long as both people are willing to try. There are certain rules that help LDRs to stay strong and healthy.

It is very important that you clarify from the start, what you expect from this relationship. How often will you be in touch? Is is an open relationship? etc. Making sure you are on the same page will save both of you from future drama and heartache.

Discuss and plan if possible, when and under what circumstances you will be able to unite and live in the same area. This is will arm you with lots of patience and courage. Feeling that your LDR is something temporary, can fill you both with hope and expectations and make the time you spend apart seem less painful.

Keep in touch every day. It doesn’t have to be a conversation for hours on the phone.

Just remember that being apart is not always a negative thing. Not being able to be with your partner physically, can actually improve your communication with them, because you both learn to listen.

Try to see each other as often as possible. And make sure to have a great time (no pressure!) this will keep you going and longing for those moments.

Finally one thing you need to remember is that long-distance relationships, as every other relationship, are built on faith, love and understanding. Although they need a little more effort because of the distance factor, it is possible to make them work and lead them to a very happy ending.

I guess it depends how long you guys are planning to be apart and how long you've been together. Me and my husband were together for 3 months when I went away on business for 3 months, we stayed together and talked on the phone/net/letters everyday if not multiple times a day. It was really hard and in the end he quit his job to move with me. Having said that when I was younger my first love went to uni 500 miles away and we broke up 6 months later cause it just got too hard, so I guess its all about the two people concerned and how committed you are to each other. It can work if you both make it work

If the long distance wont last forever and is only temporary than yes. Are you or him willing to move?are you guys good at sorting out your problems? Is this the eprson you want to marry?

If you are a super good communicator,, a person who can stand to be on her own and not want to date other guys (can he do the same?), if you can stand watching your other friends have their boyfriends around and you are still happy to have a long distance telephone call, if you are willing to travel great distances and long in between to see your loved one, then yes

and if you answered no to any of ttese.... probably not

they're rare to find but it is possible.

i'm in one right now and it's going to last, ooh, 4-5 years or so.

the cool thing is that i'm not even worried. i was really worried about alot of things but we talked them over and now we're not worried at all. we talk about the wedding as if it's tomorrow =D

we've been (i guess kind of "officially") in love for over a year now and our love for each other still grows every day. it's really surprising but it's true.

when we see each other in 9 months it will have been a year since we'd last seen each other. it's horrible, i know, but it's something we have to deal with. hopefully this will be the longest period of time that we won't be able to see each other.

anyways, it can work. my girlfriend and i are living examples =D

I got with my now fiance in January. I also dated him my senior year of high school a few years back. He lived in California after we broke up and I lived in Texas. It was very hard but I moved to California at the end of March and I couldn't be happier. It really depends on the people and what you can deal with and your commitment to each other. :)

Love to say yes.But no.There`s way too many things that you can get away with while away,and less people that know someone else that knows you.The temptations too high.But hey let`s throw in maybe if there`s a short time b4 the long distance becomes close distance.

sry but to be honest your chances are not good. i tried it and it fell apart fast. because u cant be away from your mate long, cause the more ur gone the more there is going to be of other things/people. the more your not there, theres always someone else to see or b there. its much easy to move on from somone when there hardly around and they might just get more and more comfortable being apart. so be carefull. and good luck..

I've been in one for two and a half years (In one hour. =D) and we've been perfectly fine. Then again we're not very far apart. He's about an hour and a half to two hours away from me, so we see each other about twice a month.

they do work out until an ex from either side decides to come back.. i tell you this because my sons father lives an hour an a half from my home and everything went so well. but his ex lives 5 blocks away from his house and well she often looked for him. he was irritated at times but when he fed up he got back with her.

i don't mean to disappoint you but it takes two and it goes both ways.

i hope it does work out for you because it hurts to be in love and not be loved..

best of wishes to you lady and break a leg ( it's bad luck to wish you good luck).. don't take it offensive,

♥OLi

If both are 100% committed there is a chance. Ive been in one before, didn't work!