Moms, need money help!?

Definitely contact the dead beat dad, you shouldn't be having to work MORE to pay for something that is just as much the Father's responsibility while he sits on his duff and waits for you to give birth to his baby.

You're putting in 9 months of carrying his child in your uterus; the least he can do is fork out the money for the circumcision.

And don't feel bad for asking him, it takes 2 to tango!

Mississippi is backwards then. I live in Illinois and I didn't even have to ask they cover it automatically. I wouldn't work for $50 a week you aren't in high school and you will have a baby to support that will be extremely hard on $200 a month!! I personally would ask my parents for the money. I would also apply for public aid because seriously you will get a lot more than $200 a month and all you have to do is sit on your butt! Which I don't think is a good thing but you will need the money. $50 a week that is a little over a $1 an hour!! You could work 12 hours a week at an ice cream stand and make more money than that, Unless of course your parents are going to be paying for everything for you and your son then I could see how $200 a month would be ok. Sorry I don't mean to go all crazy but seriously woman fought to get higher wages than that and we deserve it!!

What medical is going to cover the baby when born? This would be the same medical that would cover the cost of the circumcision. If you need public assistance go file now. SO that everything can be covered when the baby comes.

By rights the father should cover the baby under his medical insurance so you can check on that as well.

Why won't medicaid cover a common procedure such as this? It is usually done shortly after birth in the dr's office, or even in the nursery.

You need to make sure DSS has all the info from the D.B.D. so they can collect Child support for you. They can even charge him for your prenatal care and delivery. Talk to the medicaid supervisor, see if your state has a HMO program. I had my son circumcised last year, he was 8 yrs old. It was his decision. We talked about it, he talked to his dr., we told him it was going to hurt for a while. He wanted it and our insurance paid for it. God bless you, maybe God will put it on the father's heart to love this child.

Umm since when will the hospital refuse a circumcision? When I thought I was going into labor early (I am on medicaid) they specifically asked me if I wanted him circumcised. I said yes and asked about the procedure and she told me after he was born they would do it in the nursery. You should double check it. The deadbeat dad wont give you the money for it. My baby's dad is a deadbeat too and he and I rarely talk and I've never seen a penny from him, I plan on taking him to court after our son is born in a couple weeks.

FYI public health care doesn't cover circumsicions now since its considered a cosmetic procedure. I would try the dead beat dad, but dont count your chickens before they hatch, I would just ask your mom and dad, they will help you out as much as you can. But another FYI, in Canada only 33% of boys are being 'cut' now, and only 25% of the doctors actually agree to do the procedure. Sometimes its best to just let nature do its thing, and be proud of every little inch of son you give birth too.

Why not just choose not to circumcise? Here's some info you may not have seen yet-

First, only 50% of boys nationwide are circumcised. You may actually find that your son is in the minority in the locker room if you cut him. (I don't advocate making this decision on those grounds, but if you were leaning towards doing it because you don't want him to be "different", you should know that the boys will be pretty evenly split between cut and intact and no one will think intact is weird)

Second, it is VERY painful to an infant. Most doctors still don't use any anesthesia, those that do rarely offer adequate anesthesia because the only stuff that works is not safe enough to use in infants for such a "minor" procedure. Further, some of the pain meds offered to infants aren't even recommended for use on babies! Further, some doctors argue that it has been done "for thousands of years" without anesthetic- what they neglect to tell you is that a medical circumcision can take over 15 minutes to complete. A Jewish ritual circumcision, by contrast, takes under 60 seconds to complete (and the bay is given wine) Here is some info on the pain.....

http://www.cirp.org/library/pain/

http://www.circumcision.org/response.htm

http://www.cirp.org/library/pain/taddio2... (note in this one that even infants offered pain meds for the procedure showed signs of post traumatic stress!)

You should also know that studies have shown that the most sensitive parts of the male anatomy of ON the foreskin- NOT the head of the penis. By cutting off the foreskin, you remove a mans most erogenous genital tissue. Here is a study about that.... (note that other studies found no difference, but they neglected to test the sensitivity of the foreskin- they only tested the glans penis of intact and cut men and didn't pay any attention to the foreskin at all) http://www.nocirc.org/touch-test/touchte...

You should know that infant boys are EASIER to care for when they are intact. The foreskin does not retract until late childhood or even puberty, so you do nothing special, just wipe the outside of his penis clean and leave it alone. In a cut boy he will be extremely sensitive for a few weeks because the head of the penis is raw and exposed (they have to tear the foreskin off of the head in infants, it is naturally fused). During this time you will need to keep it VERY clean and may need to cover the wound with vaseline and gauze. Furthermore, to prevent painful and bleeding erections later in life, doctors are now commonly leaving more skin behind- in a cut boy this means you may have to push the left over skin back at every diaper change and clean beneath it to prevent it from adhering or infecting. The very thing that mother's think they avoid by circumcising! In short-

Intact = wipe like a finger, NEVER retract

Cut= vaseline, clean thoroughly, push back remaining skin to prevent adhesions etc (the last step perhaps for several months or years)

Here is an excellent tutorial on the basics of intact care and circumcision....

http://www.lactivistintactivist.com/?pag...

Another factor in your decision is that circumcised boys experience a 12% increase in their risk of MRSA infection. MRSA is commonly picked up in hospitals (where circumcision is performed in non-sterile conditions) and has been known to kill adults. I wouldn't want to deal with it in an infant. Also, 12% is a BIG risk, the risk of a boy "needing" a circ later in life is WELL below that- under 1%. http://www.nocirc.org/publish/12-Answers...

The so called "benefits" of circumcision are generally trumped up. A big one now is that it "prevents" AIDS. All the studies showing "benefits" like this have been poorly designed and inconclusive. Also, for every study that finds a "benefit" there are more studies that find no benefit. http://www.icgi.org/

It is rather eye-opening to see how circumcision first became popular in the US to begin with. It was virtually unknown in this country until the 20th century. This slide show takes you through the rise of circumcision.... http://youtube.com/watch?v=f4unKTMpBGA

Finally, you should watch a video or two of the procedure so you are fully informed of what your infant will go through. I will warn you that these are graphic. If you can't handle watching them as an adult, why would you expect your infant son to endure them?

There are two main methods for circumcision here is one of each-

Gomco Clamp- note that the father is in the room, and the doctor claims to have used anesthesia (although whether or not he did is debatable, and he is dismissive about the whole idea) http://video.google.com/videoplay?docid=...

Plastibell- I include this because some parents will have you believe it is "painless" or "requires no cutting/blood" I'll let you judge for yourself.....

http://youtube.com/watch?v=qaqQ5Glro84

I'm sure given all the facts, you'll make the right decision for your son. :) -Neb

bless your heart!!!!!

but, im not sure what insurance you are on, but if you are having hard times right now, you can put your son on medicaid when he is born, and they actually will pay for him to be circumsized! isnt that awesome?

if you dont qualify, which if you are on your own and pregnant, they should- then i would def. try the dead beat. he needs to help some!

do what you can and god bless you! congrats!

Do you get the medical card. Because it sounds like you should qualify. if you do the card will cover the cost.

i think you should call the dead beat! he should be helping out even if your not together. you didn't make this baby by yourself he should take responsibility like any real man should