my husband is cheating on me ?

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i have only been married for two years with one daughter. all along i have been receiving signals through dreams that my husband is cheating on me. even though i knew he was keeping late night i never took it to heart because i felt that for the relationship to be really serious he needed to sleep over.  the only noticeable changes were that he wasn't taking us out, wasn't making love to me  and preferred to sleep with the baby in between us. also his attitude towards me changed drastically, he became very hostile and rude at the slightest chance with abusive words. i thought it had to do with the frustrations of loosing his elections. just last week someone needed to talk to me using his mobile phone which has always been under security lock while i was taking my call a text message came in from a girl though plain but suspicious he dismissed it as just an innocent text from a friend. that aside but fate was not yet through with him because soon after settling down another one came this time filled with romantic words and reminders of financial obligations. since then i have not been myself. i spend the nights crying and to worsen the whole matter i am five months pregnant for our second child. as if  on rampage several other revelations are coming up. the latest being that one of the women is even preganant for him which maybe the reason for his rash behaviours.  the worse is that he does not even use protection and currently i am having some foul smelling discharge which the doctor confirmed in one of my antenatal visits to be infection. what bothers me most is that the man i married has taken a u turn to become the exact opposite of what he used to be. the pastor thinks its spiritual but i think its plain wickledness and a ploy to quit the marriage.  i need your candid advise before the situation gets out. of  hands. He appears a bit confused these days because i have refused to talk about it and he rarely goes out. imagine knowing that one of the women is one of the ones he actually dated before we got married and i'm wondering why he did not marry her if she was that good.

KF · Accepted Answer

you honestly deserve better. and you should respect yourself enough as a person to have that. also as a mother you  should want your daughter to have a positive and true idea of what marriage is as how it should be. 

i think you need to talk to him about everything you have mentioned here and if things do not change..i know it will be hard..but consider filing for divorce. your family (you and your daughters) deserve to be happy and with someone who respects their mother.

Anonymous · Answer

What you have to answer is 'does he make you happy?' now, not then in the past. Be honest. Its obvious what he's doing, he's probably having an affair. Men are simple minded and are controlled by their.. ahem, baser instincts. While women are controlled by their emotions. Not men are all the same, but if its getting worse its best to deal wiht the problem now then later as you have another child on the way. 
Another thing, think about your children. When they grow will he be the perfect father. Will these problems between the two of you create problems for them in later years. They are after going to be stuck in the middle of it. 
My mum and dad argued like this all the time, my dad was seeing someone else. In the end she stayed with him because she wanted both parents with me. However in the end i would have rather had been with only my mum then have to see them tear each other apart every day.

day_dream38 · Answer

I AM SO SORRY FOR YOU I AM SURE YOU ARE A VERY GOOD WIFE AND MOTHER 0.BUT IT'S NOT YOUR FAULT IF HE IS CHEATING ON YOU.PLEASE FOR NOW TAKE CARE OF YOUR SELF AND THE COMING BABY TRY TO RELAX KNOWING IT'S DIFFICULT.THINK ABOUT IT DO U WANT TO DIVORCE??? IF YES DO IT COZ HE DOESN'T DESERVE YOU IN ADDITION HE IS NOT THE MAN U MARRIED BEFORE HE CHANGED.NO WOMEN DESERVES BEING TREATED LIKE THIS.IF YOU DONT WANT TO DEVORCE AND YOU ARE NOT WORKING TRY TO FIND AN OCCUPATION PREPARING YOUR SELF INCASE YOU DEVORSE OCCUPAYING YOUR SELF AND BEING STRONGER AGAIN U WILL SHOW HIM I DONT NEED U .. GOOD LUCK MY DEAR I PRAY FOR U

black&amp;proud · Answer

This is serious, i think first thing to do is to confront your man about the situation of things.He obviously is no longer in love with you and i don't think its advisable to keep pacthing up a fallen marriage.

Anonymous · Answer

i know people sucks

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