age difference....does it really matter?

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i met this guy, he is everything that i ever wanted, the thing that scares me a little......i'm older. 19 years, yes he is legal we have so much in common, the way that we think about things , what we like and don't like, sexually and so on.
i'm starting to really fall hard for this guy he says that he's hoping that everything continues to keep getting better and goes well, but sometimes i get scared that the age difference will be a problem down the road.......................i've been hurt really bad in the past, haven't dated in a really long long time. honest replies please no cheap shots 
if it were the guy who was older no one would make to much of it

Lquinn · Answer

I would not think that the age diffrence should matter that much. Based on what you said, it cannot be more then 2 years. The only thing is that women do mature faster then men, although that starts leveling out between 25 to 30 years old. I would say enjoy the relationship, just don't rush marrage.

dancing_smurf · Answer

I was involved with a woman at least 10 years my senior it was quite obvious the age difference. Nothing progressed beyond than a friends with benefit situation mainly due to me. At least from my perspective I could not see her being retired, me still working, and the fact there was so much of an age difference we did not have much in common. 

My advice before it gets too serious talk to him about your feelings and see where it goes. Granted it is risky but is better than falling for him and then finding out he has not interest in you beyond a 'friend'.

AllieA · Answer

Age is transient.  If you are 19 and he is "legal" in my opinion there really isn't a significant age difference. I think you worry to much.  If you like the guy and he likes you, okay then... so what if you are a little older?  Many men find that very appealing.  Just remember age doesn't mean mature.  A guy that is 18 can be far more mature than a guy who is 26.

Anonymous · Answer

my youngest girl married a older man. we talked about it when he gets 60 she will be mid 30s. it didn't work. he got where he can't keep up with her sex drive. a divorce. being a woman older than the man. you might keep up. but he will look a lot younger than you later on. he might want a younger woman later on. i hope you all the luck.

OFWGKTA · Answer

huh well if he's 18 which is legal in my mind and you're 19 then your goood girl age aint nothing but a few digits and if you really like him as you say you wouldnt let sumthing like that get in your way you like him and yall have things in common dont let nothing interfair =]



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Kimiko · Answer

Age shouldn't matter if you really deep down are in love with them age is just a number it doesn't define who you are. Be happy

Anonymous · Answer

You're 19 years older.  I highly doubt y'all have a lot in common.  Maybe you and his parents have a lot in common.  I think it's pretty gross.

collegegirl24 · Answer

im 5 years older than my man...i think it all depends on connection and how you balance your energys...for example: he is mature for his age and i am immature so it kinda balances out...you have to have a ying and yang....good luck girl!!

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