Issues I would face marrying a divorced girl?

Relationship with ex spouse:

The relationship does NOT end when the divorce is final. In fact, it take as much as two years to get over a divorce.

Until SHE is completely over "him", he will be a HUGE presence in your relationship.

WAIT for a few months before striking up a serious relationship with her

Comparison to "him":

You will always be compared to "him". And the comparisons are brutal.

There will be many things that you do that she LOOOVES -- because he didn't do them. She loves them, not because you do them, but because he didn't. You can't be yourself, you;re being "not him".

And there are going to be things she HAAATES. Not because you're a bad guy, but because he did them first. Again, you're "not him".

The things she loves will atttract her to you, but the things she hates will absolutely tear you apart.

She has got to get over "him" first.

Presence of Ex-spouse:

Unless he dies or moves away, he will be a figure in her life for a LONG time. The closer he lives, the closer he will be to the two of you.

She may curse the ground that he walks on, but when the two of you have a fight, it is a good bet that she will turn to him.

In fact, in the case of second marriages where one partner "cheats", it is most often with the ex-spouse!

Any Kids involved:

Is she had kid, you've got a whole 'nuther level of problems to deal with. Some will involve the children alone, some will involver the interaction between her and you adn the children, and another set will involve you, her, "him", and the kids.

If you;re looking for anything serious, first give PLENTY of time for her to "get over" him. Make sure that he is COMPLETELY out of the picture, if possible, assuming there are no kids. Don't even think about marriage for at least two years!

If there are kids, you are going to have to find a way to work him into the system, too. the ONLY possibel solution is premarital counseling with you, her, the kids, AND her ex-spouse if possible.

And don;t even THINK about seeing her until AFTER the divorce is final! that would be adultery, and it could jeopardize her standing during the divorce hearings.

Dear Cheetah

You stated that your girlfriend is getting divorced. Now at this particular moment she's telling you that she loves you? When human beings are in a relationship as a married couple and separate for good or divorce we need some healing time. You should not get involved with anyone right away because we are just acting out of frustration, jealousy and guilt. So with this I say be smart and don't take this girl seriously because she's on the rebound.

Good Luck

Why is she getting a divorce? She has not ended one relationship and is thinking of another? She's not very focus on life and what she wants and I think she's implicating you because you're accessible.

If you are really her friend then advise her to seek counseling for her divorce if it's salvageable. Let her know that you're here to support her but she can't use you and tell you she loves you when she has one hanging. Not very smart, moral, or responsible. If she has to divorce her husband, then you too need to be friends for a while ...take a break from the 'love' part and see if she should be in your future. The same thing might happen to you...divorce.

Just make sure she isn't looking for somebody on the rebound. Give her some time to get over the divorce, then, slowly see where it goes from there.Don't rush into anything right away.

you could just be the inbetween guy. you said she is GETTING divorced. so I take she isnt divorced yet? the fact that she is going from one relationship to the next so fast raises and eyebrow. She very well could be in love with you, but i would take it slow and see where this leads the two of you.

One of your issues is ME... I'm her ex and I'm planning on making her life hell. If you want to get involved with her, I'll make your life hell too. If she has kids, I'll turn the kids against you. I'll miss my visitations sometimes just to screw up any romantic plans you might have. She has made me miserable and I'm going to make her miserable too.

I'm really not like that, I actually get along with my exes boyfriend really well, but I know several who are. Other than that, you always run the risk of being the rebound guy. Just learn what you're getting yourself into and go with your gut.

If u love her and she does u then why not, but u need to find out why she's divorcing her husband. Because a lot of times people who bail out on others are likely to bail out on you.

Let her get over her divorce first....you don't want to be her rebound guy! Make sure she isn't just caught up in that and actually has real feelings for you. Take it slow!

her comparing u to her ex. her knowing how a married relationship is and her telling you when, where and why, how to do things...bossy

you hav wasted enuff time already, go for it... whatever it may be,, you could spend rest of your life wondering what if...?