Maybe someone can have some type of explanation.?

Chris, I'm so sorry this happened. Every women should be treated like a queen, so please don't "learn your lesson." All relationships give us an opportunity to learn and grow. Learn something else from this relationship. Eventually, you will get married and you should be treating her like a queen. Obviously, this girl was insensitive to you as a person and only used you while she needed you. Now she is trying to keep you away. If that wasn't the case, then for whatever reason this didn't work out for her.... actually, she said she was only looking for someone who was catholic. It is quite likely she fell for you and it scared her and she is trying to stay far away from you to prevent herself from breaking her own rules. Our daughter has decided not to date anyone outside of our faith so that she doesn't fall for someone who doesn't meet her standards. This could have happened with your ex also.

Either way, the relationship is over. Find a way to move on. Rearrange your room/apartment/dorm. Create new music CD's so nothing reminds you of her. Recreate habits and such so that you are starting a new. Go on a few dates for the fun of it. It may take a while, but you can move on. Switch your focus to something else.

well... long distance relationships are not sure things, maybe the insecurity drove her decision along with you not being Catholic. about the friend at her party, if she invited her best friend, maybe your best friend attended as her company. may not have been intentional.

you can end the misery. you can move on and take it one day at a time filling your days with new memories and friends. put all the things you saved from her in a shoebox and seal it placing it in the back of your closet and keep it there. put a date on it telling you not to open until 30, 60, 90 days from now.

then relook how you feel and where you are at. you should smile and remember those memories and take them with you. but reminising only briengs grief and you will find yourself pulling away from friends you have around you. get actively involved and see what is out there. you are too young to let this get you down, but this significant emotional event will effect your present and future.

make it a positive move.

I know it is hard for you to get over but you must get over it... if she did love you the relationship would have continued.. it is not good to trail someone so long and make a sudden change the way she did to you.. You of course valued the relationship but her mind is on other things and not focus in continuing that bond between you both.. what you should do is make it into a positive change.. learn from the relationship and give yourself time to heal.. soon a woman that is well deserving will come along and cherish your feelings and soul.. one thing I have to mention is please do not carry luggage into the next relationship from your past in the new one.. because not every person is the same ..each individual is different.. just learn from your past relationship and carry the clues that lead you to where you are now.. find a better way.. good luck and remember there are many beautiful women out there who would be glad to have you as their man ;0)

What can we tell you? She is done, tried to let you down easy but is moving on. If you are moping and miserable, then much as she wishes to stay friends you would not be much fun at a party for a single girl to enjoy herself, would you? Sorry that you are hurting, but she did the right thing really.

She sees no long-term future with you, due to at least your religious differences and maybe something more, she was moving away, and she set you free as part of that change in her life. It would be worse of her to keep you hanging on back home while she was out meeting new people and growing new interests at her new school - and what, 6 months later sent you a Dear John letter?

well the best thing that you could do, is to move on.

find someone new, theres no use wasting away your life on something, that doesnt feel the same way.

she has made up her mind, so you need to make up yours too.

stop thinking of her like that, maybe call her and tell her how you have been feeling, and talk it out. as friends.

to me it seems like you really loved her...

but it does seem like she didn't realy love you back....

im sorry to say but it also seems like she kinda took advantage of you, because if she knew she wouldn't end up with someone who wasn't catholic, and she knew u were catholic, there was no reason for her to lead you on....

even if you never said anything about marriage to her

my advice would be still be in contact with her...as her friend, and try dating again. Maybe that'll get your mind off of her

Move on with your life.................you will get over her. It was only nine months with her. It wasnt like it was years and years.

You should've asked her why she ended it. I think you should move on. Quick. Before you go LOCO. ^_^