Do you think i shall wait for my boyfriend I love or i must get married with someone else?

How important is your family?

My heart goes out to you, since you are going to have to make a very difficult choice. If I understand your situation correctly, you are going to be making a choice between what you see are bad outcomes. And, really and truly, I think the question you are going to have to answer is how important is your family to you.

If you refuse to marry the man your father has chosen for you, you will insult your father and you will bring, in your culture, shame to your family. While you may gain forgiveness in the future, and while your father may not kick you out of your house, there will be, for the next few years enormous tension between you and your parents if you do not go through with the arranged marriage.

Moreover, you are putting this arrangement against a mere promise. The promise may be true. But, it may be that your British friend will never come to get you. And, if he does come to your country, he will be a foreigner and your family may be able to prevent him from taking you. Understand that there is high risk on the other side of the equation, that the love you truly hope for may never be realized. If the love you hope for is not realized and you turn down the arranged marriage, then not only have you insulted your family and the groom's family, but you have done it for nothing.

Moreover, I think you know these things. You know what the consequences are if you turn down the arranged marriage. And, you know the penalty that you, your family and your father will have to pay if you do not go through with the arranged marriage. And, I think you understand this will be made worse if your British friend does not show up for you.

And, I do have great sympathy for you. I hate seeing women treated like slaves, told whom they can marry and whom they can not marry. But, there is nothing you and I can do to change those dynamics in your case. Whether or not I agree with arranged marriages is not the issue. And, whether or not it is fair to force you into an arranged marriage with a guy you don't want to marry is not the issue. What is theory and should happen is not the issue. The issue is what is happening now, in reality, to you today. And, whenever there is a bad choice, only the person making the choice can make the decision. The question though, is not whom you should marry, but how important your family is to you and is offending your family worth choosing the promise of your British friend.

If I were you , I'd find a good job and leave this abusive family. Sorry,but this is what I understood from the situation. Tell them that you love someone else. Yes tell them , if they say no, try to become independent and leave them. I'd never treat a daughter if I had one like an item sold or bought. My parents had the same story,and I suffered enough from them. I will never marry through anyone.

I'm not sure how it works in your culture, but if you're allowed to chose I say wait for the guy the you love. It would suck to be stuck with a guy you don't love for the rest of your life.

You should wait, Your attractions will not just grow for this new guy. Plus Arranged marriages typically last longer, and divorce is looked down upon. If you do not get out from under your parents now you will never get out.

Wait!!! Do not get yourself into something your heart does not want. Maybe you need to take initiative and go to britian, or wherever this dude is from!

wait for your boyfriend!!!

you should make your own desicion on who to marry,

and i think it is always best to marry for love.

If you have the choice to wait, i'd wait. x

wait for the one you love...

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i think you have to insist on the one you love and put it straight to them