Feeling disgusted about boyfriend watching porn...?

Okay I've read the answers you have gotten so far from the first moron to the last person.

I also met my partner on the net during a role playing game no less. But back to you.

How soon after chatting did you go for the internship because that could have a lot to do with how things went. New relationships are hard enough without the added stress of having to perform each day for a teacher/instructor/professor. Add to that he is not out yet and you have a good combo for failure.

Here is the good news though. He may not be out because he hasn't figured out how to tell his parents and family yet and that can be hard for some people. He may be in denial as homosexuality relates to him personally still and has a hard time understanding his own feelings on it.

His porn is the last of your worries. Why you chose this to fixate on I havent a clue but seriously don't. He had offered to delete it, but if I were you I would think this through carefully and maybe think about watching some of it with him. If it gets him excited and you excited only good things can happen.

He wasn't secretive about it and if you were out how was this behind your back? He obviously had the stuff before you came along so there was no breaching of any promises made between the two of you.

We all have lives before we meet others and as far as that goes you say you watch it some too, did you ask him before you did? I doubt it lol!

I think that perhaps you are too insecure for a relationship at this time and should stick to dating instead. Note I did not say have sex with every guy that comes along, there is much more to life that shagging.

If after you think carefully about this and do decide to pursue a relationship with this particular man then I suggest you both sit down and talk about just what that means to you both.

I just noticed that you use the word disgusted and that worries me. Why would it disgust you when it is something you have taken part in in the past? Could it be that you have personal issues to work through as well?

I realise that this is a lot to digest and I don't mean to sound critical of you or of him but I do think that you both need to decide exactly what it is you want/expect from each other before you make any relationship decisions.

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I think if you have these problems in the beginning of your relationship then you need to evaluate your situation. Do you accept this guy and what he is doing or do you just have fond memories of him and move on..One of the most difficult things in any relationship is the sexual balance. We all need and want different things. Some people are more sexual than others, some people feel like having sex a lot and others don't, and finding a compromise where both parties are happy and satisfied is most difficult. Perhaps if you had spiced up your sex life a bit more rather than sit and worry what he might or might not be doing in the next room will have kept him interested and things might have been different. I can't really see how you are going to get this relationship back on track, and if you don't trust him now then you never will be able to. I mean what would you be thinking if he wanted to go out with some friends and you were not there, do you think he might be cheating on you...I think personally you should move on and find someone who is more compatible to you closer to home.

You've done the right thing in discussing it with him. It's likely he was oblivious to how you feel about it.

Pornography is out there and its never going to go away. Indulging in some porn is not harmful to anyone, but relationship and "real" sex must come first.

I know my partner views some, and I do too. Although we never watch it together as we each have our own "taste and fancy". In some ways, porn has added an additional spark to our relationship. If nothing else, its often very educational and I've learned more than one new trick from it.

You must give him a chance to redeem himself. If you can't do that, then this relationship and possibly future ones are doomed.

It sounds like a complete porn addiction. Even if you wanted him to stop i think he would have an extremely hard time. He may even need some counseling but he would really have to want to give it up. At the same time i think you deserve better then to be with someone who gets off on porn more then you. Then again maybe he can change because after all your real and the porn is not and he seems to care about you.

I understand were your comming from. Sometimes when you are in a relationship and one of you is watching porn it can feel really strange for the partner. Like maybe they are lacking something...like your not good enough...you think they might be comparing you to some of the girls in the movies ect.

Dont be so alarmed, talk to him. It seems like he is trying to make an effort and show you that he cares about you. Dont feel scared to tell him the truth, and dont think that you are supressing his sexual urge. You are just asking him to watch less porn. By the sounds of it it seems like he is willing

It sounds like you may not be too in to him anymore, that he turned you off in some sort of way. It also sounds like on the other hand that you are kind of being a crybaby about it. That's just my take on how you wrote everything. I love porn and my boyfriends hates it! But he never says anything about me watching it. Maybe you should feel more secure in knowing that when he wants the real thing it is you he comes to. The people on the screen will never come to life, it is just fun to watch other people do it! lol Do what feels right for you.

I can imagine how you feel, But try to give him a chance so you can talk and see if you can settle down things and be on same straight line.

And i gree with sleepygu, is hard to change someone who is addicted unless the person is willing to put effort in himself. Good luck!

He has made a step forawrds and understood that he has upset you. If he wants to talk about your problems then please make an effort to talk to him.

You may want to send him this website:

http://www.porn-free.org/