I'm confused... I don't know what to do with my ex..?

You know if you keep having sex with him your going to get pregnant again don't you. Is that what you want??.

Yes, what he did was cheating. Unfortunately, how that makes you feel is secondary to what's more important. Your primary concern has to be what's best for your baby. That means you have to try to make things work. Kids need a father and a mother. And a single mother can't play both of those roles. Regardless of what some people might say, a mother alone can only fulfill the mother role. If he's taken these steps, it sounds like he wants to make things right. He has told you that he did it just to get attention. This all started around the same time as your baby was born. Is there a possibility that you've ignored him since then? Guys are too stoic to tell you that they need some attention. Unfortunately, the way guys tell you this is they start chatting with other girls or going and hanging out at strip clubs.

Hi there,

Personally I think you're confusing yourself by keeping on seeing him. It's understandable that your somewhat lonely and the fact that he has just broken up with a GF makes it seem like your using each other as a fall back for security. Understandably you need to be held, loved and sexed but at the same time it's slightly a destructive circle thats difficult to break. If you want to really break the cycle and be able to concentrate fully on your baby and study then you will have to stop seeing him altogether. With regards to love, life and sex, try occasional dating and maybe a vibrator to help you through the rougher times. The dating may lead to occasional sex if you so desire and possibly a loving relationship however I am aware what with you commitments dating will be difficult but hey thats what the vibrators for:)

Hope you get sorted out and I was some use.

Oh wow. You're in a tough situation. I'd say you know the toughest, hardest choice is the right one for you now. Write him, talk to him, but sex with him right now is too confusing and emotional. Focus on what's best for you in the long run--finishing college, raising your child, and providing for your child. When you've conquered these very tough goals, consider whether he is the kind of man you want in your life--whether you'd want your child to pattern him or herself after this man. Cultivate your platonic relationships and see a counselor for your depression. Relationships that begin when you're depressed end up being skewed.

Use a condom. No offense meant. Just straight talk. If you don't want another child-use a condom-first and foremost. THEN worry about the emotional effects. Your child needs you there-and if you get some sexually transmitted disease, you are not being there for your child. Additionally. condoms have been shown to work quite well, when abstinence is not an option.

It's going to be very difficult to make the decision to leave him but cut him out of your life. Eventually, you will meet someone who you can cuddle with, have sex and do things as a couple without having to sneak around. He might be on the rebound and using you for sex. When he meets someone else he might not need you anymore. Think about it best of luck to you.

wow this is a tough one. 1st of all you need to get on the pill so you can be SURE that you wont get preggers again. TRUST ME i've seen it happen to many of my friends! 2nd of all if you think you can bang him and not get your feelings involved then go ahead. however judging from your history with this guy it might not happen like that. even though do you really want to be with someone who's gonna be cheating on you all the time? i say move on! it's about time.

Maybe he isn't the best choice for you if you still have feelings for him and all you want is something not serious. If you truly can never trust him, then stop hanging out with him.

no.. you shouldn't be looking for someone else. you should get together with him. now he can be trusted. he is the only person you can seek help and if he accepts to take care of ur child then u keep moving with him. that's best one to do..

You said it yourself - "I know I can find some one better for me" you know you are better off without him and can do better for yourself - so go do it girl! find someone who will treat you right!