Is Self Esteem the only factor in wondering why I turn into a level 5 Clinger?

Well as I read this you really asked a few questions. One is being clingy a self esteem issue and the other does it drive men away. The first one is a little easier to answer than the second one, so this can be complicated. Ill start with the harder question first

Does being cling drive men away?

I think most guys appreciate a woman that is emotinally and physically avilable of they thike the woman. Sure there are some guys that just want the chase and being avialable will push them away, but those are the kind of guys you dont want anyway because you cant have a sustainable relationship with them!!

I think the majority of guys though would appreicate someone they are attracted to being emotionally and physcially avialable.

On the flip side though and depending on what you define as clingy. If you get frustrated with a guy not wanting to give you as much attention as you are giving him, you could be driving him away. A guy you like could honestly be crazy about you but have other aspects of his life, mother that is sick, child having problems, or a array of other issues that could seemingly keep him from being constantly engaged with you but he could like you equally as much. If you find yourself getting frustrated when you are not getting as much attention as you are spending thinking about him you may find your driving away guys that really like you.

If they sense you are getting frustrated with the attention disparity. They may feel that they can't give you the kind of attention you need because they have other things going on in their lives. They honestly want to make you part of their life, but if they sense they cant make you happy without sacrificing the other thing that are in their life that are important to them they may feel they need to let you go so you can find someone that can commit that kind of time to you.

So heres a question you didnt ask that I will answer for you anyway....how do you tell if your drivig them away or they lost interest?

As a a guy once you first start dating someone its not uncommon to want to spend hours and hours everyday if you can getting to know someone but often that level of interaction can be unsustainable in a healthy relationship. Factors like jobs, life, family can make it difficult to have that level of interaction.

So you have to look as someones actions in relation to the whole of your relationship as a gauge and not a particular day or even a couple of days. If your guy is wanting to talk to you on a regular basis and wanting to find time to spend with you , but occasionally has a couple of days where he cant call as much or see you because he has other things going on it isnt a indictor hes lost interest. If he hardly ever calls for a week and being evasive about spending time with you, and not wnting to talk openly about why he cant then he probably is losing interest. Something to keep in mind though, the reason he may be losing interest may have nothing to do with you being 'clingy', there could be other factor there. Its sometimes hard for people to be open and honest about their doubts and fears, but if you cna be mature about it and let them know that your lettting them go and for your own peace of mind you would liek to know why so you can be self aware of how other percieve you and possbily improve youself as a person if there is need and can they be truely honest, with some mature people they may tell you what you need to know

Also you can't be mad at your guy for not being the first one to call you if your calling him first everyday. omething ive encountered, and its not fair to get mad at a guy about never calling you if you dont give him the chance

and finally to the first part of your question. Yes it can be a self Esteem factor, insecurities or just learned behvior from role models or previous relationships that have trained you to be a 'clinger'. Depending on the severity of your clinginess it could be no probem at all and actually be a good thing for a mature grownup partner, if its a unhealthy level of clingyness though you could be sabatoging potentialy great relationships because of insecurities/ self esteem issues