How do I get him to leave me alone?

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I broke up with my ex after 2 years almost 3 years ago. Things have been ok untilp recently with occasional contact by text or msn, but recently he has started asking me for sex. I am in a relationship with the man of my dreams and he is in a relationship to. I have no interest in him. He keeps sending me messages about how he wants to tie me up and use me and lots more graphic ones (mainly s&m or watersports - ergh). Also tells me about the girls he has cheated on his girlfriend with including 1 married woman, again in graphic detail. How do I get him to leave me alone? I've asked him nicely to stop (nicely and forcefully) but he wont delete my number. I've blocked him on msn. Serious advice only please.

Update:

I'm with orange - I've asked them to block his number and they can't/won't and said my only option is to change my number.

Update 2:

Sorry to edit again. I'm concerned about going to the police as I already have a TRO against an ex colleague as he was threatening myself and my family, and I'm worried they'll think I'm a loony getting 2!

Cappo359 · Accepted Answer

Seriously, if you haven't been saving these texts and/or e-mails, and your responses, start doing so now; once you have 3 or 4 of each, go right down to your local police station and file a harassment complaint.  The police should be able to help you get a Temporary Restraining Order (TRO) if needed, but just the police having a little talk with your ex may solve the problem.

Don't hesitate to go for the TRO, though.  You don't need a lawyer, the police will help.  Since this is a recent change in his behaviour towards you, he may be on drugs or mentally ill and off his meds, but you need to protect yourself before it escalates further.

Good luck!

abcomputered · Answer

You have to be firm(strong raised voice) and tell him that you have no interest in him and that you can have no further contact with him. Use call blocking to to keep him from calling and even change your number. He sounds obsessive and like he needs help, but that's not your problem so don't make your self feel guilty. If he persist, threaten to contact the police, but don't give in to this game he is trying to play by using memories from the past to get sexual gratification in the future.

Anonymous · Answer

This man does not sound like he is playing with a full deck. If I were you, I would threaten to tell his currently girlfriend, and see if that would have any effect on his behavior. If it does not, then tell him that you will put a restraining order out on him. Hopefully the first will work. But you need to let him know that you mean business. Check out my group http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Relationships_and_other_stuff/

RedRabbit · Answer

Tell him not to contact you again and that if he does, you will go to the police. Block his number.

arroya · Answer

i'm getting so emotional, every time i think of of GCG. And by skill of emotional, I mean i does not dare defile his holy call. I concern being decrease, and the MaryJo Buttafucco seem only does not artwork for me!

Anonymous · Answer

tell him to stop on more time if not you are going to call cops and block his phone number or change it what a jerk

Anonymous · Answer

OMGSH! thats crazy! you have to stop talking to him period. no matter how much he keeps talking to you. you could also go to teh phone company store and tell them to block that number. but dude thats just wackk that he talks to you about tying you up and stuff. i wanna smack this guy.

DunDee · Answer

100% ignore him.. do not give a single chance to talk to you.find a reason to escape when every time he try get you... finally if you can't escape.. talk to him loudly say that you hate him....

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