social anxiety and school work?

View the information and weblinks for social anxiety/shyness, and self confidence, in sections 9, and 38, at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris Here is an exercise that can help you. It is called "Act as If." When you are in a social situation, act as if you are outgoing. Talk more, smile at everyone, ask questions, speak in a normal or excited tone, not a meek tone. Watch some of your outgoing peers, and imitate the style of their social behavior.

Research shows that when you "act as if" continually, your image of yourself begins to conform to your new behavior. In this case, you will gain self-esteem and self-confidence, and begin to see yourself as socially normal, not shy. You will become more socially successful, and this will motivate you to continue your new social behavior until it becomes a habit. Try this for a month, in every situation you can. I am confident that you will become much more comfortable and outgoing. One form of therapy is to go somewhere that nobody knows you, and deliberately make an utter fool of yourself: put on a paper hat, and scream out: "I'm queen/king of America!", or something else ridiculous, then get back in the taxi, (warn the driver of your intentions, first) or car, and leave.

People will point, and say: "Look at that idiot". But, you're probably not up to the stage where you can do that, yet (I can, and I used to be shy). It will teach you that, although it isn't actually pleasant, you will survive; be stronger for the experience, and the next time (should you need to repeat this type of therapy) will be considerably easier. It is a form of systematic desensitisation therapy; after a while, you will get used to it, and those situations will produce a milder response in you. Remember: "A fear avoided is a fear strengthened; a fear faced is a fear reduced." Regard it as your final test: once you have accomplished it, the barrier will be broken; just don't go too far, the other way! Learn to laugh at yourself, and give a big, cheesy grin when others see you do something foolish, as we all do, occasionally. It is endearing, if you don't do it too often. Use positive affirmations: for example: "I am very likable and other people feel comfortable around me".

Write down all of your self limiting beliefs; then write down the positive counter of them, (exact opposite) and repeat them and imprint them into your mind. Most importantly: Force yourself to approach somebody and initiate some sort of communication. Start out small by asking the time and directions and gradually go bigger. Although there are anti-anxiety medications (anxiolytics) available, these come with risks, and the possibility of side effects, habituation, even addiction, and withdrawal problems, and are unsuitable for young people.

Try having a cup of "Tension Tamer", herbal tea, by Celestial Seasonings, (from supermarket tea, or health food aisles) or make some at home, and cool, then bottle, and drink as needed (I find it so strong tasting, that I need to drink it quickly, followed by something like fruit juice, to take away the taste, but others may find it more tolerable). C(h)amomile tea is a more palatable option. As with all herbal/green teas, use lemon/lime, and/or a little sweetener (NOT ARTIFICIAL!!!) but no cream, or milk.

Xylitol, or Stevia is preferable, (health food stores) or fruit sugar (fructose, such as "Fruisana", from supermarket sugar aisles) or even a little honey, because these will reduce "sugar spikes". Valerian has also been recommended, but some people experience "valerian hangovers". Ensure you know how you react to it, before doing something potentially dangerous, like going out on the roads. The idea is to use the above like water wings, to provide initial, short term support, while you become proficient in the above techniques.

yes you (and wikipedia) are right. some people do get so anxious about failing at school that they dont even try. take me, for instance. i was in graduate school doing a Master's Degree in Archaeology and I could not write a paper to save my life. I could do the research but I could never make myself write it because i knew that it could never be perfect. So i just never wrote the papers and received D, D, F in those classes. To avoid writing papers I have started studying pre-pharmacy school requirements. The good thing about these is that you have to take a test on a certain day and you are either ready for it or not. There is an end. You need to remember that there is an end. Just reqach it and get it over with.

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there a lot of people with scoial anxiety ma'am! and yours could be pinpointed at your school. its normal in some ways, you can go to a certain docter for it, but i think you can overcome this yourself :) --

i used to have social anxiety really bad, because I CARED wayyyy too much with whatevr people thought. But dear, do this FOR YOU, and NO ONE ELSE!!! got me? ;-)

I have Social Anxiety Disorder &&;; i quit school due to being alone and afraid.

I am currently in 10th grade &&;; am in my 2nd year of home-schooling due to it.

I used to not turn in my work even though i did it sometimes... especially if i was sick i would be to afraid to ask for my work.

But, idk how to exactly answer your question, so yeah. sorry.

I suffer from social phobia, sever anxiety, panic attacks, etc. I recommend this online resource (ebook and audio course) http://www.goobypls.com/r/rd.asp?gid=296.

It really helped me

Ive known a few people like this, they are simply just afraid of what everyone is thinking about them. Because of this they are actually making it worse and cause people to think badly of them...thus continuing the cycle. The solution is to just try and relax...realize that most of them are idiots who will go nowhere in life and it doesn't matter what they like. Relax and blend in and you wont stick out to people.

Please consult a dr. or an expert and talk about your problem. Don't let the fear ruin your life. At times, its all in our head and if can manage it (our mind), we are good. Take care.

if you haven't been to school for a year, then yes. you are probably the first with this disorder