please help. i need help. please.?

Hi precious girl, the answer for you right now is in your own wisdom. You know that tomorrow things will be better, you said so yourself. That means you have enough life experience to know that these hard times come in waves and that you WILL get through it. That is the hope you have inside you, right here and right now.

On the other hand, you are grieving. Let me tell you something about strong and weak. Strong does not mean you do not grieve. Strong people cry. Strong people even get mad at G.d. Strong simply means that when you feel like you have fallen, *you get back up!* And that's what you do. It's what you have done in the past and you can take that into your future.

Now let me tell you a bit about grief and crying. Sometimes when something this hard hits us, the sadness feels like it will never end and that we might drown in it. It will end. Let the tears pass through you. Turn your tears into a prayer because it's said that tears open the gates of Heaven. Cry when you need to and know that you are not alone. (Just look at how many answers you got--and these from people who don't know you!).

Hang in there sweetie girl. I'm proud of you for not picking up the razor this time. Let your tears do the healing they need to do.

Sending you (((((hugs))))) and blessings for your friend.

PS here's a video for some inspiration watch it 'til the end. xoxox

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2I0DRk8dFjI

Hey,

I was a cutter, I understand. I cant imagine how difficult it must be to go through this. You need to be strong. and remember that your friend needs you. She did not choose cancer, but you can choose not to hurt yourself tonight. Every day, you should wake up and be happy for the things that you have right now, because it can be so easily taken from us. Be a strong person, and be there for your friend, she needs a good strong friend right now.

i know the situation can be extemely depressing but there is better ways than to cut... have you ever tried to read the bible or pray... it says in Psalm 139:14 that you are fearfully and wonderfully made - you are special and so is your body and in John 3:16 that God loves you and he sent his son to die for you because he loves you that much!! he will never leave you or forsake you (hebrews 13:5)...you might have heard this before, but you are at a loss of what to do and God will accept anyone with open arms

this is overwhelming you. and thats normal. but cutting and overwhelming is not good to mix. please go talk to another friend, your boyfriend your parent and guardian and tell us everything you did here. you need to get help before something bad happens. and i know you probably dont want to. but my friend died from cutting, just because one day she couldn't take it anymore. some cutters dont want to die. do you? good luck. please go see a parent. guardian. school counselor. anything. talk to yourself, write in a journal how you are feeling. you dont need to cut to let your feelings out that have been bottled up or because you like the pain. you can like the pain and write about it or think about it. just dont cause the pain.

Rhonda...um thats not very good advice..just saying. there are a lot of people who cut. just because you don't, doesnt mean you can say all cutters are stupid. they aren't. they are just really confused and hurt people. cutting is stupid. but the people who do it usually arent. they just have to let pain or anger out.

You need to just decide that you're not going to cut yourself. Decide that you're not going to feel bad for yourself. Decide that you're going to be a good friend.

Think of how desperate you feel, then think about your friend who is fighting for her life. Your problems don't seem so bad. Of course you're going to feel terrible for your best friend. That is completely normal. But remember that the last thing your friend needs is to be supporting you. Pick yourself up, brush yourself off and be a strong supportive friend.

I really think your friend needs you more than ever, you need to be strong like her, to support her, because right now she wont be strong without you. Please, your support is so important, to have the right word for her, you need to be stable yourself first to be able to support her. If you cant get the idea of cutting yourself call 911 they can help you. It is ok to call even when you are not suicidal.

I really agree with mama-of-4-babies (sorry if I messed it up).

Okay, so first of all you need to realize that hurting yourself is not going to help your friend, she is not going to get any healtier by doing this to yourself, you're only going to be taking away your own health. You deserve to be happy and healthy, don't think that just because she is going through pain you need to inflict it on yourself.

She would not want you to hurt yourself, she would want you to be as healthy as possible. You need to be there to help her through this! You need to protect yourself, you need to stay strong, and you need to walk away from the temptation of a bad habit that causes you harm and gives you nothing good in return.

Anytime you feel tempted to go back to cutting, don't. Talk to someone, talk to your friend, your boyfriend, your parents, your cousins, me!

Here's my e-mail: yourjennarator@yahoo.com

I really mean it, don't hesitate to e-mail me if you ever need someone to talk to or need advice, anything.

Tell your friend that she is in my prayers, and so are you. You'll both get through this, have faith.

go and talk to someone and dont push your boyfriend away

and call your friend and tell her everything your feeling that might help a little bit

but dont ever keep it bottle inside

Go to you parents (guardians) tell them that you have some personal issues that you need to deal with and if you can go talk with a therapist...

don't bottle it up. talk to someone or write it out. your parents will always be there to help so tell them what's happening. if you can, talk to your friend, but only if it won't make you feel worse.

good luck to you and your friend!!! hope this helped!!! :)