OK I'm a married man but I've fallen for another woman ?

Hey Drama Queen...

"If ending my miserable life now could allow me be to with this another woman in a whole new life...I might as well"

Grow up, tell your wife how you've been weaseling around... and realize that you're lazy. You're reaching for an easy option -- because you were drawn together by a common event. She's desperate. You're a dummy. You will see what you've done, when everyone comments and you try and live a normal life -- and all her friends and yours are tied together already by that marriage that STARTED your relationship.

The single girl will discover, if you do summon the courage to talk to your wife -- that you're the same guy that your wife is bored with, too. Single women don't understand usually.. that they are taking in a KID and have to work around the house for, with cleaning/laundry etc etc as your wife does, as you sneak out, lie and play behind her back. The new girl is dopey, but her GFs will tell her that you've done this once.. and to watch-out during the next marriages & events down the road, for you may just meet another single chickie.

If it was me, I wouldn't invite you to any Communion parties or grad parties -- for heading you off, for even younger & easier prey.

Ok, I'm going to first tell you that you are not the only one who has been tested, and that I have been tested in the same way.

I worked for a company and this guy started working there, we got along so good and would laugh and hang out all the time. Not to mention he was really good looking. When my other co-workers wanted to go out for a couple after-hour drinks, I was there b/c he would ask me. He started text messaging me, so I started texting him, then we started emailing each other. At the same time I NEVER crossed the line, I am married, bottom line. I realized that I have a husband that I do love, he loves me, and we have children. And my husband picked up on me acting funny, he was even joking and calling the guy my boyfriend, so there is a chance that your wife might be somewhat aware that your attention is elsewhere. What I was doing, and what you are doing, is playing with fire. So I ended all contact with him, including quitting my job.

The truth comes down to "you know if life is good with your wife", but you don't know if life would turn out so good with the other woman. While part of you feels that it could be a terrific thing, you might throw away your marriage, and end up not getting along with the new woman. Then where will you be? Trust me, cut the strings, it is really hard, but why throw away something that must still be good b/c you're contemplating, but you're NOT leaving. Don't take that chance.

You also probably vowed to forsake all others. Is there something wrong with your wife? Holy cow man, take two steps back and look at this more clearly. We use the word "fallen", as in slipped and fell, because if we were smart and paying attention to what was important we wouldn't have let this happen. This girl already is a home wrecker by continuing to keep in touch with you. Break off ALL contact with her now or you are going down big time. Ever hear the phrase the grass is always greener?

You need to grow up. Seriously man dont you realize that you will be bored with this chick too in a few months? Then you will be wishing you could be back with your wife who did everything for you and promised to stand by you through thick and thin. Oh but don't be so quick to run home, because she won't want you anymore after all the "excruciating pain" you have caused her. You are not in love it's called LUST. Get some help before you lose your wife and all that you have built with her. Oh yeah and if this skank really respected your marriage she woulden't be e-mailing you and "hanging out" with you as "normal friends". Oh and last I checked normal friends don't ask hypothetical questions like would you be with me if I was single. I hope you get what's coming to you.

I can see where you're coming from. I wouldn't confront anymore as it's going to make you look 'jealous' I would try and just focus more on yourself. He's allowed to talk to women and if he cheats which is your biggest fear, he will there's nothing you can do and it will be his loss, I'm sure he won't but you need to stop with the checking emails and being so insecure. Love and marriage is a risk. Get made up and have some nights focusing on yourself with your friends and have fun. Just feel good if you're having a tough time feeling beautiful, change something get a nice hair cut or buy something sexy, life shouldn't be spend in fear or worry, have fun relax.

No, I don't understand how you can so easily fall in love with this woman. I mean what was your wife? A test drive? You're practically cheating on her. You should forget about this girl and stay with your wife, you married her, you're supposed to love her, and treat her like you do. But since you're in such "excruciating pain" and such, maybe she just deserves better than you. I also feel really bad for the other woman, how can she ever trust you? I mean your wife trusted you with loving her, and look what she's got now? How is this girl's time with you gonna be any different?

This is one of the worst that could happen. It's perfectly normal to be attracted to someone else even if you are married. BUT...you have to be sure of your feelings: are you really in love with this other woman? do you really want to end your marriage? did you stop loving your wife? do you see yourself being happy with the other woman? is it worth it? could you imagine your wife with another man and be okay with it?

This happens a lot in marriages, you get infatuated because you get bored of the same routine. You lust over something different.

Saying that, if you are sure you love the other woman and would like to have a relationship with her then you HAVE TO end it with your wife. Be honest with her, I know it will hurt her but continue leading her on and wasting your time and hers.

Good luck

Although you may not have engaged in a physical relationship with this other woman, you are still going behind your wife's back and that is emotionally cheating. You need to figure out if you love you wife enough to stay with her. And if the feelings towards this other woman are only because she is something new and exciting. It would be a stupid idea to leave your wife for someone else. Not only would it upset her very much, but what happens if nothing pursues with this new woman? You've lost your wife and the life you planned to share with the other woman has gone nowhere.

You need to think long and hard if it is really worth it. And if the other woman is worth leaving your wife, then you deserve to be happy and go for it.

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I know people in your circumstance that had an affair and got divorced. It may FEEL like a good thing to do right now. Basing these kinds of decisions on emotions is never good or loving.

Guilt and regret will last for the rest of your life especially if children are involved. It may seem like the grass is greener on the other side. The grass will be the same and once you jump the fence you can never go back.

You'll never regret being faithful to the marriage vow you made to your wife. Even though it will be hard I would end the "friendship" with the other woman that you find attractive as soon as possible.

I have great respect and admire people who are strong and remain faithful to commitments. Be chaste and have respect for yourself as a man and husband. Check out the links below for more information about chastity.

What is Chastity - http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BZajdR6Q-Lw

Why Chastity? - http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UOKlBs9Tdjc

Getting Over The Past - http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=E3oe1lK5MKw

If We're in Love, is Sex OK? - http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vXuH-x8r8MY

About Safe Sex - http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gEILo8ljT5M

Sex - When Are You Ready? - http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yJwp0s60b5U

More About Chastity - http://www.youtube.com/bostonrespectlife

Pure Love Club - http://www.chastity.com/

Eternal Word Television Network - http://www.ewtn.com/

Catholic Answers - http://www.catholic.com/

For the record - I am 25 years old and I converted to the Catholic Church 4 years ago after watching EWTN. Before watching EWTN I didn't know the meaning of the word chastity. Learning about chastity really helped me have greater respect for myself as a woman. Anyone can practice chastity, at any age, married or single. It's never to late to be chaste and it doesn't matter what happened in the past. I practice chastity and I plan on giving my virginity to my husband if I ever marry.

You're not "in love" you are in "infatuation" or "lust" with this woman. You've already crossed that line in your thoughts. You should talk to a minister, counselor or a older, wiser man you respect. Someone who has made good choices in his life and is happy.Preferably one who has been married to the same woman for at least a decade.