why wont he have sex with me? (serious answers only please)?

I really feel for you karen i was married to a man like that for 12 years. You need to sort this out but you have to do it in a very sensitive way you must sort this out before it wrecks your confidence. he may be stressed ,poorly, you dont know/

you can email me if you like good luck.

try talking to him and suggesting to see a counsellor but it may be too early for that yet xxxx

go into the bedroom wearing a lacy bra matching knickers and suspenders, most men will find that really hard to resist no matter how tired he is! that way you can probably find out what the probablem is without him having to tell you and you can work on it. if he takes you up on your 'offer' then its probably because you've gotten stuck into a routein and you both need to try new things to spice up your sex life, try getting dressed up for him, doing it in different places, or try dating again, meeting at a resturant rather then going to one togther. when you live together you tend to get stuck into a rut and never try anything new or make an effort for eachother! if he doesnt take you up on your 'offer' and you still know that he feels for you then it may be him, maybe he needs help to get himself going but if he does it would be a difficult problem to aproach. which is why turning up in some sexy lingerie would be a good way of finding out, because if he does refuse, by you having to take it off it gives you a legitimate reason to question him and its making the problem clear for him to see as he may not think he has one. what ever happens and you need to talk about it make sure your sensitive about it as guys can feel like less of a man when it comes to his sex life. but you must remember that its not your fault and you mustnt comprimise your self confidence and worth!

good luck and i hope it all turns out well for you!

i gotta be honest - this doesn't look good. if he's still tired after 7 months then he needs to go to the doctor. i would tell him that you are worried the relationship is dying etc - make sure he understands this pretty serious and see what he says about that!!!

Hey, i know this may not help and i know this may add to the stress but do you think your boy friend has got some disease that he may have found out about recently and he does not want to transmit it to you, i don't know why that just came to my head. Or maybe he just does not feel comfortable any more or his gay?!

pushs you away? if i were you id be worried, if a guy does that hes doesnt see you as very attractive, like he'd see other girls who (he thinks) are so much better looking and prefer them. perhaps hes just going out with you for the sake of it?

i can understand your worries....it is important he talk to you about this but from what you say he's hesitant....perhaps he's suffering from impotence or some other ailment and is embarrassed to talk about it??

if it were me i'd ask him to make some time in his schedule to sit down and have a heart to heart...if he refuses, i'd give him an ultimatum because you deserve to know what's going on....perhaps he'd feel better to discuss this with a doctor or counsellor??

Could be lots of different things. Maybe he really is too tired. Is he a med student, too? That could make him tired.

Any chance he has ED?

He is ill, or has a man problem which he is too embarrassed to see the doctor about and even to talk to you about.

Maybe he's been hurt before by the last person.

He might need abit more confidence.

Take him out for dinner and make him feel good about your relationship.

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Take him out for a nice meal, do what he likes to do, show him some tlc. He will give in to you eventually.