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I love my ex, can you help me?

I'm still in love with my ex boyfriend. We were together for a little over a year and we've now been broken up for a little over a year. He broke up with me for a silly reason, I don't really remember that well. But he wanted me back a few months after we broke up, but I didn't want to get back together. A year went by and he dated a few other people, and I dated one other person (nothing big, it was actually a huge disaster). But, in my mind I always knew loved him. Now, it's gotten worse. He's the only person I can see myself with, and I seem to avoid other guys because of him. We still talk all the time, we're best friends. He knows I still love him but he doesn't love me anymore. I feel a little bit like the crazy ex girlfriend. Can someone help me? I don't really know what to do. Should I pursue this or get over it? And how can I? I would really appreciate the help. :)

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  • jenius
    Lv 7
    1 decade ago
    Favorite Answer

    This is a tough one. Was in a similar situation myself. Since you say he knows you still love him and he hasn't told you he feels the same not sure where to go from there other than telling him what you wrote in this question. Best of Luck.

  • 1 decade ago

    I'm not sure. If he already tried before then you might have missed your chance. But if it is really meant to be then it will work itself out in time. You could write him a short letter telling him how youreally feel. Don't make it too long because he probably wouldn't read it. Maybe say that you want his heart and you know you messed up before. But if he can't share himself with you in that sense then you still want to be his friend - his friendship is better than nothing at all.

    Then I always question that last bit. You see my boyfriend and I broke up over a year ago. After many months of just being friends with no intimacy, we got back together. Now I think about if we were to break up again, how I don't know if I could be his friend, because I love him too much to ever see him with a different women.

  • Erin
    Lv 5
    1 decade ago

    how sure are you that he doesnt love you anymore? have you told him lately that you still love him? if you havent yet, just stay on being his best friend. be more sweet, be interested in what he's doing right now, be her cheerleader, listen to his every story. be the girl he's one used to love this is without you have an intention to tell him that you still love him. just express in actions that you still love him without being too obvious. do this with detachment (accepting come what may happen in the end, its a risk) so you wont be hurt.

    if you have prepared him by making him feel that he is special to you, then while having a hang out, just ask him he still likes you then again (with detachment, in case its a "no") just accept whatever and i hope it would be yes.

    another thing, if he's sharing something about another girl to you, i mean seriously and not just to make you jealous, then i think its the time to back off. just be a little distant. because if he truly values you, he'd notice the distance you're having when he's getting close to a new girl. and sometimes friendships could spark something deeper and more profound feelings because with the atmosphere of friendship you could actually be yourself. and you being besties may realize that you can be together again.

    in time, over time, it will be clear more and more how you really want this ex to be.

    hope this helps.

  • 1 decade ago

    I think you should talk to him about your feelings and see how he feels and if he would try dating you again. And if he says no and that his feelings for you changed then I think you should juts move on. It's allot easier to get over somebody if you don't talk to them. Trust me I dated a guy for two years and we broke up for three months and I couldn't get him off my mind because we still talked and we got back together like a month ago. So you should have a conversation with him about it and see where he stands and then decide what to do. But I think if he's really done, then you should stop talking to him. It will make things easier.

  • 1 decade ago

    Wow. It's sounds like my life. Crazy. But tell him how you feel, that's the only way t find out if he still loves you. Remember this; "Trying to forget someone you love is like trying to remember someone you never met." So, you can't completley forget about him. Good luck.

  • 1 decade ago

    My advice to you, is to get over it, and move on with your life. I am in a similar situation. This guy I was with, went to jail 14 years ago. I was his girlfriend at the time. He was just recently released from prison, and he is on parole. (September 9) Since his release, a lot of things have occured. deep down inside, I still love him very deeply, but I know realistically, we can't be together, so I chose to get over him.I am going through that process now, and it is hurting like hell. It appears to me, that your guy have moved on with his life, and so should you. Try to indulge yourself in yourself. That's what I am doing to get through this process. Hell, I am even going to the all star game in Feb in Phoenix, to try to help. Best of luck to you.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    depends why he broke up with you, If he has a gf already let him be you wouldnt want girls after your bf would you? The choice is all up to you, if it were me and I was getting jealous I wouldnt talk to him anymore. But im saying from a guys point of view lol. anyways just make sure whatever you do its what you want

  • 1 decade ago

    Take it from someone who has just broken up with her boyfriend for the 3rd and final time.....move on. You cannot change people. Chances are there is someone better out there for you. Good luck :)

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    if hes really all you've made him out to be, then I'd say stick with it. But in the mean time, keep looking around. There could be a time when he sees you again as more then a friend.

  • 1 decade ago

    this is the exact situation that has happened to me a

    few months back..

    well if you really love him then i suggest you stick with it..

    but in the mean time, keep looking around.

    maybe there will another guy who will steal your heart.

    but if he has a girlfriend, then maye you should forget about

    him for a while..

    but if he goes single again, then try to make shot with him.

    hope this helped.

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