help me about child support?

You have valid concerns and when you get answers from people saying "stay out of it"...don't listen to them! They are the same people who will try reem him for not seeing him.

Anyway- have your husband list you as POA (Power of Attorney) and you can act on his behalf and speak with domestic relations to get this cleared up. My brother in law in in Afghanistan right now and has his fiance listed as POA and she has changed his custody and visitation agreement since he's been over there.

Well first of all if there is child support ordered then there should be visitation ordered. He can take the legal document and go get his son for his visitation. Did he not pay or something? Is that why they aren't allowing him to see his son? He should have already hired an attorney and his attorney should be handling everything. My ex was in the military and he went over seas many times and his money was never put in an off shore account. NEVER! His child support payments are taken out of his military paycheck every month.

If your husband were really interested in seeing his child HE would've done something about it. It may be really hard to face, because you think he's so great and heroic, but he's not much different from your dad. Yes, you should LET him pay his child support and stay out of it. Maybe someday he'll decide to make his child a priority, now is not that time. There are two sides to the story and you only know one of them. You aren't making a big deal out of nothing, it's tragic for the child. But you're making a bigger deal out of it than his own father is.

this is a huge deal and you should be the one to make something of it. you love your husband and you see him in his most intamate times when his emotions take over and he is sad that he doesnt see his son. i know that if i was in this situation i would do everything that i could as well for my husband. he should continue to pay child support regardless, that is his duty as a dad and if i were him i would fight fight fight to see his son. i would also suggest getting an attny since you are not going to get any where with the mom. good luck i hope that you guys have a merry christmas.

WOW. He can take her back to court to get his visitation rights going as if he pays support then he has visitation rights and his ex cant stop it. Also her mom has no sayso in this matter at all. He just needs to use the legal system to his advantage here and it will work for him. Good luck and happy Holidays. Also thank him for his service to our country.

Power-of-Attorney!!! Your husband can give you POA of his rights to the child; and while he is gone, YOU can see the boy, take pics and everything to send to the father. YOU can enforce them to allow phone calls to his son. Does he have proof that this is his son? Also, your husband while in the States needs to put foot to a$$ and contact his legal department on post. They have options. He can also seek a personal attorney (cost $) and take his rights. It depends on how bad he wants it. My husband and I did this and now his son stays with us.....a very bad mom on that side

It doesn't matter if the child knows you exist or not.

Make sure the support is paid on time.

What does the divorce papers say about visitation? How old is the child? Have your husband sue for alienation of affection (you stay out of it).

Make sure your husband send presents for b'days and holidays (minus your name).

Seek an attorney, this is what we get paid to do.

You are not making a big deal about nothing, and from these facts, you had a better mother than your husband's child does.

And it will blow up in her face someday.

your husband needs to hire an attorney and sue for visitation. Period.

Get it straightened out in the courts - once it's in black and white there will be no more shenanigans!