Dream about me raping my best friend?

Subconsciously, you're not happy with your behavior. The situation played out differently than what you would of wanted. I'm sure then it was probably funny, but by not being there for him, you might as well have slapped the cuffs. Your friend was scared and vulnerable, it's no wonder you probably see yourself raping him.

There's a passage in the bible where Noah gets drunk off the wine he makes, and his son Ham walks in on him drunk and naked. Rather than cover him up, he calls his brothers in. His brothers did not want to see, so they just walk backwards and covered him with a sheet. Noah finds out of Ham's actions and punishes him to serve his brothers. Basically the moral of the story was don't see your father's nakedness. What I got from it though was that if you see someone in distress, help them. Don't just wait and allow people to see their shame.

So yeah, the fact these dreams bothers you in such a way shows how remorseful you are. Now you're going to have to make amends. First is honing up to your actions. What you need to do is hang with him and let him know what happened, and apologize for letting things get out of hand. Secondly, just from your relationship it's obvious you care about him a lot and want people to see what you see in him, but you don't have to share all the worlds. You two have different worlds, but the one that really matters is the one you share with him. Have fun but be careful. You're walking a fine line between mischief and danger, and you don't want to find yourself on the wrong side. Believe me, don't let these dreams turn into nightmare. Getting arrested for drinking is not the worst thing in the world. I'll admit it sucks, but it's even harder getting over the idea of never being able to see that friend because you let him get wasted.

I will, in a sense, reassure you to stay calm, but more than that too. I think.

Well.... I have had... odd dreams about me raping guys that were.... weird.... and really nothing happened to me before. Maybe it is just a sense of dread or anger washing over us.

Sure, were you drunk when you were laughing at him? Or were you just regularly calm and stuff? If you were drunk/tired/not feeling well, that is not your fault really, 'cause there's been times that I laughed at someone being treated bad.

Really, nothing unusual goes on here. Well, except that he was your friend. That would simply be because you think about him a lot lately. Sometimes I'll have dreams with the people I think lot about.

Sometimes, really, you just needed to think things through. Maybe (if he is still there) go visit him in jail. Heck, even he didn't feel good, so he would surely understand.

Hope I helped! Good Luck!

Your friendship took a turn for the worse when your friend began drinking. He was heavily negatively sanctioned for DUI.

This has probably taught him a significant lesson. As for your laughing at him, that indicates disrespect. As a rule, males prefer respect even more than love. That he probably feels a) dragged into a party b) idiotic for getting drunk c) disrespected by you and d) having lost face, indicate your relationship is in jeopardy.

Your nightmares indicate your waking subconscious desires; your waking subconscious becomes your dreaming conscious. It would paper over the tension by sexually relieving him and you. That you have assumed the dominant role (police, enforcer of goodness), and pervert it by dragging him to sexuality, may reflect your two year age gap, which is more significant at 19 and 21.

You mention your dysfunctional family, and that your friend treated you with dignity and lovingkindness. His family structure may be more traditional, more reserved.

So if you feel like a "sick, perverted animal," that's your conscience speaking. If you're Irish-American, you're likely Christian/Catholic. Give a call 24/7 to the licensed counselor at 1-800-525-LOVE http://www.klove.com/ and tell your story. Expect to be helped.

"For Women Only," Shaunti Feldhahn, and

"Emotions," Marilyn C. Barrick, Ph.D., may be helpful.

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Dreams are the subconcious. You speak of this friend with a lot of heart but at the same time you sound angry at him for being perfect, maybe thats why you laughed, coz he finally got into trouble. That is a threat to you, the party girl you may be ashamed of yourself and he is what you want to be so seeing him get in trouble and it not be you is a kick for you.

The rape is just that what happened he was stripped bare by police and raped in a way of speaking. But you feel responsible so in your dreams your subconcious keeps reminding you that you are the bad guy, hes the good guy and you allowed him to be arrested and laughed, did not cry. Time to apologise to him and look at your issues being your lack of self respect. Then the dream will stop.

I'm going to use my best knowledge of psychology, sociology, and philosophy to answer your question.

8% of dreams that occur in teenagers such as yourself are sexual. Studies have shown that 70% of females will experience at least one recurring dream sometime in your life. This means you, going by your description.

Also, psychologists have proven that most dreams are negative in nature, most of them which involve some degree of anxiety. In your case, you have expressed an inappropriate (I don't mean "wrong" by inappropriate; I'm speaking in strictly psychological terms) behavior: most would have expected you to express shock or even remorse for "dragging [your friend] to a party". Yes, we can call this "paradoxical anxiety": somewhere in your mind, you were shocked but more so received some sexual or emotional stimulation from the incident.

As for the rape, every men and women will experience some sort of a fantasy. I myself had dreams of me killing my dad when I became extremely infuriated with him before I slept. Does that mean I'm a terrible person or a murderer? No. You are who you are; remember, your unconscious mind does not define who you are; it's what you do consciously.

So in conclusion, definitely do not act out this fantasy unless you and your best friend have already engaged in previous sexual activities. It would be not only awkward but again inappropriate to do so.

In short, fantasies do not make you crazy. It's acting out on them that makes you crazy (i.e. Ted "Unabomber" Kaczynski).

I think this can all be summed up into one word: guilt. This dream obviously means that you are dreading that fateful night and regretting your actions, and you just can't get over it. My suggestion would be to have an intervention of a sort with him. Sit him down on a nice comfy couch, get him a nice cup of tea and tell him about it calmly, and then tell him how you feel about it. I'm sure he'll understand, as long as you keep a serious head throughout the conversation and you don't screw around with frivolous banter.

Remember now that he is your friend and you saw his moment of weakness and you reacted in a improper way. The act of raping your friend means you violated his trust. Talk about it and tell him you are sorry about this and that you do care for him as a friend.

Don't trust your dream because most of times the dreams are not happens.

I think you feel guilty and you haven't forgive yourself yet so you want to hurt your self some how, and it is on the back of your mind so you have these dreams. I think you should talk to him and ask him to forgive you.