is our 14yr old Son stealing $$ from us ???? ?

Leave a money trap for him and video it and find out for sure if it's him,then you can deal with the situation properly.

I might set a trap to see. Have your husband and you start keeping your money somewhere else. Only put two 5s or something like that in the spot where you normally keep it. Don't touch this money and know exactly how much is there. Start keeping your "other" money somewhere else like in the car or next to your tampons hehe. Just anywhere he won't find it. Then, wait to see if the bait money is missing. If so, I would confront him and tell him you know he took it, would he like to tell you what he did with it. If he still says he didn't do it, then tell him he's grounded until he can tell you what he used it for and why he's stealing. Don't tell him you set a trap or he'll get mad. Just tell him you know it was him.

Well the first thing I would do is to count the amount of money that is in the wallet every night mark it in some way that only you and your husband would know, if it ends up missing then talk to your son about it, he may have taken it and then threw it somewhere in the common areas of the house to deflect blame from himself.

If your son is stealing money, your husband is probably right, he is either smoking or doing drugs. Search his back pack, room, and any place else he could hide things, and start sniffing him when he comes home. Since you feel trapped, let your husband handle it. He is a parent also, so why are you in the middle. It seems like you are trying to protect your son, and at the same time, enabling him if he has a problem. My kids have never been accused of stealing, from me, or any family members. Why is it that your kid has been accused more than once, by more than one person? Sounds to me like he has a problem.

1. Set up a camera, to watch the location where your husband regularly puts his wallet when coming in the front door.

2. Have the camera far enough away, so that when your husband's wallet is picked up, the face of the individual picking up your husband's wallet, will be clearly visible.

3. Hide the camera somehow.

No! Not military school =( It even sounds bad. You should talk to him-- don't send him away. Have you tried psychotherapy, medication...? Well go to a doctor. A special doctor. Maybe-- some schools have special classes for kids with special needs. Try that! There is really no "cure" to misconduct disorders, but there is a way to prevent it. How? Providing a nurturing, supportive, and consistent home environment with a balance of love and discipline may help reduce symptoms and prevent episodes of disturbing behavior. =l A "loving home" is a home with love. Not a military camp. Do you want your kid to feel like someone still loves him? Then you have a job. ^.^ (I used another site, but I forgot what it was called, sorry) ' Don't send him away... it's not only painful for you,and your husband but for your son.

Setup a camera. Try to catch the thief red handed.

My brother was accused once, and it wasnt him. He has never fully forgiven my family. Its terrible.

i say what ur son does is take all the money that goes missing,and to prove that ur dad just lost it himself he puts it in the laundry..

and some,he takes

its clever of him,also of u to see this as a problem and not put it aside,i wish my mom actually took some interest what i did :/

ur son is lucky to have you :) trust me

I know exactly what your going thru.....It breaks your heart no matter which way you turn on this. Eitehr you believe your husband or your son! Well I am going to put it like this........BELIEVE your husband! Your husband isn't going to lie about this. If you really want to know the truth....Set a trap! This is what I had to do. My husband sat I believe 40.00 out and thru it behind something. He act like he lost it. He asked everyone did you see my $40.00 dollars......NO it was $20.00 husband just corrected me.....LOL! Well anyways he did this and dropped it behind the chair. Me and my husband lost the $20.00 of course but we knew that he was the one that got it. It broke my heart. Then I went to my son, as much as it hurt I held out my hand and told him, give me the $20.00 you found behind the chair. I told him that it was a trap for him and he fell for it. I needed to know he was doing this. Now it might also not work every time because I done this with my youngest and he didn't fall for it. He knew it was a trap! I later found out thru neighbors and he stole a IPOD and claimed it was his and I never bought him one! It broke my heart true! But don't disbelieve your husband. He wouldn't lie about that.

This is the reason you need to find out the truth! You need to know for yourself. I have even had my husband pull his hand out of his pocket and not look down but watch my son watch the money fall. Then walk away like nothing happened and my son picked it up and walked away to put it up. He stole it and my husband and I knew he did. Now that is one way I found out thru my youngest one. You really need to find out for yourself. Maybe your son didn't, but why would your husband lie about such things?????.....Don't just asume that he would lie about something that is so serious!

Honey my heart goes out to you. But remember it could very be the infuences he is around. Like other kids that do it and gave him the ideal to do it. Because they didn't get caught yet thinking they have gotten by with it.Kids tend to do what friends are doing. Not that they are bad kids. But hang around bad influences! Even kids you might of not realized who was the bad infuluences!....

Really my heart does go out to you. I hope you find out the truth!

don't jump to conclusions. maybe your husband is spending it and is trying to hide it by blaming your son, or maybe it is just a simple case of misplacing it.