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A very important question for an asperger like me?
It is very rare/almost none that people would call me up to for an social event (basketball, concert, dinner, hang out, etc)
and the reverse that whenever I call up someone to have a social event they always refuse politely or have some excuses to refuse.
I talked to my family members saying that there has to be a level of comfort in the relationship between me and others. But I think this is a chicken-and-egg problem.
In a sense I am trying to fight the force of destiny, that I am destined to be devoid of any kind of social life.
I never do crimes, college educated, basically a good person. I question myself how much more do I still have to do or improve myself in order for people to accept me?
Others say "you have to accept/love myself first", so does that mean that I have to accept the fact that I can't have any meaningful social life and somehow by accepting that fact my situation will turn out exactly in the opposite way?
Is this the fruit of my past bad karma, and that I have to live like this for the rest of my life?
What is the basis of acceptance? Should it have any basis at all?
2 Answers
- 1 decade agoFavorite Answer
Find people who share an interest of yours...take classes for this interest. join clubs maybe. The common interest is a really good way to connect with people.
and I really doubt it's anyone's destiny to be "devoid of social life." Instead of that, you should be trying to accept and love yourself for what you listed; you're a good person, educated....law abiding haha. I'm sure you have even more god qualities than that. Even the little things.
harder said than done though, I know. Good Luck!
- WomanWhoReadsLv 51 decade ago
It's good that you are trying to set something up too. I am wondering if you ever thank people for organising events? Sometimes people appreciate hearing that others enjoyed the event too, but forget to put this into words.
I would not give up - lots of people are lonely early in life, but that changes when they find enthusiasm & people who share their interests.
Source(s): My neighbour seems a really outgoing happy man, but his wife told me that when they met he had a stutter and no friends and very little confidence. Ten years later that is hard to believe, and things will change for you. I think also that people may not always have as good a social life as you imagine. They have ups & downs too.
