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I need some general guy help?

I had over protective parents, they wouldn't let me date, do anything or go anywhere with guys, or even socialize with guys that weren't part of our home church of a few large families. Now I'm 18, going to college, and living away during the week out from under their protective "thumb" So I'm pretty stupid when it comes to guys.

If some random guy that you've never met before walks up and says "Hey, What's up?" What does that mean? What am I supposed to say?

A guy told me that his friend told him to ask if I had a boyfriend because his friend thought I was cute. But I've seen his friend a couple times since then and he's never said anything about it. What do you make of this?

A guy keeps saying he's distracted (by you) when he's around you?

A guy shows you a pic of his girlfriend and says shes freaking out cause she thinks we are "involved" and he is helping you with something and you see him alot?

Update:

The friend is so not shy.

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago
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    Wow. I'm so sorry you had to grow up like that. I'm a guy I have had female friends for my entire life. I would go insane if I couldn't hang out with them.

    Basically, you should just act normal with them. If it helps, you can even pretend they're girls to, to certain extent. The socialization shouldn't be any different. As for the guys that you are interested in, or those interested in you, act normal with them too, and don't be afraid to initiate something with them. They may or may not know more about how to socialize than you, but no matter how much experience they have, they will probably still think and feel much the same about these things as you do. They just may be better at expressing it because they have more practice.

    If you show confidence, don't let social situations intimidate you, and don't act weird to try to hide your lack of experience, you will do just fine.

    As for the specific situations you mentioned, I would say all three of those likely indicate a guy that is attracted to you. In the case of the first guy, whose friend asked if you had a boyfriend, but now won't say anything about it, that is pretty normal for some people. He's probably just a little timid about that stuff. Remember that you can always say something about it to him, too. as for the other two, those are bold moves. they will probably try something with you eventually. If your attracted to any of them, don't be afraid to show it, and act on it.

    Most of all, just have fun.

  • 1 decade ago

    When a random guy walks up to you and says hey what's up, you should just say "nothing much how about you?" He'll think that your confident and not over protective. Then you could introduce yourself and ask for his name.

    With the second question, it could mean two things. 1) either the friend really does want to know or 2) he was just to shy to admit that he was actually curious and wanted to know if you were already taken.

    If a guy keeps saying that you distract him then that probably means that he is interested in you. I recommend just acting normal.

    For the last scenario it either means that he is warning you or is actually kind of into you. If he is warning you (which is probably less likely) then just say "Well then she's getting excited over nothing." If he is into you just act cool.

  • 1 decade ago

    I come from a similar situation and I can be pretty stupid when it comes to guys, too, so you may want to take my answer with a grain of salt. If a random guy comes up to you and starts talking to you, he probably thinks you're attractive and wants to either get in your pants or get to know you better. It's up to you whether you want to react in a friendly way or maybe just respond quickly and carry on with whatever you were doing.

    Guys can be shy too, so your friend's friend is probably too timid to talk to you, especially if you are attractive and/or intelligent.

    If a guy is distracted by you, he is definitely attracted to you on some level. This could be purely superficial (and most likely is if he's around 18 as well), but he could be genuinely interested in you.

    I don't know about that guy showing you a pic of his girlfriend. That's kinda weird. Maybe he just wants some advice! :)

    It's up to you how you want to react. Just keep in mind that especially if you are attractive, guys will be all over you no matter what. Try to sort out those who are interested superficially from those who are genuinely interested. Personally, I find the attention can be nice, and I have to force myself to be a bit more level-headed about whose attention I accept and reinforce.

  • 1 decade ago

    A guy walks up and says, 'what's up', who cares. His question simple means, what's up. Don't worry about his approach at this time. If he wants a relationship, he will find stuff to say to you, like 'sweet things' to make your heart beat faster. Then again, if I get it correctly, he shows you a pic of his girl and says she freaks out? I don't like that. It sounds like he is saying, why not play the game if we bare the name?

    That's a wrong way to try getting involved with the 'new girl'. Just be careful, you are young and heartbreak is no easy push over. You are not stupid if you ask any question, you are stupid when you could but didn't ask and then end up in mess. Take care of you.

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    For me, let's just answer your question as nice as it could be, well as for me, when a guy said, " Hey, What's up?!" You can answer them " Hello ... or even just a smile to them letting them know that you appreciate their greet. Secondly, when a guy said that you are cute, to his another friend but when he sees you, he can't say anything, for me. A guy like that is quite a bit shy, he doesn't have any idea of what kind of reaction you could show when he will tells you that, and what if you don't like him, he is also afraid that he might get embrace by the crowd when your reaction turns negative. You know my dear, do't be in a hurry for love, let him do his way and don't think to much of what he should do and say behind you, if he really likes you, he'll do what he truly can.

  • its flirtin...my motha was ova protective like that 2 so i kinda kno where ur comin from but they wasent that bad lol... but just flirt back dont make it obviouse and dont just sit there and look into space cuz then they mite think ok shes weird lol so just have small talk. if a guy comes to u and say hey wuts up just be like nothin wuts up with u or somethin like that...idk im kinda ghetto so its kinda hard givin proper advice but i always smile all the time... like that way ppl like 2 be around u cuz u dont come off as being 2 serious or being a rude ***** so just relax dont talk 2 much but dont be 2 quiet. dont seem so naive and dont make ya self seem desperate for a dude or a relationship...well gud luck 2 u

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Just be yourself. Keep in control, don't do anything you're not comfortable with, but at the same time cut loose a little bit.

    You'll be fine.

  • 1 decade ago

    Girl, please don't be naive especially with upperclassmen. All they want to do is have sex and pass you along to all of their friends. And the guy that's distracted by you is the biggest "dog" of them all. That line is so lame! He's trying to make you believe that he intimidates you so that you won't see him coming when he tries to sleep with you. Wake up! Please stay single while you are in college. Date and hang out but please don't get turned out!

  • 1 decade ago

    i dont know what to say

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