caught boyfriend watching porn?

There is nothing wrong with him liking porn. If you don't like to watch , then don't. But its natural for men to enjoy it. Just accept it and move on. If you can't get over the fact that he is a healthy male, find some one who is less of a man.

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You say you don't like porn and I take it your boyfriend knows this. He probably felt that he couldn't tell you either because of embarrassment or fear of your response. Watching of porn means different things to many people. Some have no problem with it while others think it is the most disgusting thing ever. Most guys just see it as part of life and in no way would consider it to be a betrayal. If you have a caring loving and faithful partner whose only negative is that he enjoys watching porn then you are very very lucky. If I were you I would tell him that while you are not into it you can accept that he is and simply ask that he not hide it or be sneaky about it because that can make something very innocent appear guilty. You will probably find the openness and honestly will be very good for your relationship. You need to remember while you don't like porn he does. Who is right? you both are. He needs to accept you don't like it and respect that you need to accept that he does and work with that all. If you come down hard and demand he not do it you are probably going to set yourself up to be hurt in the future no matter how hard he tries. Good luck appreciate what you do have there are plenty of girls who wish the worst thing their boyfriend did was watch porn.

Okay you need to just be happy that he was not cheating also, every guy does it sum more/ then norm. but it doesn't sound like he does it all the time, and for it being real smut on the comp. I would be upset. And I'm not a person that watches porn all the time but I would rather it be a dvd. Why don't you both go to a xx store and pick one out that you approve of and can stand. Then you will know what hes looking at. Also try diff. stuff in the bedroom 7 years is awhile to be sexually with one person (I'm not saying that's bad at all that's great) but some guys get tired of the same thing every night so hun spice it up k hope I helped little. great luck with your relationship

My boyfriend watches porn and sometimes I will join him. I have learned that it can be used as a tool to enhance your life together. We are able to be more open and discuss which is offensive and which is a lesson. So even though I myself do not like porn its the nasty part of it I have a problem with but on the other hand it is a good teaching tool. So my advise to you is to sit down and explain that you feel left out and want to be a part of his life and if porn is that part, then you need to join in with him, and try to see if there is something you can gain from it, and it also will allow you to see every aspect of your boyfriend and what makes him tick. But by being locked out, you are already seeing that he feels he has to sneak. So this will solve both problems. I always say to everyone that if you try to understand you may be enlightened and learn something that can be very important in a relationship, that trust is a valuable asset.

Yeah no, guys do tend to do that whether they're in a relationship or not. Me personally, I enjoy it so I don't have much of a problem. It's their body and they can do what they like. You don't need to feel betrayed because any typical male likes porn - it's an instinctual thing and I doubt they could help it if they tried. The only thing you should worry about is if he watches porn and then comes to you for sex, because then he's just getting turned on by that instead of you and that just isn't right.

It's okay, if he's still with you he obviously still likes you, guys aren't usually ones to stick around where they're not happy. Just because he's watching porn, it doesn't mean he wants them more than you or is thinking about them instead of you, not necessarily. Guys like the emotional attachment too, not just women. I've even read that they need relationships more than us women do. They don't open up as much around other guys and so they need it sometimes.

I'd try talking to him honestly about it. It might provoke him to be equally honest.

Opinions about porn differ tremendously. It is widely accepted but plenty of people see it as morally wrong. Don't let other people change how you feel about it. If you think it is wrong for your boyfriend to watch naked women perform sexual acts then don't put up with it. My boyfriend of 2.5 years watched porn at the beginning of our relationship. No matter what people said I just hated the thought of him cumming from another chic. I expressed how I felt and it was a rocky road at first but now he never watches it. Porn can be addicting so it might also be difficult for your man to stop but do not allow it if it makes your uncomfortable. Tell your man to come to you when he is horny not to his computer. And you are exactly right about how he obviously DOES have something to hide. Who in the right mind would care if their gf caught them?

Most men watch porn...we are wired for visual stimulus, its a biological thing. Dont feel betrayed, he isnt watching it because he really likes that woman or any of that nonsense, its simply a hard wired aspect of biology..we learn/experience/etc by observing

I suggest for you one of 3 options

1) watch with him...the only thing better than watching porn is watching it with your other..even if your not actually watching it...perhaps you are "comforting" him while he watches...that would associate you with erotic fantasy's

2) make porn with him...grab the camera and become his personal porn star...he will find that alot more interesting than watching strangers...just make sure that you have the videos under lock and key and if a breakup happens, you destroy the films/pictures.

3) leave him. if you cannot get beyond this point, or if he decides he cannot trust you to be honest with you about this (yes, it is a embarassing thing to admit, even though its one of the most normal and natural aspects of humanity) then its about lack of trust.

I once had a girlfriend whom found my porn collection when I was young...she never watched before...she had a choice and instead of leaving or whatever, she asked to educate her...we went through over time loads of different styled pornography...she watched and told what she did and didnt like overall...once we were doing this together, I associated looking at porn no longer as a singular thing but as a fun thing we shared...we had quite a nice sex life after we started being honest.

Yes guys watch porn but it could be more than that...you've being with him for so long that maybe is becoming a routine. But don't alarm yourself just talk to him and ask him but don't make a whole big deal and start playing psychologist on him because because you only going to piss him. And from now on try to be more unpredictable...I'm not saying go and do it on the park but you know buy some outfits and oils and play characters like teacher student or doctor, etc. Make it fun to f****. Wear a wig and all!!! Have fun!!!! After all porno always start with a impersonation of some non realistic character. ;-D

So what. Don't make a big deal of it. Plop down on the couch and watch with him. Most men are curious about porn and watch to get some pointers or it just excites them. Watch with him and you will be able to tell if it is a healthy interest or an unhealthy addiction.

So make your own porn. Dress up in a sexy outfit and tell him he can video tape it as long as the tape never leaves the house. Start sending him sexy pics while you 2 are not together. Get him more interested in seeing you than anything else. That's the way it should be but maybe he is loosing that "sex drive" with you. Don't be upset or mad, just try to fix it. Like I said... make your own porn.