My girlfriend of 4 years isn't interested in sex?

sounds like shes going thru some serious stuff. you might want to think about some therapy. gotta figure out whats at the base of all these probs. weight gain, lack of sex drive, and complete dependency followed by suicide threats should not be taken seriously. sounds like shes got some hardcore depression going on and youre probably gunna need a professionals help on this one.

good luck!!

If she doesn't want to have sex don't push her. It'll only lead to resentment. Try and work on some of the underlining issues first. Be Intimate. Hold and kiss her like usual. Go out on date nights and go out like you guys are just dating again. I think she'll start becoming comfortable with you again. If that doesn't work, try couple's counseling and really even if you don't try couple's counseling she sounds like she needs to talk to an unbiased, third party to get through some of her issues on her own. Although she loves you if she doesn't love herself it's probably very hard for her to show you how much she does. Good luck.

Make her forget about what her body looks like. Complement her on all her personality aspects, and how that makes her sexy.

And say that having sex burns calories quick. ;) lol.

I'm assuming that if she were to lose some weight-- she'd gain lots of confidence back. Don't tell her "I'm gonna make you lose weight" that'll probably insult her. Just have more dates where you two can go walking or take hikes, if she gets tired be supportive and happy with her-- don't make her feel like she's a burden, or incredibly unfit. Also take her to more healthful places when you go out to eat (be the big man and order a salad first, most girls will try to order something healthier than their boyfriend when they go out.)

And don't push her too much-- that'll just make her upset!

Good luck. :)

Explain to her that if she can't accept and love herself for who she is, she can't possibly be in love with you. In order to love someone, you *must* love yourself- which she obviously doesn't. That's probably why you fell out of love with her.. Especially if she puts herself down. You probably feel neglected and a bit scared of leaving her. So who cares.. Leave her. Not to sound harsh but she probably won't kill herself. A lot of people say that because they think it will make someone stay with them. Very few times do they actually go through with it and if they DO well then it's better to be out of the relationship then pulled down by such a negative person. It would be in no way, shape or form, your fault. I promise.

you need her to get motivated and love her body go tot he gym with her and help her lose those added pounds... have patience with her... doing something really romantic so she will be in love and want a 'good night ' good luckk

Refusal to have sex is grounds for divorce and has been for a long time. Tell her this, and don't let her make you feel guilty with threats of suicide. Tell her she needs to see a counselor - if she won't go, make a major decision.

honestly... both of you need to see a therapist.. it's healthy for the sake of ur relationship as well as ur personal issues.

time 2 roll out,if things were going 2 get better they would have already.