My 10 year old dog, Boomer died hours ago. My life is miserable. I lost a dog and lost the girl that I love?

This poem made sense to me when two much loved Dobermanns died within months of each other in 2007.

However heartbreaking it seems at the now, in time the golden memories of the years you shared with your dog will be a comfort.

Take one day at a time, the sadness will come and go in waves, in time the gap between the waves of sadness will lengthen & the acute sadness will pass.

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You can shed tears that he is gone

or you can smile because he has lived.

You can close your eyes and pray that he’ll come back

or you can open your eyes and see all he’s left.

Your heart can be empty because you can’t see him

or you can be full of the love you shared.

You can turn your back on tomorrow and live yesterday

or you can be happy for tomorrow because of yesterday

You can remember him and only that he’s gone

or you can cherish his memory and let it live on.

You can cry and close your mind, be empty and turn your

This probably seems stupid and artificial but,

You will move on.. Im promise.

Last year my brother passed away, at the same

time i was failing 5 classes.. My grandma was very very sick, and my dad lost his job. This is no lie. But as time moves along so will you, you may never forget about the dog or the girl, but you can't let these things keep you from not living your life.

Your entitled to a good life, we all are, so please make the best of it. and your not the only one to question god, I asked god why most of all he had to take my brother... and people kept telling me he had his reasons, and to this day I have yet to figure out what they were. But I do know that the people you love, Would not want you to be so miserable.

My advice to you is just try so hard, with an open mind, Try to move along (of course without forgetting about your past). It's the best thing for you to do right now.

I hate to say it but everything happens for a reason. Losing a pet is one of the hardest things I have ever had to go through. It takes time. Time doesnt make you forget what happened, but you learn to deal with it. The best thing you can do is remember the good times. What I did when I lost my dog was make a memory box. I put her collar, an empty bag of her food, her paperwork, a picture, and anything else I could find. I put it all in a shoe box in my closet. You dog will always be with you no matter what. Death sucks but its a part of life. Im sure your dog had a good life. It was just his time to go. I know this doesnt make it easier, but your not alone. Others have been through it too. It just takes time.

As for your girl, maybe it just wasnt meant to be. I was in a relationship with someone for 2 years. I thought he was the love of my life. I never imagined it would end. Than it did. I was a mess for months! But now I've been happily married for 4 years. Again, you just have to give it time. You may think youll never love again, or theres no one out there for you, or whatever. But there is. I consider my ex as practice. If I hadnt been with him for so long and gone through what I did, my relationship today may not have lasted. You live and you learn.

My advice to you is concentrate on yourself now. Do your own thing. Make yourself feel better. Because when it comes down to it, YOU are the most important thing in your life, not a girl, not even a dog.

Stay strong in there buddy :)

Everything happens for a reason.

I guarantee you that this was all meant to happen for A REASON.

And that reason is good.

What you should do is LEARN from those experiences you had.

The good memories: cherish them and be happy when you remember them.

The sad memories: LEAVE THEM BEHIND and MOVE ON.

I'm absolutely positive you will find a very cool dog that will be your new best friend, as well as a very sweet girl who will be your REAL love.

Meanwhile, i suggest you go out, hang around outside the house, go out with a friend etc..

Don't stay at home, because this will only make things worse.

This is life...

There are people who are born deaf, blind, can't walk....

there are people who are dying everyday in africa because of hunger, aids ....

You're lucky....At least you had the luxury to HAVE A DOG, TO HAVE A FRIEND, TO LOVE A GIRL ETC...

Move on and stay strong.

you'll be alright...

My prayers are with you...:)

Dear, with such a great dog...you don't have bad lucks. Birth and death are natural things.

From your email, it seems this is not just about losing a dog. Have you tried counselling?

You are not bad luck...what is bad luck is your loved one went to vacation somewhere and got killed because of Tsunami...what is bad luck is your 10 years old daughter got cancer and she only have three months to live...what is bad luck is your husband got killed by a drunk driver a day before Christmas...

Sometimes we cause our bad luck...as you said, you lost your job because you showed up late all the times. I really feel for you and I want to help. It may be harsh but you need to stop "self pity". There are many many people less fortunate than you. Go do some volunteering and you will know your life is actually not that bad. Re-focus yourself, change your attitudes, try appreciate life...eg, instead of saying I have bad luck so my dog died...try saying "I miss my dog but I am such a lucky guy to have such pure love for 10 years...and I will use what I learn to adopt a dog from shelter and extend this love.." No one can help you unless you change your attitudes on how to view things. Don't say I am bad luck so I lost my job...say something like "I deserve to lose my jobs because I was always late...I learn my lesson and I will dedicate to my next job and be passionate about it.

When you know how to love yourself, love will find you. This is not the time to find a girlfriend, this is time to reinvent yourself. Trust me, love finds me when I am no longer insecure and learn to love myself. My husband and I are together for 10 years now....

Have you talked to your parish priest about this? I am very sorry about your dog. People form very close bonds with their pets, they are family members. I can't offer advice on your love life. I think there is someone out there for everyone. If you just sit around being depressed you will not meet that person. My advise is to get counseling. Your priest could make suggestions. I think a new dog to lavish with your love. It will not replace your Boomer, but it will help heal your heart.

Oh hon, I am a mom of 4 24,23,21,& 17, and a dog trainer by trade. You need to realize that if God was going to bring us to smite us for our sin, we've all done enough to be long gone by now. I will tell you what I have told my kid: learn to be alone with yourself. Learn to find your own self respect, security, etc...When you learn to just be who God made you to be without all of the distractions you will look up and there she will be. Learn to find contentment with yourself...and the rest will fall into place.

About your loss. All of us be we dog or man have an accounted number of days to live. It has nothing to do with your sin...death is a natural but hard part of life. What I do is I write...I write almost like a Thankyou Letter to God, and it helps me just expel the pain. I remember from the first moment that the dog came into my life and I go from there. Even with aggressive dogs that I have to retrain, when it is time for them to go back to their families, there is a grieving. Don't get swallowed up in it, but release it in a healthy way...then go on. You can do it. You sound like a person who wants to succeed in life, and I believe you will. Stop searching for happiness in others, and embrace the happiness inside yourself. Develope who you are, take on the characteristics of who you want to be and change into that person. When you are secure with yourself, others will find that being around you and with you is an honor. Good luck in all you do. You will be in my prayers.

I'm sorry about your loss. I know it's rough now, but just continue to seek the Lord and He will comfort you. Yes, I will pray for you. May God bless you.

You think you are miserable now and that God is punishing you - just wait until you find "Miss Perfect" and get married - you have no idea of pure hell.

you'll be alright,,,find a cool dog, and a hott girl, and you'll be better