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Fighting with spouse leads to sex dry spell?

Ok, my husband and i have been fighting non stop for about 3 weeks to the point of not sleeping in the same bed and then it all came to a head and we decided to stay together, and that we still love each other, and are still attracted to each other and are on the path to re-trusting and re-getting to know each other. The problem is that we used to both be pretty sex crazed (at least 4 times a week) and now we havent done it in almost a month and cant get back in the swing of things. its like my vagina is hibernated. i dont feel turned on at all, though i am attracted to him. Everytime we try to start something, i end up laughing or crying because its wierd and nervous and frustrating. Does anyone know what to do? Has this happened to anyone?? I want my sex life back.

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  • 1 decade ago
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    It sounds like you need to bring back some romance or desire to be with each other. Maybe you could start with "date nights" or something that you guys can do together that might bring you to a mood that would make you want to be with him instead of the same old hum drum of the daily life. Make it fun for the both of you and go into it NOT expecting to be all hot and bothered at the end of the night but just to try to rekindle the lust throughout your relationship.

    Good Luck!

  • Jenny
    Lv 6
    1 decade ago

    I would suggest you start "dating" again. Do the things that brought you two together in the first place. Sometimes it's the little things, like holding hands, a foot rub, sitting together and talking, a walk around the park, anything that can bring it all back. Sharing a bath can be fun. Try not to rush it or force it, let it happen naturally.

    You're more than half way there if you love each other and are staying together.

    Good luck :)

  • 1 decade ago

    Be care full. The both of you have put up a wall of Power Play.

    First was when you both, Split up the bedroom.

    It depends, how far your are willing to take this thing.

    If you are thinking of your needs, well just remember that he also, has needs.

    So, get that, loving feel, back ASAP.

    One of you, has to give in.

    Get pass of who, was at fault, in what ever this thing started.

    And if not, well the two of you, have to move on, because, the anger, that you two have built, will just get worst.

    Good luck..

  • 1 decade ago

    Serious suggestion: get a dildo , battery powered, to use during foreplay and get really turned on then have sex. Do this a few times until it seems normal to have sex and climax. When you feel relaxed again and calm, get rid of the dildo and just enjoy each other again.

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  • Anonymous
    5 years ago

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  • 1 decade ago

    Sorry your body has its own agenda, until your mind is completely settled and you feel good about this relationship and happy again your body will not react as it used to his sexual advances, try a bit of work on yourself when you are alone this may help you to de stress your mind and body, Best wishes, Grant

  • 1 decade ago

    It's the mental stress of arguing and especially, "re-trusting" issues. You can't wear your feelings on your sleeve yet until things truly feel back to normal.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Wish i could help u. Going thru same thing with my wife now. Let me no what u find out.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Have a few drinks and relax before you go to bed.

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