End it now, or end it later?! Help me please!?

Seems absolutely medieval for your parents to force you onto someone of their choosing. Certainly, arranged marriages can work and historically have been more successful than current laisez faire methods but your parents should simply have your happiness as their interest.

Ask your parents if the promise is more important than your happiness and let them know that you're interested in a boy, perhaps they won't find the boy objectionable.

Most religions aren't too concern about relationships outside of the church provided that it brings more people to the faith so that would be a matter of your parents trust in your ethics and judgement. Some religions like the Jews maintain that the children of a Jewish mother are Jews therefore they are not too concerned about their girls dating outside the faith but are concerned about their sons dating outside the faith.

The way I see it is that religions should be about worship which by definition should be voluntary. It should be about inspiring people to be a certain way not about mandating it. Religions should not control it's people.

Merely dating someone does not you are no longer pure. If your parents are going to match you up with someone...that's your business. However, there's no guarantee that things will work out with that person. If you wish to respect your parents, I'd hold off on dating Ben....it could get ugly and complicated. Who knows, the person your parents pick out you might like even better. If not, no one says things HAVE to work out with the person they picked for you. If you're close with your parents and believe you can be open with them, then talk to your parents. Sit them down and discuss with them the whole situation and emphasize that your happiness should be what's important to you and them. Also, offer to introduce this guy to your parents (if he really is a good guy). Make sure your parents know that although he may be of a different faith, he's still a good person. Who knows, maybe Ben might even convert.

If I were you, I'd put Ben on hold. Talk to your parents and don't hold back...tell them how you really feel, and see how it turns out. If they still pick someone out for you...get to know the guy and see how it works out. If it doesn't work out, revisit the conversation with your parents about Ben. I realize you really like the guy and he likes you, but things have a way of working out. If you and Ben were meant to happen, it will happen. Sneaking around with Ben is not the solution because if you get caught, you're parents will never accept him. Confront your parents NOW....don't sneak around and then get caught and be in a world of trouble....

ask if he is willing to convert to ur faith for u. it seem like u like him so i wont loose him.