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I've known him from work i was never interested in him cause i didn't wanto risk falling in love again..and i wasn't attracted to him but i risk it , and we've gone out a few times, yes we were sexually active and he was such an adventrous guy i became attached to his ways he treated me so nice, come along way just to pick me up see me veryy kind indeed we laughed after sex during sex in the car every where but.. saturday last week me and him went to a beach party at first he didn't want to go because an ex girl of him supposely was going to be there.. at that time i already suspected him and i told him be honest with me cause if you are screwing another girl tell me cause i don't mind as long you tell so i can do also what i want you know what i mean after i convinced him to get out (mayor fight) we sat had some drinks etc... then the ex girl came with a friend of mine in class imediatly when he saw her he went to his car.. after that i saw the girl heading his way after a few minutes the girl in my class told me her friend (the ex was also his girlfriend) i was shocked because i didn't knew he had a girl if i knew i would never done such a thing... no it's been 4 days i think and he only called me 2 times today and the night i found out.. i mis him extremely but i don't wanna go backk to him cause i feel bad for the other girl which he seeing fo 3 years and me only a few months.. soo if you were in my situation would you call him back cause i didn't talk to him nor spken to him for these 4 days.. i'm trying to get over him.so i won't take him back .if i pick up. i just wanted to know what would you do?

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I had bad nightmares when I was young (around the same age). You may just talk with him about how when he is dreaming he is not able to control his actions - things happen that he is not in charge of. But when he is awake, he is the one in control. He can decide to sit down, or get up and get a drink of water, run down the hall, etc. Also, if he asks "how do I know if I'm dreaming", you might just try asking him "what do you think?" By his age, he may have his own ideas. I'm not trying to make light of this at all - I remember how scary my own nightmares were (and I'm a parent so I know they can get really upset about things). But sometimes, they can play things up *and* they can sense it when they've struck upon something that we can't figure out an answer to and sometimes they'll kind of take it and run with it. And I'm sure you're already doing this, but I would suggest that you encourage him to talk about the dreams(if he wants to). The more he talks about them, the less likely they'll actually be to reoccur. And, they will become less "real" and scary. My father always told me that anything that was in the conscious mind before you went to sleep wouldn't make it into the subconscious mind as we slept. That really doesn't make much sense to me, but it always worked. I used to tell him what I was afraid of dreaming about before I went to bed and I never had nightmares about those things - I think partially because he turned the things that were scary into things that were funny. A bit of reprogramming maybe. Anyway - good luck. Hope it passes soon.

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