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Anonymous asked in Family & RelationshipsSingles & Dating · 1 decade ago

What would you honestly do/feel if your Ex boyfriend/girlfriend did this to you?

I was really in love with this guy named mark i was dating for 2 years. He was the typical "bad boy" and i was the typical "good girl". He was a good guy at heart but i wasnt ready for the kind of relationship he wanted and i got stressed and said alot of things i regret to him and ended it.

After that i spent about 8 months single and not looking. I was pretty depressed. 8 months later this guy came into my life. He kept trying to get me to go out with him and eventually i agreed. He was the typical "good boy" and the TOTAL opposite of Mark. He was going to school to be a doctor, didnt drink/smoke, lived with his parents, he was as good as you can get. (We are both 19 btw) When we were dating even though he was very nice i couldnt stop thinking about mark. I got so frustrated with myself because i couldnt understand how i could love mark and not love a good guy like this guy I had alot of trust issues and he told me that he wasnt like other guys. When he started telling me he loved me and id be unsure of it he'd convince me and tell me i was the one and he was sure of that. He told me he'd NEVER break up with me unless i did something really wrong like cheat.

The only think i ever asked of him was to never say anything to me he didnt mean. After being with each other for a while i started feeling really lonely. He was a workaholic and a sportsaholic. He also loved to be with friends and never liked spending alone time with me he always wanted to be with other ppl. I always felt like i came last to everything.He also wasnt sexual. He'd rather watch sports or be with his friends. Another thing with him was it seemed like i was always for show. Like when we went out i felt like he just liked having me next to him and the only complements he only gave me were about my looks. From the outside he looked like this GREAT guy but really i felt really alone. He'd call me while playing video games. I never fell in love with him but i stayed with him because i felt guilty for not being able to love a guy who "loved" me so much. Everyone saw him as this great guy.He just put on a show.

We were together for 9 months. He broke up with me because of "school" and tells everyone that to make himself look good. He then has the nerve to tell me he still loves me.I cant stand this guy. I dont think its fair that im sitting here and i never loved him but im upset and him being the one who claimed to love me is fine. What do you honestly think about all this?

Thanks!

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  • 1 decade ago
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    Heehee sounds like your situation is the one my recent ex-boyfriend had. I'm his third girlfriend after No.1 who was apparently amazing and No.2 who wasn't. He thought of me as like no.1 but he couldn't love me.

    Anyway, since I don't want you to end up like him for your No.3, you should deal with your Mark-issues as directly as possible. If you can, get back in contact with him. If he's seeing someone, be as transparent as you can with her (don't try to keep your conversations with secret). If you're sorry for breaking up with him, say so. It may clear a lot of air for both of you.

    Second, go back and hardcore search for the reasons you and Mark ended. Why weren't you ready? Why were you stressed? How come you didn't talk about it? Come to some conclusion about why Mark wasn't the right guy for you, other than something like "it was all my fault and I was stupid." You will need this conclusion for real healing.

    Sorry about the second guy :(.

    I guess serious healing, changing, and moving around the furniture of your life is in order. Try doing new things and finding ways to be really, truly happy. Creativity, spirituality, hard work, friends and family--these are all more important than a relationship right now.

    Good luck!

  • 5 years ago

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  • 1 decade ago

    I honesty can't tell you what right and wrong but from the sound of it, you don't really like this supposedly "good guy" and i don't think you should lie about your feelings for him because it will only make things worse in the end.

    If you still like the first guy and are ready for the kind if relationship he wants, talk to him and work things out, it sounds like you miss him.

    if it doesn't feel right, just wait untill the right guy comes along.

    p.s i'm only 14 and never had a bf so this might not be much use to you, but i tried ;)

    good luck, I hope you work things out.

  • 5 years ago

    Want to know how to get your ex back? Change yourself. Don't worry about changing other people, worry about changing yourself. Go to https://tr.im/eFVPG

    Once you do that then you can start to worry about getting back together with your ex, other wise you will find that you are fighting about all the same things and getting no where. Do what it takes and I promise things will work out in your favor.

    The funny thing is I came to the realization that I had to change a little too late. After I was kicked out and after I was about to lose the only things that truly mattered to me - her love. A funny thing happens when we truly love someone and lose them. We do what ever it takes to get them back. For me I had to drop bad habits that had caused not only our relationship to sour but practically every other relationship I had had in the past. Not only with women, but with friends, co-workers, family, you name it.

    Which is why I say to you as my ex at the time said to me, the only thing you can do is change yourself. Work on yourself and improve on the person that you already are. Drop the negative things in your life that don't belong there and you will see all of your relationships start to take off to new heights.

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  • Anonymous
    7 years ago

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    Many girls break up with their significant others, is because they need time to figure things out. Don't take it personally, if you want her back, you have to show her you can help her. If you love her then you'll let her go, that's it. Not everybody who you date in high school you end up staying with, the chances are extremely unlikely. So if she doesn't want to, then you need to let her go.

  • 1 decade ago

    Hes a jerk, but forget about it. Find someone else. Move on.

    You're young, and should be out having fun instead of thinking some fake guy who didn't have time for you.

  • 1 decade ago

    tell him what your telling us. you never loved him in the beginning and you didnt want to break his heart so you just went with the flow. The fault was yours at first cause you should never be with someone you don't like. i tihnk your just rushing things and he is a ***... he sounds alright but i think he's a showoff... oh well move on and tell him you never liked him or whatsoever. just spit the truth, it feels better and althought you might get a bad look atleast you know your a good peson inside at heart

  • 1 decade ago

    yeah this is really long i only read lke the 1st paragraph but ill try to help anyways. if you miss him ALOT thn give it another try i would love it if ex wanted me back i would take him back in a sec even tho hes the bad boy type and the same as your ex. but us girls are dumb sumtimes when were inlove

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Honestly, I make myself busy studying hard to build a bright future for myself, which is my responsibility toward myself, and forget him.

    such events are not as important to keep them analysing in mind. your mind is more precious, so dont make it tired because of him.

    good luck

  • honestly, i think just tell him that you try to love him back but it doesnt work. and be sorry for him for sure he would understand u.because its noy easy to get along with him with out a true love.. you only cheated your self..so just tell him the truth no matter what happens.im sure there is one girl that can love him back and deserve him to love,, and i think its not you...

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