Boyfriend goes into sex chat rooms, i'm going crazy?

Because he doesn't consider it cheating.

He probably looks at it this way:

1.)He's not physically unfaithful, so it's 'ok'. words are nothing.

(men don't tend place emotion and sex together in the same bag as females tend to do)

In general, to males, love and sex are two different things. Women will blur these two together.

2.)Since he's not 'cheating', he can't understand why you are going crazy. Since you are not understood, you are ignored, and he thinks you are "overreacting"

3.)you have supported him, he expects you to keep supporting him, why not? he hasn't cheated. some people know a good thing. you are enabling him to sit around by giving him money.

You are not overreacting!!! Males look at cheating in a physical way, females look at cheating in an emotional way.

Which situation would you think to leave the male the quickest?

1.) Male has 1 night stands- physically cheats on you- different girl every time, but he never sees her again. when he is caught, he apologizes, begs forgiveness, blames himself, that he is weak, doesn't deserve you. The rest of the time, he is always home. He takes you out to dinner every once and a while. has a good paying job, pays the bills, always listens to you when you had a bad day, encourages you to do the things you fear to do, etc

2.) Male has NEVER slept with another woman, but:

doesn't work. sits and watches TV all day. Ignores you, goes out with male friends until all hours of the night regardless of what you say. belittles you when you complain to him. Makes snide/ nasty remarks about your appearance.

Which one are you ready to leave first?

>Understand why you will probably never see eye to eye with your boyfriend

>understand that you have valid concerns, you are not overreacting.. he is not "getting" it.

>sit down and figure out if you want to invest any more time in a male that does not understand your emotional needs.

woman tend to have a natural fear of letting go of a male once they have them...

Men go crazy while chasing females (one reason he is doing this is for the thrill)

women go crazy trying to hang on to the current male(this is why you are feeling anxious)

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I don't think he's doing it to you, per se. It sounds like he may have a sex addiction issue that is coming out in these chat rooms. They may well appeal to him because the people are strangers. Nothing you do can change him- only he can make this choice.

Get him to go to counseling with you. Perhaps he'll recognize that this is something he needs to change- perhaps he won't. If he won't get help or can't stick with a program you need to decide if you can live with it or not. If you can't you need to move on.

Give him a little time to pick up his act and tell him straight out that if he doesn't, then you're moving on. You sound like you genuinely care about him and if he's going around behind your back doing god knows what then he really doesn't deserve your compassion.

I may be sounding prejudiced here, but my guess is that guys who are always in chat rooms are typically the guys who have no social skills or manners and can't communicate publicly. If this is true with your boyfriend then it sounds to me like he has some rough edges he needs to smooth out. But if shouldn't be your job to help him with his personal issues. Especially if he's giving you crap.

So tell him to shape up or ship out.

Dump his sorry a**. He doesn't deserve you at all. He is a lazy bum trying to live off of you. He may only be in the chat rooms, but you did meet online so if he isn't already cheating it is only a matter of time. Plus you support him. What a loser he is. He doesn't even know when he has someone good in his life. Sorry to be so blunt, and i am not saying these things to be hurtful, only to say that you deserve BETTER! Dump him, leave him dumped and find someone that deserves someone like you. Good Luck

Ahh your story is touching.. Hurts to see that you put up with this piece of sh*t.. I know it hurts but just let him go, you know if he lies and flirts, its going to cause more troubles.. He if isnt going to be honest, in the long run, he wont be honest throughout your relationship with him.. I know it hurts to let him go even though you sadly 'love' him but let him and go and find someone who is going to respect you.. Im sorry to hear that you supported him and trying to help but you got to stop putting up with his bullsh*t.. If he is ignoring you its obvious that your confrontation worked and you caught him red handed.. He has no sources to back it up and no excuses.. Just let him go, i know its hard to let someone go, but within a givin amount of time, you will be over him and happier than before.. I dont know the exact reason why he is doing this to you but some guys are jerks okay.. They dont know how to respect women and that they are equal to men in the human race.. Its a disgrace, the is a battered planet and we are all corrupt.. He is just a player who wants as many girls in his pants as he possibly can, do not fall for his intentions and i hope to see you happier than ever when your single and supporting yourself.. I am proud of you for making him as happy as you can, not that he deserves it but is that you are truly a wonderful girlfriend. He just said all that bullsh*t about missing you so he wouldnt be 'hurt' if you dumped him and so he can get into your pants and actually have a girl to hold but that doesnt matter.. Its focusing on the future now and its all thats left.. I dont want you to put up with this sort of bullsh*t anymore and i dont think any good hearted people should..

Hey u r so possesive on ur boyfriend thats the problem.. i dont complain u ..its the true love that u have ..but u see boys ..tend to go in chat for sex just to kill time ... and never its serious,, so take it cool ..this is common ..speak with him.. with atmost care and u can settle the problem,.,.take him for an date (not sex )just spend time together ..keep him always engaged around u.. that will end the probs.,.

take him and watch Fireproof the movie. But if that doesnt help, then u should ask him his Fantacy's and try to fullfill them if u cant then idk .. think how long u been together and think. if its long u need to spice up your love life that could be why he is in chat rooms with other girls..or he could be in there missing the dirty talk that he had with you. try leaveing dirty Notes around your house ones he will see and it might help keep him off the Web idk ...if none of these work then u better off with out him and get some doctors advice to get over him. up too you...

Oh god why are you even questioning this? Your boyfriend is creepy. Any girl would think he's a creep. He has problems. Ditch him. He sounds really gross.

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