does YA ever make you feel like a bad mom?

i agree... sometimes seeing how others do things "better" or in a more dedicated matter it makes others feel bad. Just remember there is always chance for improvement, dont feel so bad. You can always improve on your mothering skills and remember they wont need your constant attention forever, the day will come when you have made their favorite meal and they already ate out at mcdonalds with their friends... enjoy and sacrifice yourself for them while you can!!!

cheer up and try harder

Well I'm a divorced, single mom now, but when I was married I felt like a single mom too! Not much has changed in my responsibilities between then and now, I'm still responsible for everything. My ex-husband made VERY little $ (yes I sure know how to pick'em) so I didn't feel much of a financial loss. The only thing I lossed was the stress of a bad relationship, so I think I have it easier now! Be happy you get to be a stay at home mom, it won't last forever, so enjoy it. Just think if you had to deal with all the responsibilities you do now AND hold down a full-time job!

I think some people REALLY stretch the truth on here. Specifically for that reason too. So that people won't think they are a bad mom. I highly doubt that most of these people REALLY do (or don't do) all the things they claim.

That being said, yes, sometimes I feel like a bad mom because I see so many other people saying, "Oh I'd NEVER do that." when its something I've done a few times. My children didn't die because I propped a bottle though and none of them suddenly keeled over because I didn't wash my hands after a diaper change. So in the big scheme of things, I've learned not to let other people make me feel like less of a person or a bad mom just because I don't do things "perfectly" all the time.

There are times when I need to step away from Y!A because I get so frustrated with the "perfect" moms who need to make everyone else feel bad. I really can't stand the ones that tell me I'm bad because I work (I should've planned my life better....did it ever occur to them that I WANT to work? That I need to be more then just a mother 24/7?) Fine...it makes me a bad mom. But I am a happy mom. And my daughter is a happy baby. Who is well adjusted to other people, not just me.

As for a bottle left out for an hour...thats allowed (even says so on the container! =D)

My daughter takes her bottle lying down sometimes, and no ear infection to be found. She is a healthy baby. And I don't do everything "perfect"

I gaurentee that these "perfect" moms aren't so perfect. Wouldn't you love to be a fly on their wall for a day or two?

I feel like people are becoming more and more judgemental on here...and it is pushing people away. Don't you want to help people? Not just make them feel bad?

M daughter is one, she slept on her belly/and on my chest. I didn't wash my hands after every diaper change, but we do keep hand sanitizer around the house (everywhere) she didn't get a bath every night, she has dry skin, it made it worse. She eats her puffs while walking around, not just sitting in her highchair. And I haven't started weaning her from her bottle yet.

Call me terrible. But I have an amazing daughter. And I know I am a great mom (whether you other moms think so or not)

your a good mom and your doing a good job. No one is perfect and you shouldn't expect yourself to be. Just do the best you can. I do stuff all the time I shouldn't do.As for watching TV with violence and cursing, I think around 8-9 months I might try to steer away from that. I let my 4 month old watch it with me, but usually she isn't looking at the TV and if she is then I turn her away from the really bad stuff. I don't want that imagine of a murder on the Sopranos burned in her head. If I'm tired I'll cuddle with her until she goes to sleep even if it's not her nap time. Sometimes instead of cleaning the house, I just spray Oust in the air before my husband gets home. Then, the house smells like I cleaned. I don't cook dinner half the time and when I do it's something I can make in 30 minutes. I also haven't been to the grocery store in about 2 months. I just keep sending my husband with a list of necessities like toilet paper and milk. Showering is also a treat now. It's amazing what being a mom does to you huh?

Some mums like to make other mums feel inadequate! Like they now how to do things better and how to raise a happier and healthier child!

Yes there are probably some things you could do different but it is your baby and whatever works for you!

I was told with both my boys not to let them sleep in my bed! :P I let them both sleep with me until 4 months! I loved it!

I dont wash my hands after every change either! I NEVER prop his bottle though that is dangerous! Leftovers are fine but no longer than hour so just be careful how long it is left for!

EAT woman! The last thing you want is to be feeling like ****! Your baby will be on the move before you know it and you need to be fit and happy so you can play with them!

NOPE AND YOU SHOULDN'T LET YOU FEEL BAD EITHER. I have an 8 month old daughter and I propped her bottles up until she could hold it on her own. If she drinks 6 ounces out of 8 and an 2 hours later she starts to fuss I hand her the other 2 ounces of formula. I watch whatever I want to watch and if she happens to be in the room with me then she watches it too. All the books, magazines, and internet chatter says to do things one way but if it doesn't fit into your lifestyle or the way you want to raise your child then you don't have to do it. No, it's not the way we should do things but it's the way things are done. It's your baby and as long as you are feeding, changing, and loving him then that's all that matters.

everyone has there own parenting technique. i let my daughter sit in her bouncer and watch whatever i have on. i dont wash my hands after changeing her but i do before i touch her bottle or anything. I would never warm up old milk/formula as it can begin to grow bacteria fast. but thats me. and my daughter has her bottle propped everytime with her head up or down flat. it helps keep more air out. if he is healthy and happy dont worry abut it but yes u need to eat i did the same thing and am just starting to eat again. i am getting my energy back so its worth it! good luck

Don't feel bad. Some of these people only like to think they know what they are doing. Plus just because some "doctor" says to do it doesn't mean they are right either some are some aren't and they have so many different views you just have to pick and choose which one's are right for you. I let my son drink his bottle until it is gone. His doctor said the germs are his and he wouldn't eat it if it tasted funny anyways. He sleeps with me too. It's a bad habit I know. I'm going to break him of it after he turns a year. I think some people just like to judge but I'm a good mom and I know it.

I breastfeed but I can't help but eat chocolate all the time. After lunch I eat chocolate cupcakes, after dinner I'll eat brownies. I can't keep that junk out of my mouth. I also sneak chips and a burger when no one is looking. I'm so hungry all the time and I normally never eat like this but every day I feel guilty that I am plying my baby with junk food. I do eat veggies and good proteins too but thats cause I'm ALWAYS HUNGRY.

Who cares what these other moms on here think anyway. All that matters is you and your baby . I don't think they are as perfect as they portray.

It happens daily, yes.

But no, I don't think I do anything really bad that I shouldn't be doing with my son. I feel there are different ways of parenting, and just because I've chosen one route with my son doesn't mean that someone who choses a different route will have a rotten child because of it.

People say some hurtful stuff on here, sometime's it's hard to see the good amidst the bad.